Its strange I know, but after hobbying a year or so, I'm still not getting over the paying for company aspect during an appointment.

No Woman is going to be with a Guy that doesn't have Money. Plain and Simple. Be it Providers or Civie Women, either one will cost Money to be with them. Us Guys will always have to pay Women to be with us in some capacity. You'll get used to it. Just give it time.

See a gal for an hour (or two or more) of sex...have fun.

You are paying higher (GFE) rates to get a better experience.  Would you rather see girls who don't shower between appointments, smell of cigarettes and old perfume, don't kiss, won't touch you, perform a BJ that's mostly hand for a few seconds before climbing on for two minutes of sex and asking you every minute if you are "close" while fake moaning  "oooh yeah baby, cum for me"

You might have to do some mental work getting into the fantasy aspect. Or choose non GFE providers who are good for the  "thar she blows", quick clean up and less girlfriendy chit chat etc.  

Like normal people.

it's going to be different for inexperienced guys, experienced guys, awkward guys, confident guys, married guys, single guys, lonely guys, lustful guys, and of course, assholes.  Of course, we're all a combination of many things. The more I do this (1.5 years in) the more I learn how to process this.  I want some basic level of connection when I meet with a lady.  If that's not there, then the experience is lacking.  Also, I honestly find people interesting, so I do enjoy the conversations - and I've had the pleasure of meeting some very open and friendly ladies so the conversations really have added to my pleasure.  If you are a normal decent guy, a lot of ladies will at least somewhat enjoy talking to you too.  When you just start doing this, every experience is so magnified.  It's sensual overload, a whirlwind one or two hour experience.  The more I do it, the more mellow I get with the whole thing - yes, enjoying the sex, but also just kinda going with the flow and enjoying the presence of whatever unique lady I'm with and whatever it is that she brings to the table - sexually, humor-wise, personality, intelligence.  The only real turn off is when she is not "present" - as it's more fun to be with a real person than a glorified blow-up doll.

I do pay for sex however. if there happens to be some "time and companionship" that goes along with it, so be it, but that's not what I am paying for. I can get all the companionship I want  for free, OTOH  I can't fuck a different hottie, 30 years younger than me, every single night without paying for it.

When you put it in perspective, it becomes much more emotionally palatable.

no strings attached afterward - no calls or texts or lovers drama

Seriously, there are some dizzy but really nice flower children types in this biz that are tons of fun. I see this one girl regularly and she is the bomb.  

So, I'm wondering, where does being in the presence of a beautiful and available woman end and sex begin? Which side does a kiss count for? Is that considered sex, or just companionship? Or mutual caressing? Or sharing a drink or a piece of fruit? Or just feeling the press of her presence? That has to be outside the strict sex side?  

Pay a hooker to shut-up & leave!"

not true!!

I don't do P4P because I can't get laid otherwise -  I have no problems with that at all really -  

I have found for me to get over it is:

once the deed is done and paid for there are no further obligations -  and you go your separate ways unless you (the client) decides to initiate contact again....

I thought maybe the National Security Agency was monitoring providers and hobbyists.

My advice: then DONT PAY TO PLAY!!! ......

you're going to a theme park. You know when you go to the theme park that the characters you encounter aren't really giant mice or whatever. But you're willing to suspend disbelief for the time you're there to enjoy them anyway. You also wouldn't dream of driving one of the rides out of the park. They're amazing rides while you're there, but not so practical in the real world. But you pay top dollar because the experiences you have at the park are amazing- all of them! Then when you leave, you leave. You can always go back to the park to experience it all again, but the park is the park, and unless you're intellectually challenged, you wouldn't imagine it any other way. Keep that in mind and you can enjoy all kinds of experiences fully and with abandon.

If you want gfe and more of a date chatting is involved if u just want sex then use k girl since none of them speak any english or better get a streetwalker that way is even quicker. Lol

anal-phobic are we?

why should I care? I like a good rimming - and she's going to wind up with my tongue up her ass at some point anyway.....

any other sales/service job.

I am a woman. My SO (of a few years) doesn't have any money. He makes less then $9,000a yr after taxes. Doesn't stop me from loving him and wanting to keep him around.
I don't believe that money is everything. It's just a nice luxury everyone can't have.