Besides the uninterrupted flow (no pun intended) of the act what else is it about being swallowed that makes some of us seek it out as the goal of the session? Is there a dominance aspect? Too much porn as a kid? I wonder because I seek it and yet at the point I really couldnt honestly care where it went as long as its gone.

On many different different levels we are seeking acceptance. When a lady goes the distance to actually consume our ejaculate a very real sense of acceptance of us is left in our psychie. In the contrary CBJ is a sign of NON-acceptance and a "mechanical" distancing from us.
  The above ramblings are just my opinion and should not be construed as "scientific" fact or conjecture.  For some possibly the dominance or control aspect IS the force behind the pleasure. For me however it is just a sweet, tender, jesture of "acceptance".

Well, as Dice said.......... "but honey, i don't wanna cum in your hair, we're in a nice restaurant!"

But other then that, i'd have to agree with FR. While i've never had a conversation with a provider about this particular thing, it seems that alot of ladys consider that act to be a very very personal thing.

Snow

I guess for some it may be a dominance thing, but that can be said of head anyway especially hard "face fucking".

However, to me it is a matter of mechanics. I like to come and have have my partner  continue to drain me for a bit. So if she then does not swallow she must find a graceful way to spit.

The alternative of a face shot has some appeal where the women expresses delight but does not have the same feel.

Like you Lurkey, at the moment I could care less where it went.  I have had great BJ's where it was leaked out the side and I didn't know until later.  That worked just because the "flow" wasn't broken.  The mess later was not so hot, but hey, I'm a big boy and know what comes of acts like that.  

I really do not like the BJ interrupted and switched to a HJ at the finish.

I think that there is a little "wow she'll do that for me?" when I read the reviews, and I think that there is just a speck of taboo to it as well.

And I LOVE hot & nasty!!!

   Hmmm, interesting speculation, and may have some grounds to it. The caveat is that this theory works better when referring to personal relationships, and the woman is usually aversive to swallowing. That is, with you, it really is special, and she chooses to do it to feel more intimate with you, or maybe just to express how special her man is. If on the other hand, it's not a big deal to her, and swallowing yours is no more special than that guy yesterday, or two hours from now, then any feeling of acceptance would most likely come from a sense of being accepted as a *man*. Deep down, however, I'm sure men realize that the act doesn't necessarily indicate the motivation, and that plenty of women do it despite an aversion, but tolerate a few moments of unpleasantness simply to please and/or profit. Of course there are some womne who actually enjoy swallowing, whoever their partner is, but does this matter to their partner of the moment? Possibly, since I have often heard said that "she wouldn't do it unless she enjoyed it." which is an interesting and baffling statement, and aknowledges the relative unpleasantness of the act. I'm not going to bother ruminating on the ludicrousness of such statements, but suffice to say we all do things in our particular vocations that are less desirable than others, while other aspects can definitely be enjoyable-it's all individual.

i believe that it's solely a psychological boost for the guys who are into it (i'm not one of them) ... cuz surely we don't get any physical pleasure from her actually swallowing (frankly, i'd rather she swallow my shaft than my semen)

some say the lack of "interruption" in BBBJTC is the key factor behind this "fetish" ... but there's no real need for her to swallow is there? she can always hold on to it and spit it out discreetly ... what remains is the actual "ingestion" of the semen, which as others have alluded to, has various psychological associations (acceptance, appetite/thirst, consumption, etc)

porn flicks that insist on an uninterrupted scene that shows the girl swallowing (with a view of her empty mouth as "proof" after the fact) are all about authenticating this act for those who cherish this fetish with relish (hey, i just rhymed fetish!

Your question says "besides the uninterrupted flow" but that's a big thing.  When I am cumming any sudden change in what's going on can cut short the enjoyment.  I don't want the sucking to stop until my dick stops pulsing with my heartbeat.  

To make sure my be-yatch knows who the boss is.

I have experienced a wide variety of fellatio in my life.  If fellatio is done well, anything from CBJ to BBBJTCCIMNQNS can be great.  However, in my personal experience, each progressive step makes it more intense for various reasons.  Progressing from CBJ to BBBJ makes it better because of the extra sensation (although I would rather have CBJ by a great fellatrix than BBBJ by a pistoning robot with sharp teeth any day). Progressing from BBBJ to BBBJTC (with a handjob) is better that that because the man is on the receiving end for the whole length of the oral experience.  BBBJTCCIM (spit or leak out) is better than that, because it doesn't interrupt the sensation during the orgasm.  I have had many BBBJTCCIM (spit or leak out) in my life, and this is certainly acceptable for a professional who offers CIM, especialy if it is done "gently".  I have had girlfreinds who did this, and it is just fine by me.  Just keep a washcloth around, and you both are good to go.  However, there is no question that BBBJTCCIMNQNS is the best, because you get all of these things, as well as a woman who enjoys the experience enough to enjoy swallowing your being (figuratively...and assuming she isn't just doing it for the $ and secretly hating it).  I mean, who wouldn't view that as an added psychological bonus, especially if they are orally inclined themselves?  

It is like the difference between a guy who likes to perform cunnilingus but does it gingerly and goes and washes off his face when he is finished and a guy who does the Carl's Jr. ("If it doesn't get all over your face, you are doing it wrong") and still is going down on his woman after she came just because he loves the taste.

