Does anyone have experience or advice on dating a escort as your girlfriend?.

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discussions on this board, the Kgirl board, and various regional boards.  The "search" button is your friend.  

Don't even consider the idea that dating (much less marrying) a provider is a key to low cost sex, in fact, just the opposite.

Lots of providers are routinely approached by men with a "cuckold" or similar fetish who want to date a sex worker.... and then, many of them realize that the reality isn't as sexy or naughty as they'd imagined.  LOL.

There are probably a thousand ways to describe a relationship with an escort, but in short, if you have to ask, it's definitely not for you!!!

I have been friends with providers over the years. Good people who I learned to appreciate and value.  

Dating a professional will cost you at least double what it costs to be a regular customer paying by the hour.  As Fisher says, there has to be off-the-chart real-life passion, which I have had a few times, so I ponied up the extra money and enjoyed it.

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my own experience.  When I have had an opportunity to be the outside boyfriend for a provider, it usually came up in the context of a girl telling me she was thinking about retiring within a year and was starting to "transition" back into civvie life, so she is working a little less, maybe taking an extra day off each week, which leaves time for an outside relationship.  After several of these types  of relationships, I have become more educated over the past 11 years on the true nature of the provider-customer dynamic, so its easy for me not to ever be jealous or envious.  Its just a job, and the better they do it, the more regulars they have.  

There is only one way to describe a relationship with an escort . . . . "expensive."   Lol

...when I can have 20 or 30?"

... that we get attached to people in our proximity.  So if you frequent escorts and something clicks between you, that's the natural organic way to establish a relationship.  If instead you are thinking, hey it would be cool to have a escort as a girlfriend, then you are probably focusing on the wrong (by wrong I mean likely unsuccessful) aspects of relationships.
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You don't need an escort as a girlfriend to have a lot of sex.  Civies are quite capable.  So an escort isn't really bringing anything to the table in that regard that a civie can't.   And that's why if you are looking for an escort for that reason, you're really not focusing on her individual character.  (Not that many a man hasn't dated a civie just because she was a hottie.)
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Also as a warning, remember that escorts a like ambassadors of pleasure island.  An ambassador's job is to advance her own interests using the tools of diplomacy (in this case sex and feigned interest.)  Do not mistake them for real emotions.  I hate to sound too cynical, but many a man has been swindled by a sweet talking thief.

.... While I agree on many points as previously stated, that fortunately wasn't my experience.  I had a very healthy 2 1/2 year relationship with a Provider.  As two kind, caring, intellectual and communicative individuals, our relationship flourished.  She did what she did and I too still sought variety but we had a great time together.  

stripper or CMT, or for that matter a nurse, secretary, or just a plain old gold digger.

I know we've chased out most of the ladies here, but if there's ant brave souls left,  How would you feel about dating, say me? Of course if we clicked and all...easy guys with the insults.
My story, I tried it (dating an escort), but I realized as well as her that I'm not "dating material"...Basically she threw my ass to the curb went I came back from a trip.
So ladies, would you date a serial "Hobbyist"....God I hate that term.

but I am fine with "whore mongering pig" oink oink.

I've dated two men who frequently partook of companion services.   One had been doing so for years, the other had not.

Was anyone actually gullible enough to believe me??? lol

So may we ask how you met them?  Your posting seems to lead one to believe that they were both former clients?  

I believe I've overshared enough for today.  

Well, I would be pretty sure I am on VERY safe ground with the claim the future certainly hold more providers offering services to more mongers.

...about the life of hoes? LMAO!

low participation from the ladies. Of course we care or we wouldn't be here. The all male circle jerk forum is over on the competitors website. Just Google "Where do all my asshole friends hangout?"

To write a Provider date Monger who played with provider, Romance Novel.

if you don't think that LOTS of guys care way too much about what goes on in the private lives of hookers. Some of the guys here are completely enthralled about everything about what these girls do, what they think, who they fuck in their private lives, it's a rather unhealthy obsession with some.

you know the person they are responding to has really stuffed his food in his mouth. LOL

but I decided there would be plenty of other times to kick his ass around for being an all around suck up, and given the choice between "suck up" and "misogynistic dick head" I guess I have to side with the suck up, even a BSU

I called him an asshole, GaG called him a douche bag.

Good. The universe is sane again!

I am an asshole, the douchebag is a douchebag. lol

one escort, whom i know very well in real life,  asked me hypothetically.    could i marry her? i said sure ,  then asked, what about what the guys in the neighborhood would say.    my reply to them ----  "Sorry nobody would pay to sleep with YOUR wife! "   LOL  

...about ANYONE's opinion on here LOL!  
Especially the very proud and savvy  "professional" hobbyists on here, LMFAO!

