Gentlemen, do you ever wonder how your TER posts affect the way providers view you and whether or not they may want to ever cross your path?

Personally, I have read potential clients posts in the past, and have actual passed on meeting a gentleman because of some negative comments he made on TER. Lately, my interest in reading posts to ensure I meet with compatible friends has been taken to a new height when I read rude comments some gentlemen make on provider’s ads regarding their looks (which cannot be readily changed!), rates (which is their prerogative to charge), etc.  Do you ever wonder what type of impression you give off when making rude comments?

Or, if you present yourself as a gentleman always (I love entertaining such men! ), is that natural or is there a constant reminder in the back of your mind that a provider may be judging your comments, therefore deciding whether or not she will ever want to meet you?

Thanks for the input!

Still enjoying my vacation (FYI, it has now been extended)!  

Now, let’s all go have naughty play with those we are compatible!

Xoxo,
Giamarie

PS, for those who have emailed or PMed me, I should be able to return correspondence today, as I have access to my email.

Most know I'm warped, kinky, and a walking party! They know they're NOT getting a fat, tight assed, old prude!  

i've said no based upon guys posts.
not always because they are rude but maybe they just posted that they liked certain things that i dont like or whatnot.

on the other hand, i've had guys contact me and gotten a lil excited cuz i thought they sounded hot.

i define hot as smart, funny, interesting.

i think fuzzy is hot even though alot of his posts are rude lewd or asinine, they're normally pretty funny.

I too look at posts and if someone is constantly rude or never has anything positive to say i will not see him.

Im seeing a lady later this week. In her email response she mentioned she had read my local board posts, and really liked them. I don't if she was giving  me a line or not, however, I took it as a compliment. I know there are certain local ladies I will not see based on their posts.

Ladies that I would meet often said that they enjoyed my wit and humor.  Since then, I've noticed a darker tone to my posting, and assume that others may have seen it too.  None of the ladies that I've met have commented that I've become an evil bastard, so I guess it's safe.

I suppose that it's possible that someone would pass on me because of my posting.  I guess you'll know, when I return as "really nice phil"

I guess I assume that the ladies read the posts of new prospective clients.  It would seam to be a good way to gather information on them before you open the door the first time.  I post as I feel, I don't use aliases to hide any point of view, only more personal information.

I have to agree on the "rate posts" on a ladies ad post. I am very tired of reading the insulting comments regarding rates.  If you can't afford to play, don't comment and move on.
JMHO

"Are you even old enough to buy beer?"

to which I respond....

"Is it that obvious from my TER posts?"

vanilla ice cream, since I'm pretty much a vanilla sorta guy. But, feel free to add any flavored syrups, candies and fruits, to your liking. Nor, I'm a the sharpest tack in the group, but I always attempt to be respectful. Most ladies like respect.

that I find myself very attracted to some women who post here after following their posts for some time.  There are women who have revealed themselves to be intelligent, sensitive, open, and with a good sense of humor,  Such women are powerfully attractive.

I guess there are some of us have too much time on our hands, but I do notice that those of us who post all the time do end up revealing things about ourselves by our tones and reactions to others and to questions.  I find the sense of community to be more than superficial.  I have met a number of male posters socially and find them, as I predicted to myself, to be the kind of people I want as friends.

on the one hand, ladies who present themselves on the boards in a drama loving or other manner that turns me off go on my DNS list

on the other hand I *count* on ladies who pay attention to posts doing the same.

I'd much rather visit with ladies I will like and who will like me. Makes a better experience for both of us. If any lady wishes to put me on her personal DNS list based on my board personna she is doing me a favor. We would not get along....

When I contact a lady who is new to me I include my TER ID. Whether she takes advantage of the opportunity to look at my posts I cannot say....

I will say this: the overwhelming majority of ladies I contact are quite happy to meet me. And I receive PMs frequently from ladies who take an interest because of my board personna....

I've not had any luck in seeing anyone just yet, so I can't answer your specific question. But once I have reason to post, it will be done tactfully. As many guys on here are, I am always a gentleman, and will present myself as such, no matter how good/bad a session is. That said, no matter what a hobbyist/providers reads, we are all free to decide whether or not we want to see someone.