ORAL SEX RULES! :P~~~



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...because you f'ers want women to clean up ALL your s***...your dirty clothes, your leftover food, all those old newspapers...like this would be any different.

I ain't eatn' nothin' that comes out a whole I can't see into.

yes dear. my thug.

is because I am not wild about the taste (( But, like I always said, If the flavor ever came in Strawberry & cream, watch out!

Love,

Mel

I've always been interested by the fact that where you cum is so much a part of the experience for so many guys - swallowing is one thing, but others like to cum on you, they want to see it, or they want to see it dripping on you, or down your chin.  Just one of those cute little quirks you guys have, that's also fun for us to get into.

-Anya

The best answer for year 2003! lol Amen, Sedona!

I had to chuckle, for her (sugar's) answer was totally direct, honest, and very straight to the point! LOL One of the best answers for the year 2003!

Love,

Mel

I agree, Anya, that there is a visual aspect to it. The most stunning visual I have experienced was when a provider opened her mouth to show me it was full of my cum, smiled, and promptly swallowed.

True for me, but only to an extent.  Up the nose, in the eyes, and in the hair is more than a little gross.  I think it's demeaning, done as a dominance thing.  

I like getting some (or all) back in a kiss.  I don't like the taste either, Mel,but this is very exciting to me!

Keri in Atlanta was theatrical in this way re: swallowing it.  Filled her mouth, looked down at me, smiled ... then looked up to the ceiling, swallowed, then looked back and smiled again.  Very proud of herself.  Quite a turn on.

If it was an everyday occurrence, it wouldn't be a big deal.

You get what you pay for, and some of us are extremely gifted and please well. Happy new year baby.

Well, I have a question for all on this thread

Does it make a provider less than a "GFE" because she doesn't swallow? I consider myself 100% GFE, although I don't swallow. I get totally into the session, into my man at the moment, and enjoy being passionate with him. I only swallowed for one guy that I had dated, for he was a vegan, and the taste was out of this world! I had one bad experience when swallowing for a client, some years ago, and I remember being sick all day long, after the session (I still get bad flash backs, when I think about it, to this day lol).  I believe that yes, it can be true, that you get what you pay for, but it doesn't always apply. When you get me, you will get a passionate, caring, loving, sensual woman here, who is here to please you, and with high marks on performance!  But, I do have the reservation about swallowing. Does this make me a less desirable woman? Just curious...

Mel

Anya, I love your attitude about the whole thing, because that's exactly what it is...  A cute little quirk.  Most of us have odd little hot-buttons that have in common:
1.  Can't really be explained or justified, so if they're not your thing, they'll seem "silly" to you;
2.  Are therefore usually embarrassing to admit,
3.  Are usually optional--they're great if you hit them, but usually aren't deal-busters if you don't, and
4.  When exploited well, add way more intensity to your partner's experience than you think think they should.

I have to admit (blush) that for whatever reason (more blushing) having a provider encouragingly and enthusiastically finish me (blushing continues) all over the "Russian part of town" is pleasantly rewarding.  Can't explain it, don't need it, meets all 4 of my tests for being a hot-button, ESPECIALLY #2!

As for what has often been said in previous threads, and mentioned briefly in this one about being demeaning to the woman...  I hate the idea that a provider (or any partner, for that matter) would ever see it as a gesture of overt or subconscious disrespect on my part.  Quite the opposite, there's something really humbling about the acceptance aspect that others have mentioned.

If you think about it, the psychology of it all has its roots in practicality.  My "stuff" is always something that's had to be protected against.  Between birth control and STD prevention, there are multi-billion dollar industries built around protecting the world from my stuff.   Being that my "stuff" is the ultimate representative of, well, me, it takes on a subconscious value to the guy that may not be readily understood.  To others it's a yucky mess, but to me, it really is just mini-me.  Enter a willing partner who's response ranges from "not really my thing, but I'll go along with it for you" all the way to "give it to me baby, I want it"...  Doesn't matter whether he knows she's just acting or not, the stage has been set for it to constitute a turn-on.

Reservations about swallowing do not make you a less desirable woman. Every provider has her limits (CBJ only, no DFK, etc.) and I know and accept them beforehand.

I have never experienced a session where a provider's limits got in the way of my enjoyment - it has always been personality issues.

By the way, you didn't mention your great sense of humor, Mel.

Love that shirt, baby!

The act of swallowing has nothing to do with being a GFE.  Maybe I led a sheltered life, but I never expected my girl friend to do anything like that.  Seriously though, a ladies attitude has much more to do with the experience than any specific activity.  It's nice to CIM, but what she does afterwards is her business.  I've had exceptional experiences without any BJ.  So, be yourself.  

tennis

I've only got a couple of regulars that swallow and I have never requested it. They just do it. One says she loves to do it because she loves the taste and because it's so erotic to her. I'm not complaining because I too think it is very erotic. But it is definitely not a requirement for me.

I'm so sad that you're not in the NY area.

The real reason is that its so damn sexy.

I love it when a woman is so cock hungry that she will gobble my spunk.

The best BJ I have ever had was a deep throat BJ where she swallowed while it was all the way in.

Well for me it just completes the feeling that she is so into seeing me happy just as I never want to leave without her being honestly satisfied. No faking, really satisfied.

The look of utter amazement on their face!