http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EHID8hMgWKc

...via Skype.  Just don't fall for her too. You won't be able to get up.

Obsessive meets Manipulative

Damn if it were my birthday and you got mad because I changed my mind  I would take that as disrespect.
Maybe she wanted to do something with her friends. I think you getting mad on anyone birthday because e you did not get time with them is a little childish . It was HER DAY not YOURS how can you say she stood you up? Did you pre pay for a hotel suite that you lost money on? A trip ? Would you have paid her fee?

Her swaying you to "come here " don't go see someone else is a manipulating thing to say to someone when she KNOWS you have feelings for her.Gosh the very idea of you hobbying with someone else and SHUCKS how she needed that money of course baby come here you know i care about you so much .
I call it emotional abuse . She talked to you about future to lead you on to make sure you see no one but her. More emotional abuse .

I suggest you to cut off the texts with her and pick up with someone else. Do not get involved with someone and start to vision a future with them. Keep it kind but keep it business . If you start feeling close to someone maybe you need to talk to someone professionally and I don't say that in a sarcastic manner because you do sound like a nice person who  should have a few providers to see.

Maybe you forgot it  was an "arrangement" and maybe she knew that . Some people take advantage
where money is concerned. I hope you cut your ties and move on to meet other ladies who will be happy to introduce you to friends when they cannot see you and maybe you can work on your self esteem to not let yourself wind up in a "relationship" with anyone and call them when you want to .
There was no need to tell her you were going to see someone else you gave her the opportunity to
reel you in . Maybe you wanted that?

Angela


   

Which is what it started out as, where it should go, and how it should remain.

While it sucks that she called an audible at the last minute, on the other hand, how would any hobbyist think that a provider wants to spend her birthday with him?  I mean, she does have a regular life outside of appointments and seeing guys for money, right?

She is a provider, and your relationship is based on you paying for sex with her.  OTC doesn't mean that she likes you more than she cares enough to sometimes give you time for free.  That's all it means.  OTC time to me just means good business.  It's like giving away something for free so you can generate more business.  I don't mistake that for "friendship."

In fact, here is how I define "friendship."  Do I feel comfortable asking that "friend" for money without shame if I am in a pinch?  Or am I totally cool with that "friend" asking ME for money without feeling that it would fuck up our relationship if the loan wasn't paid back on a timely basis?  Or ever?  If not, they aren't "friends."

Sounds like the two of you are totally unstable in this relationship.  Time to talk away.  I don't need to get into examples why, but clearly your history with her is insanely bad.

And in the future, keep it to sex versus money.  That's it.  Don't ever read too much into it if she gives you OTC time.

I mean, sounds like the perfect match.

complete with all the bells and whistles of jealousy, manipulation, recrimination - all on a shaky foundation of pay for play excellent sex thanks to a strong chemical attraction between you two.

In other words, a God awful train wreck.

Well, at least thank the lord you didn't get married or get her pregnant (Let's pray for that last one anyways.)

You both have a lot of growing up to do to even consider keeping this thing going, I won't even begin to keep track of all the penalty flags I would have tossed had  I been the referee during this game.

In the meantime, yes, you should avoid each other, which is a lot easier said then done, and I wouldn't bet my rent money on you staying away from each other either.  I've sat through this show too many times now.

And yes, do take BP's suggestion and contact the Love Goddess.  She might be able to help.

(By the way, LG and I are now over our thing and are just good friends, in case anyone was wondering.)

She got you hooked there johnnie boy!

Go and find another ASAP and see if you can get that one to cannibalize your wallet as well  LOL

BTW...she and I had a great time on her birthday...Sorry about that  

A New Hobby

Lets not forget the hobby is about NSA fun. You wouldn't be the first hobbyist to fall for a beautiful, sexy, attentive lady that treats you like a king, however seeing someone an hour or so at a time is not a meaningful relationship. Maybe it's time to take up golf

Stop obsessing over hookers and get a life..

What happened to the time when guys talked sports, drank whiskey, rode dirt bikes, went hunting?


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The closer you allow yourself to get to a professional, the more it is going to hurt when reality slaps you on the ass. STOP paying her a dime and ask her out...see what she says. If that answer is "NO" then I think you know the rest. Why do you guys complicate such a simple business transaction with your overblown emotional bs? It is beyond annoying!

If we wanted to see you off the clock, we would! You should also never loan her money, but because you got so involved in her personal life, she feels she has a right to depend on you. YOU brought that on yourself. And facebook? Really? So she lets clients on her family and friends page? Wow...brilliant! You two are made for each other.


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Obviously you want to so, why beat around the bush. Tell her you will give her a Mercedes SL 550 as a wedding present and will forgotten and great sex thereafter.

You dumb fuck, you never write email or talk to anyone when you are mad.

Would you really want to be with someone who only wants you around when they get into a bind themselves.  If she doesn't want you to see anyone else, but gets made when you tell her you can only think of her I would question her motives.  It sounds like she wants you on the string just doesn't want to be on one also.  Move on and don't answer if she tries to contact you.  You will be happier long term and I bet the messages quit pretty quick.  She'll find someone else fast.