Yes indeed there is no full proof method besides Abstinence.

You can lower your risks by:

Safer Sexual Practices
Reduce Partner Count
Getting Tested Regularly  
Abstain During Outbreaks
Daily Suppressive Therapy
Limit Contact

You posted a wonderful thread. You stated several fun facts. You can still contract without visible symptoms. Regardless if your participating in this hobby you are at risk.

your choices are
(1) sex with yourself  
(2) sex with a robot/doll
(3) sex with a monogamous partner

For those who are thinking about an Escort Agency or are brought to one by an escort you are trying to see  
I got caught up with an agency and they are all the same
Here’s how they scam .. ingenious  
First you find out the escort you want to see  has an agent/agencies and she can’t be seen until you pay a fee to the agency . Once paid they tell you there are additional fees for police, for insurance , a clearance fee and so on .They tell you  
all fees will be refunded once you see the escort.  The fees  may not be all at once but as the scam goes on . Maybe after the first fee or so you have an appointment with the escort . But before then  you have to pay the escort money for any number of things . You pay but she stands you up with some made up excuse. You soon find out after this happening a  few times that the whole scam is that you will never see the escort while continuing to pay the agency fees . Since you’ll never see the escort you never get the refund if all this fees . By the time you figure it out it’s a scam you have paid several big bucks .  
This is the way the agencies work .

The fact that risk exists does not mean it is “quite high.”

I use female condoms, which cover more surface area than male condoms. And I have - knock on wood - continued to test negative for HSV1 and 2.

But if you’re not comfortable with the possibility, you should limit your activities accordingly - maybe try FBSM.

you're asking if you should jump off a tall building.
Take the leap or stay on the ground!