I too will chime in and say it has certainly happened to me as well. I have found the most common thread between when it happens is distractions. I am either stressed about work thinking of other problems or even sometimes to my fault comparing what I am receiving to other experiences I’ve had and realizing I’m not really enjoying it as much as others.
I have often said about myself I would do much better in life if I thought a lot less. Anytime I bring thinking into an equation generally I screw something up and that goes for an erection too!
The things that work best for me would be……
Take a break or change activities
Add additional stimulus in your example if I’m getting a BJ that just isn’t cutting it for me and I’m having trouble staying with it…….I start to play with her pussy. Finger her or ask her for 69 in most cases this additional stimulus will get the blood pumping again for me!!
Masturbate! No offense but nobody knows your body like you do. And sometimes no matter what there isn’t the chemistry there between you and the lady. So if her technique isn’t doing it for you…there is nothing wrong with having her take a break….get that ass back up in the air….have her pull out a toy or use her hands…let her give you a show and you take a “hands on approach” with yourself until your ready to jump back into the game.
Lil blue pill. Take one and you will never ever have this problem and and fuck like a rock/porn star!!!!!
Don’t sweat it and be well!!!
Last week I went to see a beautiful sexy provider. Unfortunately my equipment did want to work. This has not happened to me before. I've seen several providers in the past few weeks. Everything worked fine. This time I after LFK and DFK she le kneeled on the bed and ask that I remove her panties and not to be shy. Well, with her gorgeous ass in the air I went to work DATY after about 5 mins. she flipped onto her back so I could have better access to her. At this point I was hard. After I continued dining for another 15 mins. She had me lay on the bed and started a BBBJ. For what ever reason my erection went away, never to return. She tried for about 10 mins with no help on my part. I felt so guilty, I ask her to stop and we just talked while she gave me a massage. I was hoping for a return of my manhood but it never came back.
My question is have any other providers or hobbist had this happen. She ask me to please visit again when she next comes back to the city but I must say I am a bit apprehensive.
For example, are you worried about issues of finances (Who isn't right now?), a family problem, etc.?
On occasion this has come up with me with similar results. Fortunately, time has a way of taking care of that.
If not, it may be a problem you should discuss with your doctor, and perhaps a urologist, if, for no other reason, to put your mind at rest regarding physical ailments.
I've had it happen to me a few times, and I felt embarrassed each time it happened, but the lady was great about it. Sometimes it happens to me when I have a cover on, but I've had it happen during oral as well. Usually, we just take a break, chat a little, maybe enjoy a beverage or a snack, and then try again.
I can't get a reliable erection If I have a lot of stress going on in my life. When the stress is resolved , I am back to normal again.
This kind of thing happens to most men from time to time. It usually has to do with things like external or internal distractions or some clue in the environment which sets off feelings that interfere.
If you go see the lady again and view it as a test, it is more likely to happen again. if you do see her again or see another provider and have some anxieties, it is best to refrain from climaxing for a while so you are good and horny and to indulge your best fantasies (as long as they are acceptable to the lady.) Most of us have fantasies that don't take costumes or pain etc. We just have favorite thoughts. (I had a girl friend who would cum to climax easily by imagining that I was a Cossack raping her. I wasn't aware of this for a while so the fantasy can be even a private one.)
The main thing is that once in a while is no big deal and having sex is not a test, we are doing it for fun.
Alas, it's happened to me more than once. When it does, I just drop back ten, punt, and try again next time.
The previous posters made some good points about things that may have distracted you, then you felt guilty which may have made the problem worse. Try to relax sweetheart and good luck.
Its more common than you think. Dont feel guilty or be embarrased
A good provider will always understand issues like this.
Shit, providers parts dont always work properly either but we have lube to fix our problem Lol : )
Happy holidays
Most men seem to experience this occasionally, whether in your situation or in relationships in general. I wouldn't even begin to worry about it unless it's becoming a regular issue.
As has been said, any lady worth her salt will understand and try to make you feel at ease. As long as we're confident that it's not something we're doing (or are not doing), we accept it's just an occasional glitch in the male biology.
and enjoy the scenery on the way.
If anxiety is an issue slow down and cuddle..Kissing is a good way to lose yourself in the moment and who cares how you climax just as long as you enjoy yourself..
