Was asked an awkward question recently by a provider i have seen a handful of times over the years. She asked me why don't I see her more often. I usually see her once in a while when i crave her but it usually takes a while before I want to see her again and i like meeting new providers the rest of the year. Last time I saw her she popped the question: why don't I see her more regularly? I didn't know what to say. Didn't want to tell her because she would be too expensive for me to see her once a month and i know she won't give discounts.  

How have you guys handled this?

I lie.

And it was a huge turn off so I just stopped seeing her and moved on. I had been pretty loyal to her too, saw her about 8 times in a year, half of those were multiple hour appointments, gave her gifts which she always seemed to appreciate and although I never asked for it, I thought I might be rewarded with some kind of special at some point. Not a chance. In fact, the last 2 times I saw her, she literally became a clock watcher: "You've got 5 minutes." After that, when she expressed disappointment that I hadn't booked her lately, I was done.

Some are just playful joking and I do get that from time to time. But if hers was a serious inquiry, that is an etiquette breach not really deserving of an answer, but not wanting to hurt her, a white lie of "lack of funds" should suffice. If it doesn't, I would look elsewhere.

..Which is why we don't ask.  

It really is better to simply enjoy the time for what it is; much simpler that way. When engagements are approached in this way, its always such a delight to see someone return to see you.

Of course, companions are still human and enjoy some clients more than others. There ARE many ways we can let you know that we enjoy you as a client and would like to see you more often -- but it's often not as direct and very low pressure. So, if it doesnt happen, we are okay with it.

That said - there isn't anything wrong with simply saying that you see her only as much as you can afford. Most companions would not take offense to that (we know the deal). However, if  
you actually ARE interested in seeing her more often, see whether she has advertised monthly arrangements for regular suitors on her website; that could be your in. If she mentions anywhere on her website she entertains monthly or a series of dates for a fixed price,  that could open the discussion for you.  

*edited: I hate typos

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I was asked a question I'd rather not answer.

 
He said to respond:   Why do you want to know?

 
That usually puts and end to the discussion.

That she's not burning up your phone with text messages asking, "why don't you see me more? I miss you!"

Things could be much worse. Be thankful.

You might answer her playfully by saying, " If I saw you more then you would never miss me, or absence makes the heart grow fonder."

..I see you as often as I can. babe..

When someone says "often" you leave it at that.. No need to get into the numbers

It's something I'd say in jest,with a smile and a winkle in my eye....they'll usually get the drift.You're thinking what I'm saying, you just need to present it in a jovial but in a way so she gets "it".
Buy they usually know why

Sounds like you were pretty cool to her!

When she asked about not booking, just tell her 'cause you only have 5 minutes!

Hopefully,  that would straighten her out, but still move on!

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Always found it tacky to talk about money in these settings.

Also from my experience providers don't want to hear about "broke men's" excuses. So saying "i can't see you because it's too much money" is not something I would want to say on a date. I'd rather not talk about money altogether.

Just say I'd love to see you more, but my schedule doesn't allow for it. Then she'll ask well, what does work for your schedule. Then you respond its just hectic, but I love seeing you when I can!

 
Done.

a big guilt trip to me. That type of question should be accompanied by a discounted rate offer for more frequent dates if that’s what she so desires. If not, then don’t ask that question because it’s really none of her business. She should be happy with the frequency that one does see her because it could always drop to zero in a heartbeat.

If they ask that or whether you'll see them again, give a vague hopeful answer. I wouldn't explain circumstances... such as wanting variety.

honestly, I will lie about anything if I feel like it. Years ago, someone on a bus asked me if I watched a football game. I said no just cause I didn't feel like talking, even though I had  

hell, 2 weeks ago, I was humming a song and my mom asked me what I was humming. Lied about it just so I wouldn't have to talk about it.

Unless she is starting a loyalty program or willing to offer you a discount on your next visit, why is she asking?

Nothing like this has ever happened to me, but I did have 2 separate out of town providers, that I'd seen before, hit me up out of nowhere twice to try to get me to book with them again. I declined both times, and I guess they got the hint and stopped reaching out to me. Both of them are on my Do Not See list for other reasons.  

honestly, if I was asked that question, doubtful since most of the people I see are touring ladies, I would probably just say I don't have the time, or some other excuse along those lines.