There is a time and a place for the spouse treatment, but its called the spouse treatment for a reason.

Had a date recently with a lady who obviously thought it would be cool to not fully prep herself for our meeting. Shocking for one who charged 300 an hour. I expected more.  

I remember when i was married having a long day and crashing in bed only to wake up at 4 in the  morning horny as fuck as going at it with little to no preparation before. You just do it. That's cool, but not on a date.  

I am sure more of us have a nightmare story for a date  who did not prepare well for the encounter. What is your story?

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and while I'm not about to reveal any delicate information, let's just say that there is a difference often between meeting an escort for the first time and meeting her again for the nth time after many years of knowing each other.

 
There's a certain maturing process that goes along with this, and it has certain advantages, but it's nice to see someone new once in a while to regain that old feeling of "the first time."

 
As for preparation however, I don't recall that being much of an issue.  It's more an attitudinal thing, which can be illustrated by the following amusing story:

 
A man boarded a train for a long trip, and bought a ticket for a berth so he could sleep well during the night.  Retiring to his berth, he found that his berth-mate was a woman, who was not bad looking.  He asked if she had any concerns about sharing the area with him, and she replied "none", and he offered her the lower berth which she accepted.

 
There was a pitcher of water for their use for drinking, and during the night the man awoke with his mouth parched.    He inquired of his roommate if she would mind pouring a glass of water for him so that he could avoid having to climb down from his berth.  

 
To his surprise, her response was:  "Would you like to pretend that we are married?"  The man was taken aback but delighted with her proposal.  "Would I"  was his response.

 
"Well then get your damn water yourself!"  was her retort.

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I had a date a couple of years ago with a provider I'd seen many, many times. She was $500 an hour. She was always impeccably dressed, with hair and makeup done perfectly, and always wore some great-looking heels.

On one occasion, she had on almost no makeup, her hair was tied up with one of those rubber band thingies, and she was wearing a very plain dress/nightgown and no shoes. It was like being greeted by a wife. I told her to put on some makeup, fix her hair, put on a nice dress and heels, and we'd start over again.

I'm a nice guy, too nice I think, and it seems like people get the idea they can get away with things. I think I'd seen her often enough that she thought she could slack off. Just like being married for six months.

Even Being familiar with an escort and seeing she "n" number of times, there is still an amount of respect and consideration one should have for one another.

If i have a date after I get off work (I have an office job" I will still shower upon my  arrival. I would expect the same of her.

Love your second story by the way. Hilarious.

After 18 months, I got a fee increase and the feeling that she could walk in looking however she pleased.  
Never unattractive, but never dressed up anymore, not even sexy lingerie.  

Impeccable hygiene and stunning, the enjoyment of seeing what's below her outerwear, even if only jeans and a casual top, has disappeared.  

Getting "close" to her has made her complacent. But what i can't accept is a vanilla performance. The sex is either red hot or I wish she didn't come over.

I was thinking more about dress and makeup issues.

 
I'm just an old flower child, and I never placed much truck in those things.

I disagree about dressing up, makeup, etc.  "Spouse treatment" is what happens when sex becomes perfunctory & passionless. I've had plenty of that from women in sexy lingerie & nice makeup.

To me, it's all about attitude, interest, excitement, and passion. Preparation (beyond basic hygiene) is key, but I'll go with whatever makes a woman feel her sexiest. In the end, it's 90% mental. I love undressing a woman to see "what lies beneath", but a woman dressed in nothing but a towel is pretty fantastic too.

I know there's guys who don't care for or care about makeup and dressing up. I'm one who does. The more "glam" the better.

It also depends upon the woman. The one I spoke of had curve after curve after curve, and seeing her in a tight short dress was the experience of a lifetime. The young woman I'm seeing now looks spectacular in just a bra, panties, and heels, and I don't ask her for anything more.  

I enjoy some amount of clothing on a woman, as it always feels like Christmas.

There is a huge difference between not dressing the way you expected her to dress, and having an ass that smelled like shit.

