after i finished the 1st round, we talked and she told me she just likes women(no guys). talk about taking the wind out of guy's sails. i showered, dressed and left. after dropping 25  Andrew Jacksons for a hr session ( it was like 40 minutes when i jetted), atleast pretend you like men. maybe i should have put this in the worst experience forum. the sad thing is i had even a worst experience than this.

and you won't be going broke on this hobby huh LOL Grin

I was on an overnight and the girl told me she didn't like sex with clients.  And I said to myself, well, I try to make this a good experience but she is not paying me to have sex with her.  I paying to have sex with her so it doesn't really matter what she thinks as long as I don't hurt her.

As for you, did you enjoy your first round with the lady before you found out she was gay?  A lot of these providers has SO's of some sort or another.  A lot are more sexually experienced than you.  Despite the reviews you read, they are not all multiorgasmic with every single client.  But you had a chance to be.  You can sure try to pleasure the provider but rate the experience based on her reaction is bound to be disappointing.  

And to think that someone is going to change their sexual orientation based on you paying to have sex leaves me speechless (and that's pretty hard to do)

Now would be the perfect opportunity to go make that budget you asked about last post and remember who is paying to have fun and don't worry about what the provider thinks so much

a lady telling me she preferred women than men.  There are many lesbians in this business just as there are many lesbian strippers.

One of the ways ladies in sex trade used to protect themselves emotionally is to have relationships with women since most of them saw the worst side of how men behaved.

First, she has sex with men (and now supposedly women) so that makes her bi-sexual at best and confused at worst.

If she has sex with women exclusively, she would be a lesbian.  It doesn't matter that she is having sex with men for money.  In the short of it, having sex with both men and women makes one bi-sexual.

I also have to wonder about her motivations in tell you this little gem.  Maybe she gets off on deflating men during sex?

Look, you paid her, had a good first round and then got confused by her announcement.  Understandable? Yes!  Should it throw you for a loop?  Not really!

You are the one paying for the priviledge to use her body for your pleasure.  Her personal life, announced or not, is immaterial.  Just use her (politely) for the services she provides and move on.  

This is why I tend to only see providers I know and care about.  In the end, I become a valued client and not someone to play head games with.

Just my opinion and I could be wrong.
In this case, I doubt it.

Loarthan

And quadruple your fun. Twice the performance for half the price.
If a provider can draw hobbyists at a high hourly rate, her looks and her ego can certianly be a big part of it. So she might not really care about pleasing every hobbyist.

If you read his note, he says she told him she just likes sex with women, she never said she doesn't have sex with men, he was the one who said she was a lesbian.

But the real point as you said is he let his pleasure be dictated by what she said, not how he felt.

and two he asked awhile ago how not to go broke doing the hobby.  Well, this isn't it.  By my count this is the 3rd encounter in 3 weeks.  

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Your post tells us far more about you than it does this lady.
I think your handle is very telling as well.  If you show up to
an appointment as a cranky-asian then you are not going to get as much out of the session as 'Asian-Gentleman'
Paying a lady for her time is no guarantee of a good session if one is not willing to bring their best to the session as well.
Of course that is just my opinion but I have never allowed a woman's personal sexual orientation to put me out of the mood.
Especially if she is hot!

This is supposed to be fun!

Marty

Well it looks to me by the subject line of the thread that she told him she was 100% lesbian.

On the other hand, I'm not sure that having sex with a man qualifies a woman as bisexual if her sexual preference is women.  Thew extreme example would rape.  According to Loarthan a lesbian who is raped becomes bi.

Remember that the brain is the master sex organ.  It's what the person prefers that dictates the orientation not the act.  And the person may be the only one on the planet who knows the true orientation.  There have undoubtedly been millions of people over time who have faked it for their whole life, had children, raised families and taken the secret to their grave.

Actually a lesbian is one who is only aroused by other women.  They may perform the sex act with men but are not aroused by it.  A bi-sexual person is aroused by both sexes and a hetrosexual person is only aroused by the opposite sex.  My .02

she doesn't want to see you again, and thought this would cinch it.
Had a guy tell me that So and So weren't in the business anymore; when in fact they are. They just don't want to see him again.

I agree with you ... that was a bad business strategy at best and absolutely STUPID at worst.

Their 'business' is all about marketing the product the way the customers want to see it.  Most know this, but apparently a few don't 'get it' and thing that it's about the fact that they possess some marvelous body that is, in some way, better than the next girl's.

All this talk we do about the GFE ... and how important it is .. and some still thing they have solid gold between their legs and seem to think that sparks fly from their ass ... and that nothing more is required of them.

We men, generally speaking, say that we're looking for truth, but in reality we're shopping for echoes.

If I wanted unvarnished truth from a provider, I'd ask for no makeup, frumpy clothes .. maybe even hair in curlers.  Or better yet, I'd tell her I want a married couple fantasy, where I'd show up and she'd refuse to touch me!!!!!

Gee, I'm gay, but I thought you could maybe change that.  I guess I'll go back to doing what I enjoy.  YMMV

i have not problem with her being gay and i know you can not change a person's sexual orientatation. just don't tell me during the session.

One possibility is that she did not like you and used this method to get rid of you.  

Another is that she is a hard core lesbian who is in this business because she enjoys taking money from men and views it as payback.  In which case making a comment like she did was designed to extract another pound of flesh and ruin the experience for you.  If that is the case she certainly succeeded.

In any event as others have said she certainly is not trying to get any repeat business by making unsolicited comments of that nature.

Rape is NOT a voluntary act and I take great exception to your implication about my statement.

Please, let's just stay on track here and not digress into issues intended to simply inflame anger.

the session sucked (see my review). i do not think she did it on purpose. she seemed like a nice girl. she told me she has been doing it for 6 months to pay for school. i guess she did not know to keep her mouth shut. oh well.

Try this then.
1)you see a girl you like, go do a search on her, if she good reviews from names you know from the boards, then she checks out and you have to decide if you want to see here.
2)you see a girl you like and she is from a reputable agency such as the one you used for your other try, you can call the agency and see if she is a good fit for you.
3)This is the hard one. you see a girl you like, she has one hot review.  Then you do a search on the reviewer to see if she is the only one he has ever reviewed(a problem, probably a shill) or if he has a bunch of reviews which are compatible with the other reviews on the girls(thats good).  You can also do a search on the phone number or the website if it is an agency to see what the other ladies reviews are. If they are all B&S, then chances are yours will be too.

Remember you are a newbie.  They don't teach fighter pilots air to air combat the first week.  Take the tried and proven ladies.  Sometimes the best way to budget is to spend a little more on a proven thing rather than always trying to get a deal from a crooked used car salesman. Let someone else take one for the team, that's for the folks who don't read TER LOL grin