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Kym Regal 7112 reads
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Hi guys,
Got a little ranting building up inside me. I had posted on another discussion board about an upcoming tour. I announced that since I have gotten a lot of good mention from this board and in return a considerable amount of business, I was giving a significant discount. I thought this was a nice way to show my appreciation. Instead I was bombarded with sarcasm, stupid formulas of how much a year someone might save with the discount and what they would spend it on. Is it me or is this really rude? I felt; why did I even bother? Everyone talks about how advantageous the internet has become with respect to reviews, seeing what a girl looks like first, rates without having to call, in all saving time and aggrevation. I don't know. For me the internet has been great for seeing places I may not have considered visiting, meeting great people both hobyists and providers alike. BUT... it has also opened the door the people who would not even think of doing some of things they do. Wannabe's who just enjoy hanging out in escort discussion boards but have no intentions of ever seeing a provder, people who complain about prices and then proceed to give his opinion on what HE would do if it was HIS business ( while if he called up an ad from a newspaper and the rate was too much he would just say " Thank-you" and hang up). Diss a girl about her photos, belittle her about her rates and where hobbyists should go to get a better deal, and of course the never ending email questions that would otherwise receive a hang up if it was called in (ie. Do you do Anal? Can I cum more than once?). As providers have we created a monster? Should we just laugh it off and come up with some witty, yet innocently worded remark that won't hurt the rude poster's comments  so that we don't come off as a bitch? How much should take in the name of good Public Relations? To tell you the truth, it actually makes me feel better writing this out. I guess it's feelings that have been building up for quite some time but I was too chicken to discuss them with you ( again in fear of my coming off as a hot head). If anything, thanks for listening :)
Love Kym

There are a lot of jerks in this world, and they really come out of hiding when they can post anonymously. It's hard to do sometimes, but you're probably better off ignoring them.

John.Galt5991 reads


Yeah, many of the jerks are probably the same guy hiding behind multiple alias's.

Ignore them. They arent worth the attention. Every village has its idiots.

ZedEx5946 reads

There is a percentage of the population who need to criticize others in order to make themselves feel better.  You shouldn't take their rudeness personally--they're the ones with the problem.  Just ignore them--a "witty, yet innocently worded remark" would just go over their heads.

SoCalPVguy5682 reads

You're in an illegal and illicit business.  Quit trying to elevate it to legitimate commerce and the social requirement of same.  If you want better social intercourse, stop selling sexual intercourse.  You'll get more respect then.  get off your high horse.

SexyCurvesDC7954 reads

Try to relax... I think you're gonna give yourself an ulcer or something. Are you here to "save" us from ourselves??? Want some Jesus tracts?

Or, are you here because you... *gasp*... partake of this hobby???? Oh you dirty, dirty boy. You really should stop now, go to confession, confess your sins and of COURSE...

REPENT, REPENT, REPENT...

BTW, treating a lady like crap oughta be right up there on your list of sins to confess. ;) FWIW I have no interest in laws that interfere with the private goings on in my bedroom between consenting adults. Did you know that oral sex is illegal in most states??? You should STOP that you know, you're engaging in illegal activities!!!!!

Nicole

2sense5497 reads

This guy is suffering from the "Elmer Gantry" syndrome. Preach against sin on Sunday, then screw around the rest of the time. Only without the charm of Burt Lancaster.

Of course, if he's here to preach seven days a week, then the pickin's for a congregation are gonna be mighty slim. He'd do well to go to Zenith, instead.

Kym Regal5754 reads

Your post really does not make any sense... If you are so disgusted with this hobby, why are you here? Are you one of those guys who finds it "Cool" to hang out with escorts and hobbyists? Trying to be one of the gang but don't have the balls to really do it right? Really... " If you want better social intercourse???" What does that mean????

Desiree4879 reads

Didn't your mother ever tell you if you don't have anyhting nice to say, shut the fuck up?

Ivy League5731 reads

I think SocalPVguy should not call anyone else since his views are so narrowminded. Why are you on the board? Get a girlfriend and you won't have to participate in an "illegal and illicit" business. Make sense? Most men don't get that.

Desiree4802 reads

Got teased in High School, now they are here to make our lives more depressing.  Well, at least I have a good screening process...these kind of guys never see the outside of my door.

G26083 reads

TER isn't just a clearinghouse of information so guys can find escorts.   With a few obvious exceptions (insert name here), it's a group of people brought together by  the common desire to put into practice a more enlightened and liberal view toward our sexuality than society in general, currently accepts. In particular we believe we have a right to express our sexuality in a private and consensual environment of our own choosing with a partner of our own choosing, regardless of what the hypocritical lawmakers have dictated we should be doing.  

That's the reason women participate here along with the men.  It's not just for marketing, as the cynical amongst us may think.  It's because they're on the front lines of this hypocrisy and this one of the few places available to them where they can express their frustrations and get some support from like-minded men and women.  The source of this frustration comes from meeting guys like you (who think they're just ho's), a society and legal system that talks Puritan, but reads Penthouse, and LE that spends a disproportionate amount of their time chasing easy harmless targets rather than difficult, dangerous ones.  

