y question refers to a situation where a John requests a 3some with his provider and a "100% civie" friend of his.

The provider is most likely going to want to talk to your friend to validate she's OK with this.  Not saying that every provider is going to take this step, but you should be prepared for the request.

All parties involved should be aware of the arrangement. If your FWB had any qualms about seen a professional, then you may lose her if she finds out that you hid something from her, on the other hand she may feel flattered that you are willing to spend money to satisfy her desires, and the ultimate benefit would be if she is willing to split the cost. Who knows, you may end up with a long term hobbying partner,and that would be a sweet deal!

Sex worker going to make hobbyist happy and get paid.

Why not let your friend with benefits pick a friend of hers? That's what I'm doing. If she is a sexual freak you can be sure she has friends who are game for this and that saves you money. Why pay a pro when you don't have to?

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 My question refers to a situation where a John requests a 3some with his provider and a "100% civie" friend of his.  
   
 Like let's assume that I have a lady "friend with benefits," and she wants to do a 3some real bad. Totally heterosexual but also digs girls and has been with them before. But she mostly fucks dudes. And wants real bad to check 3some off her list.  
   
 Now let's assume I contact the provider to get her availability.  
   
 Then I contact the "friend" again and I give her a date that we can play with my "other bisexual friend." She is totally game for it; totally stoked for it in fact. It's a match!! We have our 3some all set to go.  
   
 Finally the question: Does the civie friend need to know that the provider is a professional?  Is that something that just absolutely has to be disclosed? Right now, she's perfectly fine with whomever I want to join, so long as she's pretty and hot. She trusts my judgement and knows the kind of girls I like to fuck. She never gave any sort of explicit directive that she can't be a pro.  
   
 Thoughts?  
 

for a 3some is that the women like each other and are really BI. Surprises can really be a disaster.

Wishful thinking at best. She'll be pissed.

and if she has been with women before, she is not 100% hetero. Mainly hetero perhaps, 100%? Sorry, that ship has already sailed.

Like I said, she'll be pissed. Knowing how SBs feel about NOT being called escorts,  why in the world would anyone think it's a good idea to bring the two together it is just dumb.

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Your friend has a right to make her own decision as to whether she wants to accept the risks (real and/or perceived) in consorting with a provider. She also has a right to make her own moral judgments as to whether to play with a provider

"....Totally heterosexual but also digs girls and has been with them before"

Totally.

Have you never had a sexual experience involving a penis?  

Def NOT cool. If she's that close of a friend, just tell her.  

The last threesome I had, the woman didn't to uh each other at all and one hardly touched me... Disaster with a big D.  

My sixth year art school type regular hooker would like a word with you. LOL

Yes I've fucked dicks before, decided it was something that I didn't care for. Unlike the OP's situation, I don't "dig guys" and continue to fuck them, so I am indeed a lesbian, NOT bisexual. Plenty of people try things that they decide that they don't like and never do again. It doesn't make them a member of that team

... so were you a lesbian when you fucked those dicks?

Correction: She doesn't "date" girls, nor had a relationship with one. Just sex.

I have a different definition of these kinds of things.

DO NOT tell your friend that you're involving a provider...the fact that you're willing to pay for it (and know exactly where and how to look for it) may not sit well with her at all and her whole perception of you may change drastically.....you may never hear from her again and I hope that you don't have any mutual friends that she may tell....

Re: Correction: She doesn't "date" girls, nor had a relationship with one. Just sex.

Yeah we definitely disagree about that.

If she has "tried it, liked it and wants to do it again" she is most definitely bi sexual, every bit as much as I am "buy sexual" lol

... or would they be bi sexual?  

here are about 20 million shades of gay.

and that's where I took issue with you. Yes there should be another term, but until someone coins one, a woman who "also digs girls and has been with them before" is bisexual, and is most definitely NOT "totally heterosexual" Don't blame me for your own poor use of the English language.

I don't know. But let's make sure we spend at least an afternoon discussing it.

mean ... the fate of mankind most certainly hangs in the balance until we get this all hashed out, right?