Enjoy the time you're with her, don't be creepy (c'mon, you know what creepy is...if you find yourself wondering if you're being creepy, you're being creepy), and the best tip is repeating....this really isn't rocket surgery. The fact that you're devoting brain power to this is worrisome, are you sure you're keeping things in perspective? Remember, anything called an "experience" is called that because it isn't the real thing.
I have been seeing this provider and we hit it off smoothly, the sex is amazing and the GFE attention has me coming back. She has texted me nice things, and I would reply back, but I don't want to text more than the norm. I have bought her recently something nice to wear, and I always tip her good enough (well not last time though). Question, what do you providers consider creepy, or grounds for terminating clientele.
My regular and I exchange texts on a fairly regular basis, even though we see each other about every two weeks, but I think that's unusual. My impression is that a polite thank you, really enjoyed it text after is about the limit that most providers want to deal with.
I think the degree of GFE is relevant here.
I will initiate one text/email and then continue the conversation as long as she does, if I don't get a response to a text I assume that she is busy and the conversation is tabled until SHE contacts me again, unless of course it's to schedule an appointment.
One other caveat to this rule, this applies to providers I am "friendly with" as opposed to actual friends, If you have to ask the difference, assume she is in the first category.
The key is mutual respect for each others time and privacy.
Nuff said.
I only call or text in direct context of a date, overwhelmingly only prior to a date, rarely, very rarely after. I'm paying for a fantasy for a specific period of time, when it's over, it's over, until next time. Trust, should not be taken lightly. This is not to say I wouldn't reply to a message from her, but unnecessary contacting her is simply an infringement on her time.
That's my opinion, I didn't charge you for it, and that's what it's worth.
Nothing impresses a provider more then a fat envelope. If you have to buy her approval too, well........
Thats not true...
A fat envelope & _______ might impress her a little more. But the fat envelope definately works!
But other things work 2 find something she personally likes to impress her specificly. A little thought if you know her well enough... depending on the girl she may be impressed on the gesture alone. But an extra boost would be something she has expressed an interest of to you. It will surprise her that u paid a bit of attention... if paying attention is too much throw down that fat envelope.
For me it would be a guy who sends text messages,emails,or calls constantly.Even after asking not to do so and still continues to do it.
Not really always to book an appt but to just shoot the shit.
If the provider is texting you nice things and you want to respond I don't find anything wrong with that.
She is the one who started with the text messages to you not the other way around
I agree but having said that a friend of mine who I talk to almost everyday will not text or call me unless I contact her because she does not want to get me in trouble with my SO and I appreciate her for that respect.
and continue contributing. If you are lucky enough to find an ATF in this world who makes you feel amazing thats awesome...then just take care of her, don't take advantage of her. I will assume she's here for a reason. The best thing you can do is to keep things at a constant for both parties involved. Keeps it simple, as simple as it can be.
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You and Turdy are like moths to a flame, no matter how much abuse you bring upon yourself, you still have to come back for more.
So how long did you last away from here this time, about a week?
personal biz to attend to, that's all. Never said I was leaving forever.
If you admit to abuse...ok.
Anyhow regarding your post below, speaking of moth to a flame? you know you really shouldn't think about me when you're with another woman...that's not really fair to her now is it lol.
I missed you too. Try and behave, I know you can.
Nope! 'Twas another one of these
...considering that you are employing her for a service, why do you want to impress her? Or is "impress" the right word?
How do you impress other people who provide a service for you?
I try to impress my dentist by taking care of my teeth.
I shampoo before getting a haircut.
I take all the accumulated junk out of the backseat before dropping off my car for an oil change and check up.
So, good hygiene, a cheerful disposition, what else?
Maybe being in the moment, whether you just enjoy regular fare or like to experiment.
If a contractor went out of his way to impress his receptionist, she might not be very impressed.
Providers don't like creepy clients. So "impress" her by not being creepy.
How do you impress other people who provide a service for you?
I try to impress my dentist by taking care of my teeth.
I shampoo before getting a haircut.
I take all the accumulated junk out of the backseat before dropping off my car for an oil change and check up.
So, good hygiene, a cheerful disposition, what else?
Maybe being in the moment, whether you just enjoy regular fare or like to experiment.
If a contractor went out of his way to impress his receptionist, she might not be very impressed.
Providers don't like creepy clients. So "impress" her by not being creepy.
For example, I had a nice session about a month ago. Good time. Weird guy but otherwise no problems.
After the session, we exchanged a few friendly "thank you" "had a great time" texts.