Much pressure is put on the male performance here..Just read the reviews and all the energy you gentlemen put forth to pleasure us. I do appreciate your attention but just lay back and enjoy yourself once in awhile without feeling guilty.
Many gentlemen do have erection problems from high bloodpressure, Diabetes and medications they take. If this is a new problem do go get a check up..
If you are not active often that can be a problem too. Have you ever heard the old saying "use it or lose it". Well, in this case it is true. I see many older gentlemen in the winter season and they go north for the summer. I always tell them to self pleasure yourself to keep things moving.
Kisses Haley
on the second time around. The ladies have all been great. One even looked at me and said, "Uh oh, it looks like I broke it". As Dr. Joe said, it does happen, but on your next trip, don't treat it as a test, or it will happen. If it does persist, definitely see your doctor.
If it's a vigorous PSE type approach I can easily get over stimulated, become kind of numb and non responsive. and deflate. If I were to follow on with being anxious about it, my crank would continue to hide.
The truth be told, all of us hobbyists are separating the sexual act and lust from emotional connection. I know some hobbyists will be mad at me and say they have a true connection with their providers. I believe that you can have some connection with a provider that you see regularly and really enjoy, but I'm talking about true love and that deep emotional trust and connection.
Maybe, sometimes, as we get older, just the lust itself is not enough to carry us through.
I can get performance anxiety sometimes, and just as Haley mentioned above, kissing & cuddling seems to be the cure b/c it helps me get lost in the moment and stop worrying about deflating. Naturally, I look for true GFE gals that offer DFK.
"The lust itself is not enough to carry us through"
That is exactly why I fall in love at the drop of a hat, over, and over, and over.
Works for me!
I too will chime in and say it has certainly happened to me as well. I have found the most common thread between when it happens is distractions. I am either stressed about work thinking of other problems or even sometimes to my fault comparing what I am receiving to other experiences I’ve had and realizing I’m not really enjoying it as much as others.
I have often said about myself I would do much better in life if I thought a lot less. Anytime I bring thinking into an equation generally I screw something up and that goes for an erection too!
The things that work best for me would be……
Take a break or change activities
Add additional stimulus in your example if I’m getting a BJ that just isn’t cutting it for me and I’m having trouble staying with it…….I start to play with her pussy. Finger her or ask her for 69 in most cases this additional stimulus will get the blood pumping again for me!!
Masturbate! No offense but nobody knows your body like you do. And sometimes no matter what there isn’t the chemistry there between you and the lady. So if her technique isn’t doing it for you…there is nothing wrong with having her take a break….get that ass back up in the air….have her pull out a toy or use her hands…let her give you a show and you take a “hands on approach” with yourself until your ready to jump back into the game.
Lil blue pill. Take one and you will never ever have this problem and and fuck like a rock/porn star!!!!!
Don’t sweat it and be well!!!
Fortunately only once that I recall. It was with a provider whom I see frequently. We were right in the middle of the deed and bang, just like that no erection. Of course I go balistic on myself over it. Fortunately clamer heads prevailed, hers. She talked me back down, went to work on me, up it came and we went back to what we were previously engaged in with a happy ending for all.
Moral of the story, you are not alone. As stated by several others here, it does and will happen.
Just happened to me. First pop via bj was incredible (and incredibly stimulating). That, along with I think about 4 drinks by that time, must have done me in. When it came time to do the deed after about 1.5 hours recovery time and some DATY, I got the cover on just fine, which was good, because that's usually when I lose it. Entered, but from there it quickly faded, and at an amazing speed too. Just couldn't seem to feel a damn thing, and that was no reflection on her. From there the mental aspect of it took over and it seemed to be a lost cause. I think a previous pop, 1st time jitters, extremely stimulating (fantastic, best I've ever had) bbbjcim, a cover for the attempt with someone I was not completely comfortable with all conspired to do me in for any other attempts, despite my mental desire to do so.
I'd taken a 1/4 tab of the blue pill too before hand.
Went back to bj, and she almost had me there again, then all feeling completely went away it seems, and I went down for the count (I think the almost pop registered as a "hit" with the old brain). Despite our best efforts there just was no "waking the dead". We spent the remainder of our time cuddling up, talking, and in general just having a good time.
Can't say I'm too concerned about it (other than some worry over the mental effect it may have on me next time it is time to "perform") because today I feel completely drained, and still couldn't get one up if I had to. Damn, that was one hell of a bj!