Some guys (i.e. Myself) are perfectly happy with a gal meeting me bare feet, in a towel, with wet hair just out of the shower, or in street clothes. Others expect fancy lingerie, heels, and full makeup, and candles and music in the room.  

On the other hand, if she was not showered and clean and fresh smelling with good breath, or she didn't have condoms, or her room was a mess, that is what I would call unprepared.

Being all glammed up isn't important to me, although if a provider wants to do that, that's great.  What's more important to me and tells me she is focusing on me for our time together is her hygiene and her attitude.  If she took the time to make herself squeaky clean and fresh from head to toe, and is fully present and focused on having a good time, that's all I ask.  

On my last date, the provider (whom I've seen many times) greeted me only wearing a thong, sandals, and a smile.  No makeup, hair tied up neatly but not precisely.  She looked perfect to me.

Hunni, if ur client done did say it wasn't an issue, it wasn't. Enjoy the surprise like catching a 10lb ass on a popper.

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lucky because I have never had an issue with a girl not being ready for an appointment with perfect hygiene, and hair and makeup done.  However,  when I see one of my regulars OTC, or an outside girlfriend, I sometimes miss the perfectly made up look, but when its OTC time with a provider, you can't look a gift horse in the mouth.  When its a relationship that has moved to outside boyfriend/girlfriend, then I'm more comfortable suggesting I would like a little more makeup when going out in the evening so she looks as hot for me as she did when I first met her as a customer.  It just shows a little respect, IMO.  

I would call it "spear-fishing for turds."

Funny, I get a lot of requests from guys to not wear make up. That's usually after an overnight after they see me without make up though.

Those are also the people who tend to more like the natural look.  

One of the weird things about this, is everybody wants something different. One person wants it to be professional, impeccably dressed, complete fantasy, Donald trump's wife, all the time.

But then there are the other people who like a girl to mix it up to make it feel more real, where they can get different aspects of the lady's style, dress, and life.  

 Over the long term, it creates a great relational fantasy. Unfortunately if somebody told me put on some make up, I will tell him to go fuck himself.  Everybody wants something different, but some don't want a girl dressed for a black tie event every single time.  

Even though it makes sense that you're hiring someone, and paying a lot of money, that you don't want them to "slack". But when you're trying to do something cute for someone, making yourself vulnerable to show them another side of you  so the actual sexual relationship can be deeper,  and then that gift is rejected-not sexy to me.  

To each his own, however I have found a great result in occasionally opening the door in a robe and no make up at 11 PM. Guys have loved it, and it has gotten them to book overnights.  

Love going all out, but Netflix & chill is hot too.

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I've been lucky not to have that. In fact, a long time ago I had a LTR with a girl I met in the hobby for a couple of years, and even when we were living together she would always wake up before me and put on makeup. It was funny (and unnecessary, IMO). In fact, the first time I saw her without makeup, it was because we went to the beach together and it came off in the water. She didn't notice, and I didn't tell her.  The whole time I knew her, I could count on one hand the number of times I ever saw her with no makeup.

I don't mind casual dress. That is fine. She does not have to get all dolled  up all the time. I mean clean and presentable for intimate encounters. Sometimes the day to day look is just as hot.

that prefers wearing makeup. My ex-wife was a very attractive woman, and almost always wore makeup. In reality, she looked even better with.  

It really doesn't matter much to me, with or without.

Several years ago, I made a date with a super hot pornstar! I couldn't wait to see her after previewing her work in a variety of porn clips. Of course I arrived showered and ready! We started on the couch , and OMG her bbbj and Russian were to die for! Eventually we make our way to the bed, and she flips for 69. After she takes her position I realized the her bung hole smelled like... well ... A recently used bunghole.  Needless to say, I lost my erection about 15 seconds later!  After that I extracted myself from the situation quickly!

I have not thought of it lately, but she is still around. Should I ask for a redo?

My voice text is totally screwing up all of my words, so I'll fix that up & re post when I get a minute. Lol.

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