does not do it for many requests.   I offered to pay an extra $100 for the simple request of a bathtub full of Jello and a live chicken and they failed to deliver.  

I have given everything from VS robes, stockings, pantyhose, sexy heels to comfortable flats over the years to my gals.
Never once have I ever expected to EVER take them back or get a discounted or etc....  

If anything, any of those things usually takes the place and is understood as a tip (at least to my gals)

Once, a now-retired gal told me that someone brought her Louboutins and she thought that he was going to be a nice addition to her regulars; but at the end of the appt, he actually boxed them back up and took them when he left.  She was too stunned to even say anything.  That makes you wonder about some mongers and what is going on in their skulls.

I am a sucker for a pretty face, so I will answer.

Some context, I usually leave it up to the lady to choose wardrobe.  Frankly, we both get naked quickly so it is not a biggie.  However I can honestly say those that put an effort into wardrobe impress the most.

My feeling is, whatever you have is fine by me.  I do like corsets and thigh highs, but only if the lady owns them.  I do not think it is fair to ask her to go to the trouble of purchasing a set just for me.    

If I were willing to buy or pay for a set, that decision would be predicated on the cost of the hour or session.  Example, a $300-$400 per hour lady I would pay, or give her a tip which would cover the cost and then sum.  

Anything above $600 per hour the lady should cover the cost, or if I must pay, no tip. IMHO.

Going back to my comment on context, I never put myself in the situation to begin with.

If i desire a specific type of wardrobe I’d ask if they had it and possibly consider providing $ to help get it. I’ve only once brought a specific style of body suit and showed it to her before arriving. But pretty much I’m happy with what ever they wear that makes them feel sexy.

Cya
Slip

I have only made one wardrobe request over the years and it was with a lady I saw for over a year pretty regularly and it was a simple one - I wanted her to wear a white wife beater with no bra lol.  

 
Other than that, I don't care too much for what a lady wears since it's coming off soon after meeting and I trust ladies to use their judgment and experience in deciding what to wear. I've never been disappointed.  

 
One lady I've seen quite often in the Tysons area always looks great and has an amazing body. I did ask her to not wear any makeup one time and while she hesitated to agree she finally did. She looks great with no makeup and now she does this for me every time I see her. That's really only the second appearance request I've ever made.

I usually supply the "get up" for her to change into. I know what I like as I'm very particular in what I want her to wear for me. She comes in, we toast, she changes and voila...a feast for my eyes.

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When I first started escorting I would get numerous requests...

Have my hair in braids
Where Christian Louboutins
Honey Birdette lingerie with stocking & garter belt
Book the Ritz-Carlton in LA
Nails painted all white

You would actually be surprised how many special requests one receives without offering to pay extra. Seems odd that one would expect me to pay for my hair and nails to be in a specific style or polish color that would take me hours to accommodate. I'm not investing an extra $300-1k for an hour date. I think some of you are unrealistic.

A simple request is understandable but I think most assume we own these luxury items already.  

Meet at "The Garden" "Crilla's" "Lions Den" etc it's fun to start teasing, playing there from vices, one or both of us will use and enjoy or Attire for which we must try on and get the OK once on. Whether playing role of Mistress, gf or strangers meeting for casual encounter the build up to bcd is exciting to me at least.

Xo
Ariel Summers

Love braless wife beater shirts.

Is that she honestly says whether or not she can accommodate.  It would bother me if she asked me to pay for something she didn't own.  
I'd rather,  A. have a choice, and B.  not be disappointed in a poor substitute.

I've had ATF's who as time went on, seem to take me for granted as all-time least appreciated. So they stopped dressing up, even when I asked in email or such if they could dress up again when we meet. And they don't, or are unprepared , wear pajamas, unkempt hair, and smoke pot in front of me on the couch. One time with another lady , not greeting me at the door, but just in t-shirt in her room lighting candles. I guess an issue is that on multiple visits, often the lady gets tired of me probably, and stops dressing up well like the first times visits. Then it gets uncomfortable to mention about it or ask for a good dressup for the next visit, and then ignored about it. Then maybe time to move on, because the 'gfe' or respect of me as a client isn't really there anymore.  

I'd never really requested dress up. I had given gifts. I also asked for an atf's underwear once years ago. One time I asked for photo pics, and she let me take pics of her past glam or model shoots. so that was nice. I guess it was expensive. Because one time I had to cancel, but I sent the full amount. But I never got mention of some of it being used for discount for the next visit.

I'd think that's a good way to go about it. Ask if the provider can readily provide the request and if they say they don't have the request, then consider helping to purchase the items, or leaving it be.

She ask a legitimate  question. Some guys  have all kind of  dress requests, including  some weird ones too. Anyway, my answers is that  ladies in this business should  possibly  have a wide variety  wardrobe. Nonetheless  , this might still  not be enough  to cover  all the possibilities of clients  imagination, plus it cost money to have a huge wardrobe .  
Some guys are generous and will pay for a special outfit and even let her keep it ,other will not even want to  pay for it or chip-in.
So to summarize the issues ,a deal has to be made between both parties.  
A  provider with  a high enough rate however ,probably won't ask  a client to chip in, but at the same time ,having a 'cheap ass ' client ask for special request is a total  waste of time  joke as well.

