I saw a provider who I can be 100% certain likes to be paid to have sex -- not just the act of sex but she wants to climax and she want her client to make it happen.  So where it got interesting was that she started to guide repeatedly my hands, show me how to fondle her nipples and I thought to myself..."my SO likes this way or that way but has never wanted me to do what this provider is asking for."  Anyhow, the sex was ok, but I went home thinking that she probably thinks she wrote the book on sex and guys just don't get it.  This would be the end of the story except that a week later the wife is really in the mood so I figure, why don't I try out these new moves and see what happens? I was all prepared for her to tell me that pinching her nipples this way hurt and so on...but, instead, it was fireworks. So...how was my experience with the provider? OK. How did it spice up my homelife?  I wonder what else I should learn?

Without knowing the lady you saw at all, I can pretty much guess definitely that it is not that she thinks she wrote the book on sex....  she just gave you the awesome experience of teaching you how to please her own unique desires.  If it turned out to be just "OK" for you, you missed something along the way!

I learned early on to do my best to try to find out just what the lady I'm with likes- no problem at all in just plain asking her to show me.

A couple of my most spectacular times with special oft visited ladies were born of exactly that.  Resulted in me spending a wonderfully prolonged episode of pleasing them and resulted from there in a very mutually wonderful lovemaking.

While some of the ladies out there are looking only to please you and get it over with, and while many of the guys are in it for their own satisfaction, there is nothing better than a mutual lovemaking experience.

My guess is probably the worst guys are the ones that think they know how to please a woman without asking!

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There is nothing better than having a woman show or tell you what to do that pleases her. A man may grunt or moan, or give an 'Oh yeah, baby' to let her know that he is enjoying what she is doing.  If that is reciprocated by verbal or touch cues from your partner that you are on the right track, it can lead to a crescendo of mutual excitement that can leave you both excited and exhausted.  Perhaps that doesn't happen as often as it could because, as you know, guys seldom pay attention, never stop for directions, and only make pit stops when they want to.  Maybe many women have given up on trying to make it better for both of us.

Indeed, I consider myself a man who is not simply infatuated by women but I really love women and aim to please. I have always asked and never assumed I know what buttons to push (she just shwed me some bottons I did not even know existed). It is just that I have been around for awhile and this provider brought herself (with my help) to a shattering climax. My point of the thread was that she knew more than most women seem to know about themselves. In other words, my wife (who was not an inexperienced woman when I met her nor is she inhibited about sex) was surprised that my 'new' tricks would so effectively push her buttons. The reason the sex was just ok with the provider was that I felt like a school kid in training and was taking mental notes. But I am a quick study.  It also is better (no matter what some recent threads state) to make love with a woman that is involved with you as opposed to having rocket sex. My 2 cents...

Be careful with all those new tricks you use on you wife. She may begin to wonder. Unless she already knows!

It's refreshing to hear from other guys who enjoy pleasing their partner of the moment and are open & observing what a lady may like.  

I AM a good lover (though under utilized) but I strive to be a great lover.  I sometimes reach that level according to my companions.  It would be delightful if my SO made the same effort.

I appaud your success & thank you for sharing...  just be prepared to answer where you learned such a move.  Hint:  there's a lot of ideas on "i villiage" women's site.  Also Cosmo & other mags I read at the dentist...  
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Be prepared to be able to answer the question of where did you learn that technique should the meme sahib ask.

You better practice your answers on a provider and make sure she feels like you will pass inspection.

Women are, if nothing else, extremely intuitive.

Women can have orgasms, too????

1) Ask his partner what she likes;

2) Tell her he likes to experiment because there may be a method of stimulation she has not tried that will be stimulating for her.

Re #2:  I found out that a partner can squirt by using cucumbers in our sessions.

Surprisingly, many couples seem to just let things happen in bed without communicating.

True. But it would make for some interesting salad dressing!  LOL

-- Modified on 6/9/2008 6:10:23 AM

Can't you just let the guy enjoy the moment?

Don't you prefer this kind of story over one about how some "stud" pounded some woman's ass for 2 hours and gave her twenty orgamisms?

Can't you find some church group to hang out with? Maybe that's what I need to do? I should  find some church group with a public forum and go on there and ridicule them for their beliefs.

Please go somewhere else with your moralizing bull shit.