Crickets!!!

by trying to tell GaG that he's NOT an asshole. . . . . or me either, for that matter.  Lol

An escort that I saw twice mentioned she dated a client. She was dating him the first time I saw her and wasn't the second time. I asked her about it. She told me that she felt like she had to be another person, around her boyfriend-client.

A lot of guys expect the same "services" when dating an escort.

I love this story

Is she someone you are seeing as a client or someone you randomly met through the grapevine?

I fell in love with my ATF 8 years ago and managed to win the grand prize. She resigned from the Sisterhood and I gave up the hobby and we got married 5 years ago and we are still living the happier ever after life. The thought of her continuing to work was never a consideration for either of us because it was time to move on to the next phase of life.  Dating an escort was not easy and it took a great deal of two way communication to get us to the point where we had dug up all the skeletons buried on both sides and knew that we could move forward and only look back at our time in the hobby with a reasonable degree of fondness.  It was one of the reasons we logged back on to TER a few months ago just to see who was still here and there was the usual cast of characters actually talking about my wife on the GD board which brought back a bunch of memories.  It s a small world indeed.

I have been to a couple of provider-hobbyist weddings, but have not pulled the trigger myself.  I have dated several over the years, have no aversion to marrying a provider, but just haven't met THE ONE yet.  Its great that you are still going strong after five years.  I hope it continues to work for you.   I read your review list and wanted to compliment you on your taste in providers.  Its got some of my favorite local (SoCal) indies.  We seem to like the same types when it comes to American providers.  I see more Asian providers than American, but that's an acquired taste.  I still see 12-15 American indies a year on average.

It sounds like you went about this the right way. With lots of respect and two way communication.

I found the love of my life through being an escort! That being said I loved him so much that within a year and a half I was done with escorting. We traveled, got engaged, bought property together.... and then he suddenly passed away from a heart attach while we were making love.
It's been just over a year now without him....or any sex.... and I am excited about becoming an escort again!!! Only part time...but I have always had such wonderful clients ❣️❣️❣️

Beautiful story Mr. Niceguy but you are the exception to the rule. For every happy ending love story there are many train wrecks 180* from yours. Met and became good friends with a hobbyist on this site two and a half years ago who fell hard for a successful provider and she fell hard for him. They continued on for awhile with him demanding that she quit the game and she said no way until he filed for divorced. Finally he caved and pulled the plug on his marriage. He was married to his college sweetheart and had two grown successful married daughters who now won`t speak to him. Talk about walking into a shit storm!  
He totally signed off on the hobby, me and our friendship which saddened me deeply and I never knew how it ended. I can guess.

I was taught at a very early age where/how you meet your man is where you will find your man.  I am just not into sharing my man with anyone else.  

for tastes, but I think we can ALL agree that there are NO women who are attracted to BLPOS.  

Starting shit.you really should get over this kids shit...SMH.

in your participation?  You really didn't think this through, did you?  LOL

The only "Irony" i see here is that you're a pussy for mentioning someone who didn't even participate in this thread. He's has no voice or presents and yet, you did the classic dick move, hit him when he's not looking...Now go to whatever board you kids play in, be a man and jump on him there...don't be a pussy....And LOL at you're own stupidly...now that's a LOL.

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if you think he doesn't routinely do this to me.  Would you like me to provide 3 or 4 or 20 links as examples.  Are you now dictating which boards I'm allowed to post on?  Who died and made you pope, anyway?  Lol

This is exactly what people always complain about - bringing shit from the Politics board to other boards.  You're butt hurt because I kick your punk ass all the time on the Politics board so you attack me in on a DIFFERENT board and in a thread in which I didn't post.

You  love creating the false narrative.  What in my post was about politics?  It was only about you and the ladies that won't see you because you sweat on them and have dead fish breath, according to some of them.   How is that political?  I didn't suggest the dead fish belonged to a political party.  You're losing it.  

So should I assume that you are going to object as strenuously when my "fan club" BLPOS included stalks me from board to board bringing their bullshit to other boards?

BLPOS actually gave you a compliment. If you are going to be called a dick, don't you prefer being a "First Class" dick at least? I don't recall you ever calling BLPOS a first class "anything" except maybe a liar, and even then he's third class at best. lmao

a full-fledged, white knight for BLPOS.  Congrats on reaching a new low.

"First class asshole", then you are right and I will own it.  As I always say, go big or go home.  Lol

GREAT post--incredibly insightful and thought-provoking! Honestly, this is as good a response as I've seen on this topic--(and there have been quite a few discussions on this over the years!!) Well done!!

Beautiful post, thank you. You've taken one of your life's tragedies and moved on to chase rainbows again. Don`t compare any to him, if you do, everybody loses. Just compartmentalize and take the best from each of us, always keeping your glass  1/2 full.
With your attitude, you will do well, I promise