Yes, it's still an illegal activity.  But rather than slam the women on this board, why don't you do something to promote a little more understanding and tolerance in the world.  It's easy to be a moralist, critical of the women in this field and the men they see as clients.  But maybe you should honestly ask yourself why are you posting on this board?

This country has an abundance of moralists willing to pass judgment on others publicly, while practicing who knows what in private.  What is needed, however, is a more adult attitude toward human sexuality in America- perhaps it's time to join the rest of the western world on this point.  

It's 2002, why do we still have to deny we are sexual beings?  To satisfy some leftover Puritanical beliefs from the18th century?  Or is it so guys like you can feel good by taking cheap shots at the women they want to have sex with, while still refusing to acknowledge they exist, or provide a valuable service to society.  Go ahead, attack if you must, providers are easy targets to hit.  But it doesn't take much thought or creativity to slam them, so don't be too proud of yourself, because they've heard it all, including things you haven't even thought of yet. But I would just ask you, what is the point?  

Not everybody lives in PV and has a wife and 2.3 Mercedes, or is it children?  Some guys are single or divorced, while others just don't want to get married, maybe they're older and are empty-nesters, or maybe they've lost a spouse- maybe they're just lacking in social skills.  For millions of guys conventional dating just isn't an option for a lot of reasons.  The escorts on this board, and elsewhere, provide a healthy outlet for these men to have a little human companionship and experience sexual  pleasure with an attractive and accepting woman.  In doing so, they provide a huge service to the greater society by acting as the "safety valve" for all the collective needs of this huge group of men.  They see pain, frustration, loves lost, jobs lost etc. etc., along with just normal sexual desire.  

If this activity didn't exist, and these needs were subverted, we would have a far more dangerous and unhealthy society than we have today.  Maybe you don't read the news, but I'm tired of reading about young boys being molested by priests and young girls being forced to have sex with uncles at age eleven.  You can deny sex but you can't stop it.  Any society that tries to repress sexual expression better be prepared to deal with the perverted acts it's repressed status willl create.  If you want to preach something, why don't you preach tolerance and acceptance and begin to work to make some positive changes in the attitudes of the people you live and work with.  Anyone can take cheap shots at providers, but it takes a bigger man to publicly work to end the hypocrisy.

-- Modified on 3/8/2002 3:11:32 PM

I think I'm a pretty good writer, but I can't come anywhere close to touching this.

As you note, most of the civilized world has already figured this out. I think it has something to do with a corollary to Huey Long's famous observation that if you keep the white and black folks mad at each other, it's easier to pick both their pockets. If you can keep them sexually frustrated as well, you get the same result. Go back to what the GOP tried to do to Clinton over a blowjob. Any person with an IQ above room temperature should never in their right mind ever vote Republican again after that. We are such a nation of sheep.

And this makes you so much more morally correct by participating in the website to post here; you know, supporting their banner ads with a few views here and there, getting them more hits.

Go protest in Nevada.

straightman4806 reads

I don't know why these boards are taken so seriously. Obviously. I've never had my cash flow f**ked over by some peanut puke sitting in a basement in Cripple Creek Colorado waiting for winter to end so he can start mowing lawns for movie cash.

Anonymity turns halfwit cowards into witty little boys.

Take comfort in knowing you hang the moon and there ain't nobody can take that away unless you let them.

most of these girls have more scrupples than the people I deal with on a hourly basis. Its the person not the buisness.

What really bothers me is our politicians are held to such high esteem so called legitimate profession. Im a republican and wouldnt trust any of them as far as I can throw them.



-- Modified on 3/8/2002 3:05:34 PM

Misery loves company.  Some of these people are so miserable they can only get joy from trying to make everyone as miserable as them.  This sort of crap reminds me of little kids who go up to a 500 pound man on the street and tell him that he is fat.  The man knows he is fat.  The kids do it because they think it is cute and don't know any better.  These kids should know better.  All you can do is ignore these idiots.  Do not retract your discount.  That only allows these idiots to win.  The people who want to see you will appreciate the discount and those are the people you want to see.  As for the idiots you would not want to see them at any price.

Unfortunately there are those whose contributions to any discussion seems to be criticism.  Their comments & opinions are of little, if any, value.  Don't concern yourself with them.

In general, people who spend too much time on the computer do so because they wouldn't have much of a life otherwise. So don't put too much stock in what messages you get from the Internet. I would imagine most of the hobbyists you meet are pretty descent people, just as I have found that most (but not all) providers are really fine people as well.

>> providers are really fine people as well.

Exactly.

If I found someone with as sprightly a personality as some of the providers I have seen, I would be one happy puppy.

Like most of the other posts here, I wouldn't take it too seriously, I think it's just part of the show.

BTW, I inquired some time back if I saw you at a Starbucks (Trailwood/Town Center, to be precise)while CES was going on in Vegas. If that was you, you are a very lovely woman.

What, no link??? You MUST be sincere!

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