I'm still new to this brand of entertainment, so I'm not sure if I'm unlucky or just the World's Worst Seeker. So far, I've got only a 25% success rate - that's 3 no-shows out of 4 ladies I've tried to meet.

The only date that worked I booked through an agency. I found the process professional and easy. The others, all independents, were difficult, time consuming and frustrating.

Here's the newbie case study:
I try to arrange things days in advance - (If I were a provider I would appreciate advanced scheduling.)
I make initial contact through email to check availability and say a friendly "Hi there".
I follow up with a phone call to discuss particulars.
I call again on the appointment day and leave a message with exact contact, hotel, room number, etc. (This is where the train starts to derail.)
I call again that evening and leave a message.
I sit back and wait for nothing to happen.


So help me out. At which point in the senario above did I go wrong? How many calls should it take?  The last thing I want is to leave too many messages and come off like some kind of stalker.

I would really appreciate any insight.

Sounds like you're doing the right things but you didn't mention your selection process?
Are you going with well-reviewed ladies? Ladies who screen well?
Have you done any research on the boards to see if there have been prior no-show postings (such as on the SD board)? Have you PM'd any of the previous reviewers with questions about conduct, professionalism, etc?

Regarding their screening - did they ask and did you provide the necessary pieces of information to prove who you are as well as who you're not? Do you have and did you provide any references?

Did your emails, phone calls, etc contain anything that might have spooked them??

These are details you left out.

I confess, I haven't done any PMing.

But I've tried to find well reviewed providers. And so far I haven't been asked for much in the way of screening. I suppose I'll just send it from now on - that's a good suggestion.

I don't think I've ever said anything spooky. But I do tend to be pretty businesslike in my communication. Maybe loosening up a bit will help - I dunno...

Thanks for the response! It helps to think I'm not completely off the beam. Right now, I'm leaning toward my situation being just a string of bad luck.

I think you're on the right track, but I agree with Sedona... there are some details missing.

A couple thoughts... first, leaving a message is not good enough. You cannot assume the provider is getting the message. If you don't talk to her in person, especially the day of the date, you should assume something is wrong. Make sure she knows your call-back #, and that you can be reached there no matter what. It also helps to have a backup plan (provider). You know... if she doesn't call or show up by a certain time, go to plan B. Sometimes the really fun dates are the last minute ones. You can also book two.. if they both show up, all the better! Just make sure both are into girls.

Second, most well reviewed providers take their business seriously. They're in the customer satisfication business, and do not want a bad rap. If they stand you up, they will almost always make it up to you... as long as it wasn't your fault. I can tell you first hand this is the case.

Finally, all bets are off you give her false info, fake names, etc. If she can't verify who you are, or doesn't feel comfortable, then she might skip out and not tell you. That, unfortunately, is your fault.

here's a couple of ideas just in case.  Check out the ladies' websites, if available.  Sometimes they'll say that they won't respond to emails that don't give certain information.  Each has her own requirements.  

I wouldn't volunteer all my personal information.  If not asked, either directly or via the website, I assume she doesn't care.

Especially on the screening thing. If a lady doesn't screen she probably has more of a tendency to over book. Reason is that men who are not screened have a much higher rate of not showing. Particularly,  if the appointment is set a day or more in advance. I screen and my no show rate is only around 1%. Cancellations are probably 5%. By cancellation I mean someone who calls to let me know they can not make it.

Kisses,

Tiffany

You've received some good advice about the screening process.  If, however, the problem isn't due to false information, failure to provide requested information, etc. there are some other things to consider.

One problem, of course, is that paranoia is running high due to recent LE activity.  If you aren't known and don't have some references or reviews "under your belt" you need to be careful you aren't inadvertently giving of "LE vibes."

Also, look for some common traits among the providers who aren’t responding and then look for providers without those traits.  The problem may be the type of providers you are selecting.

Some providers truly know how to run a business and would make good executives in the business world; sadly they are in the minority.  Fame and fortune all too often goes to the head of some providers and as a result their customer service is terrible.  (This is common among young providers and providers who are new to the business.)  In time word gets around, and a review of the board will reveal who they are.  Eventually they have to improve or get out of the business.  In the meantime they move around and change their names creating problems for serious hobbyists.  Some providers have financial goals and when they retire they tend to have something to show for their work.  Once again, they are in the minority.  There are too many providers who as soon as they have some money in their pocket blow off the rest of their appointments and don’t see another client until they are flat broke.  When money burns a whole in a provider’s purse very frequently you will often find the focus of her life is shopping, partying, and drugs. (Sadly, this is all too common among younger providers who are drop dead gorgeous.)

As others have stated, be sure you aren’t inadvertently failing to play by the rules in the screening and booking stages of the game.  And keep on reading reviews.  Good luck.

The good news is that once you've been on these boards a while, put up some reviews, and gotten yourself (or at least your alias) known in the provider community (the girls talk a lot) you'll find the instances of no shows almost disappears.  Become the guy that the girls REALLY want to see.  They have their lists too.

In the meantime, here's a suggestion.  You sound like a very nice and respectful guy, and it seems to me that you're doing everything right.  You've just picked the wrong girls.  Maybe just bad luck too.  When considering who to contact, first blast a PM to the guys who reviewed her and see if she showed up on time.  Often, in the review, the guy is so happy to have just gotten laid, that he fails to mention that she was half an hour late.  There are tons of girls who are absolutely reliable.  Find them and forget the rest.

Good luck to you,

Jacksonlips

You have received some good advice on this thread about selection of providers, etc.  However assuming you have not given the lady false information and have provided the information she requests, when she accepts the date she should show up or call to cancel the date.  You can't write a review on a no show lady because rhe rules are that you must have seen a lady in order to write a review.  Assuming you have attempted to contact these ladies to give them the opportunity to make things right, you should post their names on your local discussion board to let your fellow hobbyists know what may happen to them if they book dates with these ladies.

Fifty -here are some pointers that might help you out..

A-Call as many providers that look interesting as you can..You will most likely be leaving lots of messages..
B-Leave a detailed message that does not sound sketchy for a date that day..Call preferrably several hours in advance..
c-These girls can be just plain busy or never get the message and dont take it personally..Ive seen it all..
d-Make sure to leave your name and good contact number..