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Im not NOT going to see someone, cause they said something terrible, or offbeat in their post ... or I dont agree with their views.. now, if it were a dating site, perhaps I'd think differently...

If a woman does not like what I post, then she is someone who I most certainly not get along with.

I can see how some women would think of me in a negative way, but basically, my name is luv_women because I do love women.  What I dislike is the drama, BS, and general garbage associated with this "hobby".  The women I like are the ones who read what I have written and basically say things like "Hey, I may disagree with what you write, but I both respect what you have written, and love the debate".

OTOH a woman who simply will not see me because she disagrees with my opinions, then I have no desire to see her either.

It is kind of like a general board post below where a woman did not like the attitude that the man who wanted a discount presented himself with.  It is not what has been said, it is more how it is said.

I've mostly posted elsewhere, rather than TER.  But where ever I post, I would HOPE that ladies are considering that before agreeing to see me.  I consider myself more boring and/or cranky rather than rude or mean (some might disagree), but there could still be some ladies who might consider us incompatible.  If so, I really wish she would realize that and decline a request to see her.

But I've almost never been turned down, so I assume most ladies don't reject too many guys who can pass ordinary screening.  Even if they are old, boring, and cranky.

And in spite of that I have at least one provider who still likes me.

I'm even nice to the nasty bitches. I like getting on their do-not-see lists, lol.

to spend an hour doing the horizontal two step with me, and my green is as good as the next gents.... hey - if you keep me busy enough, you won't have to deal with my personna anyway! And who knows? you might liky my physical bits just fine, even though the've gotten a bit wobbly... Hey! I think I like you! You seem rather well sorted out.....

Cheers

GTM

Recently I found out that  is GREAT idea look the boards
Takes little time but well Worth!



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cause most of us are freaks too, but we gotta find a gentleman to get freeky with

HOW about Red wine or sake ??

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i think:

it is pretty clear that i'm a bit of a romantic who is also not encumbered by an SO.

it is also clear that i like a bit of drama and role play... pushing GFE to the very edge of GF.

the possible down side is that i may look like a risky client. nice and sweet maybe, possibly a demanding pain in the ass althouhg i try to make up for that with extra appreciation expressed verbally and tangibly.

the up side is that ladies would get a fair idea of the job before taking it and that is ALL to the good.

i have been and always will be grateful to the ladies who thought it was worthwhile to take on the job. i get a little overawed at times by the quality of some of the ladies i've seen. they do me the honor in accepting my affections.

xoxo to you wonderful, kind, independent, smart, sweet, and tremendously sexy women.

texcat

im sick of the insulting comments on rates too ... i'm gonna go over and ask the love goddess her opinion on why this is such a touchy subject because i dont understand my own reaction, but the quickest way to get me un-interested in seeing a client is some discussion about the fee.  it can NEVER come out good ...

i dont see how i can get horizontal with anybody who've i've already seen demonstrate disrespect for my profession.  but thats just me ... and you two are entitled to your opinions ... just as i am to mine.  glad there are some like minds, so everybody gets served ...

strikes me as respectful and thats all i really want.  my ego and sense of self worth are already 'out there' by entering this profession (which i did with some trepidation).  othewise, i dont really care about views on religion, politics, abortion etc ... but how you feel about hobbying and providers ... i definitely listen too.

I was being kinda tongue in cheek here.......'

I respect and appreciate a lady who does not take 99% of the stuff on the board too seriously. Opinions on trivia per se hardly matter in the sport. It ain't dating. However, I agree with you as well - I would not see a lady who denigrated hobbyists, and I would not expect a lady to see gents who were disrespectul toward providers.....

I would like to thank all the great women in my life that have made this great honor possible.

With me it's pretty much "What you see is what you get" regarding my posts. If that hurts or helps with the ladies then so be it. So far I think it's been a plus for me. It goes both ways. I have met a couple of ladies who I found myself attracted to because of their posts and I think the reverse is also true.

That's my .02 worth.

