Re: The "would you mind if your SO......." thread

He must :"not ignore my sexual needs"

At the end of the work week, I certainly do not feel like  
working more at home.

As a hobbyist, honestly once or twice a week with a provider is fun.
I do not feel it would be more enjoyable over that.  

Do providers go home at the end of the day and still have sexual needs;
or is it more of an obligation to the love of your life at home?

Could hobbyist do this everyday, and still go home to their SO for more sexual needs?

Your thoughts if any

and women also have different appetites. I have dated "low volume" hookers who were always "too tired" for sex, OTOH I dated one rather "high volume" agency girl who ALWAYS had plenty of gas in the tank for me. and was always very enthusiastic to jump my bones each night.

at home and then find some strange later in the day.

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But if I could, I usually have 3 or 4 loads a day possibility.  So sure, if my SO decided she would accept my advances, I'd do her willingly, or at the very least eat her box.  In fact, in the very rare occasion that I see a provider on the same day my SO has been in the mood, its been wonderful. Morning sex and night sex!  Awesome!

She doesn't gets to see a photo to make sure you are her idea of a stud before you meet. You do. It is her job to make sure you leave happy even if she doesn't get hers. Most clients aren't going to worry about her first. She is to try to be your dream, not you hers. Given your paying it is as it should be. You get your fantasy and she gets paid damn well. That doesn't mean she is getting her fantasy or real companionship. She may may or may not getting her "O' but there is more to making love than that. When a lady is with a client she is on and her needs comes third behind your wants, and her reputation. It is a job.

Now when she is with her man it is different. Her needs and wants are as important as her SO's. The SO offers things a client don't in the bedroom: genuine intimacy and love. She can be herself, even the ugly parts of her. She doesn't have to be perfect as possible all the time. She choice her SO and he does something for her not only sexually but emotionally, and intellectually as well. She doesn't have to be "on" and is free to be her.

I can't speak for the women in this game, except my wife. She still has sexual needs. She has more than once out of a sleep to make real love with her after getting home from work at the brothel. She misses my touch. I am not the greatest of lovers by any imagination but I offer more than just a "O". I offer real acceptance, real love, real concern with my touch. That makes it different. With me she gets more than just sex. She gets a man who sees the ugly and loves her anyway. A man who she knows will stand by her. Basically with me it isn't work it is love.  

I am taking a break right now, but I never felt the desire to do this much more than a few times a month. I definitely feel the need to bed my wife more than that. I couldn't see hobbying more than a few times a week, but with my wife it is different. It is a bad week if we only do it a few time a week. I love pleasing her. If I get her off it makes my day, the lady I am paying, not so much. She isn't my woman and I am not her man. It is different.

It varies. Based upon the relationship, how much I'm working, and a lot else.

I got into a relationship early in my career, with a former client. It was never a serious relationship, and we were not in love with each other. I was pretty high-volume at the time, and had some really arduous days and bad experiences. When I saw him afterward (or on days I didn't work), honestly, it just felt like more of the same. It felt like I was working for free. But, the relationship was not about love. He was using me for free sex, and I needed his companionship, at the time.  

A few years later, when I was lower-volume and had more of an intimate relationship, I desired sex with my BF, and enjoyed it much more. Partly, because my v***a was not torn up, and I hadn't endured butt-poking, nipple-twisting assholes for hours each day (or, sometimes, hours at night into the early morning). But mostly, because he provided things other than sex. He provided touch, tenderness, understanding. Friendship, love. (Plus, he never hurt me. I could always tell him what was good and not good)

There were a few times it felt like an obligation with guy #2, but that was when I was starting to become unhappy with the relationship, and fell out of love with him. Even without love (or being in love), though, I still just enjoyed sex with someone I cared about, and with whom I felt cared about... and with whom I could truly be intimate.