But over the last month, he has sent me maybe a dozen more texts saying stuff like, "Thinking of you" "I miss you" "dreamed about you last night" "need you so badly" "wish you were here" "miss your body" etc. After a few of these texts, I just got a bad feeling. With another guy, these texts would be perfectly OK, but with this guy, he just makes the hairs on my arms stand up.
So, the point is, if you are a creepy guy, you probably won't be aware of this. It sounds like you are a normal guy, and just excited by this provider. By posting your concerns, you are probably ok.
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Enjoy the time you're with her, don't be creepy (c'mon, you know what creepy is...if you find yourself wondering if you're being creepy, you're being creepy), and the best tip is repeating....this really isn't rocket surgery. The fact that you're devoting brain power to this is worrisome, are you sure you're keeping things in perspective? Remember, anything called an "experience" is called that because it isn't the real thing.
Don't really agree with your last sentence that anything called an experience isn't the real thing. An old Hemmingway short story called "The Capital Of thd World" would explain the argument. The abridged version is that there's a reality to the people making and sharing the experience. This thread isn't the place to solve the semantics of that riddle. Granted there's a reason why "fantasy" and "reality" aren't synonyms.
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And while I concede nuances and complexity, I still believe there is a difference between "real in the moment" and "real real" where the passion and sexual energy derive from, or lead to, something else. Can it be "real" in the sense that two humans got off on each other? Sure. "Real" as in I need to fret about impressing her as if there is truly something to gained or lost here? I sure as hell hope not.
And obviously, when gentlemen decide to be less chivalrous than the norm. I think you will know exactly how to handle it because the dynamics should be pretty established and reciprocate, keep the texting a bit light for now and see what happens....
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Impress the provider with the correct amount of funds for the services rendered.
Visit her on a regular basis. It shows that you like her way of offering the services.
That's enough to impress anyone.
No need to buy her anything extra unless you are planning to marry her.
started text few times a day telling me where he is what he is doing and what he wants to do with me and just sharing his problems ..
I tis fantasy of love
of course I love you .. while you are not interact my normal course of life and do not think really I am here all just for you ..
I do treat man as he is only man in the world ONLY ONE among millions of others .. it is good for a fantasy and sexual dram .. please do not push on me having this dream for free . even you would donate me a million I may say no .. .. you have really to get to my mind heart and occupy me .. so I would have a need to have your 100000000000 texts and email per day ...
be realistic ..
I also want to be lost in love and fantasy ... 100000000000000 text a day IS NOT a fantasy .controlling every my step and dream.. is NOT my fantasy .. so .. as soon as you becoming needy - you are out
so simple ..
Actually, I don't. You didn't really mean to be replying to me, now, did you? Oh, well, it's all good. Will you be voting for or against Crimean secession today?
Women like attention.
Find out where she lives and go throw some pebbles at her window, then serenade her with something like this:
keep it as business is possible and keep your distance and don't try to stay over your hour and take advantage of her kindness.
more than likely she'll end up resenting you and in the end won't want to have you as a client at all
I like the clients that leave as quickly as possible no offense but I will never be rude and cut someone off and told him to leave I will smile and try to make sure they leave feeling good about themselves.
however there are some that will begin to think that you truly do like them and it stinks but you have to kind of give them a reality check ......
I know with me boundaries get crossed all the time between me and the clients and they overstep the boundaries with me I end up having to remind them that I am NOT attracted to them at all and that they are old and hairy and this is just an appointment and that it is wat it is....
when they get to the point that they truly believe that you have nothing better to do than hang out with them for hours and hours for nothing talking about stupid old man subjects
just kidding just don't expect her kindness to be weakness be grateful she likes you and is being kind to you but give her the respect to leave when the hours up and don't make her have to remind you
the worst is when you finally have to start pushing them out the door and asking them to leave I really don't like having to do that I like the guys that come and get the appointment and they abruptly take off because they have business to take care of in their own lives as opposed to
being disrespectful of the fact that I do have a life of my own and things that I need to carry on with
I would say say you should be the clock watcher
once you start overstepping your welcome and staying longer and longer and longer each time she will surely stop liking you as much as she did before
I know for me and many others we have student loans to pay off we have credit issues or maybe we are caught up I know for me I defaulted on a student loan I'm trying to pay for my own apartment I don't have anyone helping me
and for me I pretty much barely have time to breathe on my own when the clients take a lot a lot of mental energy for me it's almost more difficult than the physical part of the appointment the mental part of it is even more draining when they won't leave and you have to keep reminding them to go