C_K

Hey sweetheart! I do read posts and find that some are not to my liking lol. But I do give most people a chance unless what they post is completely degrading and just plain stupid lol. I have an open mind and I dont jump to conclusions, so I read everything and dont put too much into it! hey this is supposed to be for entertainment right? LOL

I do find it a huge turnoff when people come on here and totally trash others though. Thats simply just NOT needed. The ones doing the trashing I find are usually people that have low self esteem or are just very unhappy about something.

Peace! Sidney Starr

I'm a nice guy and a gentleman in real life, so hopefully that gets reflected in my posts.  Oh, and as my mama always told me, "if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say it!" ...LOL.

Of course, the reverse also holds true.  I read many of the providers posts in order to get a "cyber-feel" of their personalities.  Just another way of determine whether I might be interested in seeing a particular lady.

-TheKarateKid-

…because he gave 5/6 ratings to several providers who all had a list of 9/10 ratings ONLY! His comments in their reviews were rude, as if he just had a huge chip on his shoulder regarding providers in general (I felt sorry for him). I blocked his email after his several attempts at booking me. His green didn’t work for me. Xoxo, Giamarie

I like your post a lot. I am ultra careful about reviews/posts because emails read so much more aggressive/mean spirited than the spoken word.

As a newer TER member my goals are:

To use this great service to find fun, sexy women who will give me their all for our brief time together.

For ME to seem fun, attractive and attentive to THEM so they will make every effort to make time for me.

The greatest compliment I have receive in a long time is that a great provider canceled another appt to see me. Cool...

Sugar works so much better than vinegar.

maybe I should be nicer on the P&R board,lol.

As a hobbyist, it is a criteria in deciding whom to see.  There are certain ladies I would not consider seeing, based solely on on the contents of their postings, and the attitude and general feel I get about the lady from them.  Responding to anything I post in a positive or personal manner is certain to cause me to check into the lady further, and I would think that many ladies remember that as well.    

As for posts critical of things such as rates, looks, etc., I've been known to post under such critics on my home board being critical about the critic.  IMO, these are junk posts that are annoying, only cause problems, and I don't blame the ladies for turning away those guys.    

On the other hand, I would think/hope that items such as political views or what sports teams we like would not be a key factor, though I have read posts that from both sides that indicated otherwise.  Guess everyone has their own way of doing things...

I can say I have become attracted to many ladies by reading there posts and have seen many ladies in their locals including San Diego, Portland, Seattle, Phoenix, Chicago, Las Vegas, Indianapolis, Baltimore and all over Florida (my home area).

You can gain a lot of information about what a person is like by reading their words and sharing thoughts on the phone.

to get a flavor of our 'dates' before we date them.  adds to the excitement or lack there of...

Grazie GTM
si viediamo!!
Bacioni
Carla!

Everyone posts stupid things at times, or wish they had worded something differently or changed their minds. I am the first to say that I have a playful sense of humor. Some may perceive it as sarcastic. I guess I think more like a guy sometimes. However, when someone meets me in person they almost always comment on how nice I am, and they are surprised.

Hugs,
Ciara

that we won't see someone who no matter what we say might see us because we are a source of income, regardless.

It may not be a dating site, but but it isn't an ATM, either.

I try to be as honest as possible when posting a review on a girl but my one time I posted a so so review then gave that agency as a referral they almost caused me a great time with a different provider even after I gave them a second chance and re wrote my review on that same girl. Money's tight and I go by reviews to book my dates. I would hate to think guys would be afraid to speak their minds about a provider for fear they might be pegged as someone not to see.

I'm not concerned with multi levels of intellectual compatibility; just carnal satisfaction of the flesh.
I'm not about to limit my choices of flesh by speaking my mind. I'll just speak my mind from where it won't limit my choices.

i can spot them a mile away ... yea  the flesh has 'eyes' too.

After all, this isn't eBay, where your "reputation" gets you props on the board. I come here for useful information about my hobbying activities. And I want to remain as anonymous as possible in order to protect my true identity. So my board persona and my hobbying persona are kept strictly separate. So far, so good.