I tend to keep my requests simple, but even so I always tell the lady that I’d like to see her in X “if she already has it”. Usually that is the case with heels, stockings, thongs, etc.; often I ask for something the lady is wearing in one of her photos.  On occasion I’ve offered to pay for a new wardrobe item, but if it is likely to cost more than 100, I’ll tell the lady to skip it.

I have also paid a lady to obtain a new toy I wanted her to use with another lady. I realize not every lady has a doubleheader or a strapon in her utility belt.  : )

Of course, it doesn’t always work as planned. I once asked a lady to wear something she was wearing in one of her photos AND that I’d seen her in before. She demanded an extra 100 for the “special wardrobe request”. I took a pass and haven’t seen her since.

Another time I asked two ladies to wear dark Wayfarer type sunglasses; I was inspired by an Andrew Blake video. Looked cool while they were tapping each other with a strapon, but it was impossible for them to DFK or DATY while wearing them.  LOL. Live and learn.

I generally hobby in the 300-500 range.  So, I'll always ask the provider first whether they are able to accommodate my request.  

 
Usually, if the request is standard lingerie (lace bra, thong, thigh highs, heels, etc.), they will agree.  But, if its a more specific request and they tell me that they don't have it, I will pay for it.

 
I'll either find what I want on Amazon, then send a link and a gift card to cover the cost, tax, shipping and a little extra.

 
Or, I'll buy it myself ahead of time and bring it with as a gift.

 
Finally - When emotionally intelligent persons disagree with something, they state their position, offer their reasons, provide their evidence and are able to discuss the point with an open mind, without getting distracted or without resorting to name-calling and personal attacks.

It's less about the question, and more about the fact that she's been in this business for longer than most of us, and already knows the answer to her question. She isn't posting this "question" because she's curious, she's doing it to drum up business and there are specific forums for that. It's no different than when she, AND her sister, AND their joint account all of a sudden start posting in the local boards for cities they plan to visit.  

They could (and do) post an ad for that city, but they also suddenly become interested in participating in the local board with comments that are only meant to advertise. Posts like: "Anyone know a good restaurant in XYZ city?" Ummmmm...have you heard of Google? That's a threAD, plan and simple, and a way to skirt the rules of the forum. Sadly, the simps come out and offer advice on things like restaurants, etc.  

They do this all the time, most recently on the DC board. It's ironic because to hear them tell it they're exclusive, have a line waiting to be blessed with their company, and are super low volume. Yet, they're still resorting to archaic tactics for for advertising.  

I would be all for any provider participating in local boards in an effort to socialize, keep the board active, have fun, etc. But they don't care about the local boards, or the participants of said boards, or board activity, or the community, etc. They care about drumming up business and they disguise that business development as trying to help the community. This is clear as after a visit to a city, their interest in participating in that cities local board stops completely.  

In this case, they were simply called out for the threAD behavior. That's all.  

So you call this unfair business  practice. The sex work industry  has no industry  standards that I know of. I don't  think there  is any. This business like many other is cut- throat capitalistic in nature   ,with no regard for ethics because  capitalism originate out of greed and exploitation.

I also think that caveat venditor also applies.

I won't go down the road of arguing capitalism with you, it's pointless. I will say though, that your argument about this being an industry with "no industry standards" might be met with pushback. Pushback by the many providers who claim that deposits, cancellation fees, and personal information for screening are in fact "industry standard."  

 
Further, I never said anything about this being an "unfair business practice" . While this business may lack standards, (or according to you, have no standards whatsoever) this forum does not. The rules are pretty clear about where an ad can be posted. This sort of post, as pointed out by Curly, straddles the line. While not technically an ad, it's an ad.  

In my ADs I state that I only do certain things and I state what they are. I also state that I am a casual dresser (So, that I do not draw attention to myself). And that's that !!   If the Hobbyists want to haggle the prices, then they can't request/demand anything from/for me.

Websites  host have their rules yes, but there is no rules and  standards that providers  have to adhere  by in the sex industry.  Women are  free to do their own thing. Some providers ask for deposit some don't ,some offer certain services as an upcharge, others don't, some women offer discounts  some don't  etc....
Yes you're accusing her of unfair business  practice according to the TER rules you mentioned. If she finds a way to market herself around the TER rules in a  way that does not directly  imply intent, I don't think TER will have a problem- it's  just smart marketing.
Again ..and you dont have to go down this road,but we live in a capitalistic society and people are going to find ways to market themselves depite rules and regulations and without  it being obvious.  
If I am not a pimp ,I would not worry about  what cities she targets or visits.
Most time ladies travel to certain places depending on the interest she gets.

All am saying is don't be so ridged  on the ladies ,it not a big deal.
Don't you want other ladies to visit near you.
Who are you by the way - you have  done no reviews here.

since I don't think Curly has started a thread of his own in years. Better a threAD than a silent board. ANY life on this board is a good thing, and companion interaction is a great thing!

 
As for special requests - I've never made one. Maybe I will one day; if so, I have no issue fronting the bill for her to pick up an item she doesn't already own. I'm pretty sure I'd have no use of my own for women's underwear or Louboutins, so I wouldn't want them back.