I'm recollecting all the great moments with the many providers I've seen, but I can't make out any of their faces! It's not like it was many moons again, I just saw a lady yesterday and the face simply won't surface in the memory bank.

If you met one of those ladies on the street and she said Hi, do you think you'd know who it was?

If you can remember them, you're probably OK.  It just means you've been doing a lot of DATY.


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The mind can only handle so much senuous overload.

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I see failure faces everywhere, but can not remember where the heck I know them from. So some days I talk to complete strangers for extended time. I tell all my friends "if you see me and I did not speak, I did not recognize you" . My wife don't even blink when she ask me who iu was talking to and I say " I have no idea". Inconvenient for me, but it makes the people here safer.

but sometimes names elude me. If I don't immediately remember the context under which we met in the past, a few words and it come back to me easily

Generally, it's perceived as a sign of being rude or narcissistic, but in some studies it's believed to be a sign of protecting oneself.
I don't know one way or the other the scientic basis for it happening, but providers experience this a lot.
You're not alone:-

Generally I remember experiences, events, feelings, etc.  I am good with remembering faces but not names.  There are people who work for the same company I do that I've worked with for over 20 years, but whom, since I am in a different dept. I see infrequently.  I know pretty much who they are, I wave hi, we even talk on occasion over the past two decades, but I'll be damned if I remember any of their names.  I work for a big company and "know" everybody, hundreds and hundreds.  But I really don't know them.  Kinda is the same with providers.  Been seeing providers since my late teens and really probably couldn't pick half of em out of a lineup or out of a crowd after over 26 years especially if I only saw them once.  However, there are a few standouts in my brain.  Even there, though, picturing faces from years ago is rough.
My current ATF I can picture because I've seen her about 5 times over the course of a year, but the other 4 or 5 that I've seen this past year,  are blanks in my memory except for one extremely ugly chick (3 face) but who had a kicking 8 body.
I think seeing people multiple times reinforces memory.  Stand outs, beautiful or ugly, also are memorable.  Otherwise, ordinary people tend to blend in my memory.

But if a sketch artist had me sit down and describe their faces so he could draw them, I'd be a washout. I have problems sometimes with remembering names if I meet a lot of people at one time (say at a party), but that's mostly exasperation because of personal factors I won't go into. Memory isn't like a video recording of your life.

I remember growing up I often couldn't remember the faces of crushes I had in school. It made me eager to see them again the next day. I never had trouble remembering faces of those with whom I had platonic relationships.

In civvie life, too.  I think there's a name for it, but can't remember that, either.  People say to look people in the eyes while you repeat their name out loud to help burn it in, but even that doesn't work for me.

I like to reminisce so I write reviews and scramble them into my computer to read later.  But the face?  What did she look like again?  I just remember she was cute. So, obviously the best way to remember them is to take a photo, which I attach to my trip review diary. Unfortunately, many are photo shy.   My solution is to mostly pick girls that show their face in the ad.  This of course is not fool proof since some put up fake photos in their ads, but it greatly increases the probability of me having a photo of my girl for my collection.  This also obviously cuts down my choices, but heck, there really are a lot of choices out there.   The easiest girls to photo is the Tijuana chicas.  Next is the internet escorts and LPIN chicks.  Toughest and most challenging are the Kgirls.  But between direct photography, downloading accurate ad photos, and trading with cyber-mongers, I have face photos of the vast majority of my 'dates'.  Taking and collecting photos of your mates adds a whole new dimension to the hobby.