Hmmm?? Really?
With the internet, sites like Twitter, Facebook, etc, etc, I would say it is next to impossible to be discreet.
What advice would some of you seasoned providers give to the new ladies? ( for discretion )
I am pretty amazed that we are not infiltrated by LE here on TER?? Unless they have bigger fish to fry?

discrete, stay away from social media. I realize some providers use social media as a marketing tool but there exists a risk of being discovered by family or friends outside of this world.

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A lot of indiscretions in this territory are due to providers engaging in drama, interacting with the wrong people or thinking that "their secret is safe" on Facebook, twitter or with their significant other. I've seen also providers who have been outed by other providers so that's why I say choose your friends wisely. Be very careful about what info you post on social media regarding where you go and what you do, while twitter is fun, you can't really be all over the place revealing unnecessary details about your personal life and so on. There was a previous thread about someone finding a provider on Linked in so that gives you an idea of what could happen if too much info along with pictures is out here. And yes, LE reads TER.

So many claim discretion and contradict themselves with actions. Being discreet is more than just not telling the guy's wife lol. Gosh. Some things to help with privacy...

1. Don't show your face on the internet unless you are not naive to the fact that your family, friends, and a future employer can find it, and just dont' care. FYI, your married clients can't exactly take you to dinner (extended dates=money) if you are both local and you show your face. ANY of this friends, coworkers, etc. could have also seen you.  

2. Don't work from your own home, especially if you own it (in your name). One trip to the mortgage dept. and the guy knows everything about you...in fact, he can get that from your license plate when your damn car is in the driveway lol. I am sorry, but I find the idea of strangers cumming in the very bed I sleep in, to be rather disgusting. That is what hotels are for...they can wash the damn sheets, and it's not my sanctuary that I don't want tainted so to speak. I could never imagine having a child sleep in the very bed I had a client rubbing his ass all over the very same day. GROSS!  

3. I avoid any type of social or professional sites...too easy to find out your real identity with facial recognition software. If you have your face blurred on your site but not blurred on say LinkedIn or Match.com, it's easy to connect the two. Why anyone would use the same photos for two lives, is beyond me, but yep...it happens. Other than that, I don't believe in mixing the two worlds, and those sites are far too easy to hack into.  

4. Just protect yourself, and don't get too close to tons of people in this business. Most have no ambition and have an agenda to hurt those who do.  

5. Do NOT use your phone or email for this business when booking hotels!!! They check sometimes!  

6. Do NOT EVER hook up to the hotel internet...buy a wireless router and take it with you everywhere you go, or use your phone. Also, don't use the same hotel or even the same chain all the time. Forget about your damn reward points! Too many visits becomes obvious especially if you are seeing more than 1 guy a day, a week at a time. If you want points, go to hotels.com and get a free night after staying 10 nights in different hotels.  

7. Though some will disagree, I would never use a mailing list or keep a log of emails and numbers on the clients I have seen...sorry, but if you need a ref, then you will need to remind me of who you are, what you look like, where we met (which city and hotel) and what I wore. I am not keeping a log to give you a reference! Or, write a review! That's the best way for me to see who you are and what we have done to spark my memory. I don't need a log of shit, when your handle is on my profile.  

 

 

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And I have to agree with most of what you said.  

I am one of those people that simply do not care if my face is out there. I look at my situation like this: I started modeling nude before I ever thought of being an escort. Many many many photographers have photos of me nude, they most definitely have this beautiful face in them... So I am gonna be out on the net either way. My plans/goals are to always work independently and not have a boss, so I am too worried about the future employer part. The family part - yes - but like I said, nude modeling. My family knows I do that. They also know I danced....the truth probably would not surprise them all that much.

The car thing is something that I never thought about. And the car that I drive isn't in my name or the other persons' name who I share the car with. So it can't really be traced back to me.  

 
I do practice discretion, when it comes to information though. And it makes sense to not save phone numbers and other "information" about hobbyists. But I do have a maling list, but you  have to sign up, I don't just put you on it if you email me. So the guys on it know that they are signing up, and I assume it is a disposable email.

Another thing I recently learned: Use Google voice. Of course, duh don't put your phone in your name. But you can go even further, and hide your burner number. It's not totally necassary, since burner phones can't be traced back to you, but google voice has other perks too, like transcribing voicemails and sending them via text. Cuz I HATE listening to my VM and before I had GV I would let the mailbox fill up and never listen to them. Until I had to, to listen to a message I wanted to hear or something like that.  

I also agree with the part about references. If you only saw me once and it was more tha n a week or two, you will have to refresh my memory on who you are. Unless of course, you have something super memorable about you, or we have some kind of session that would stand out...

But yeah.

that there isn't an LE presence on TER? Now, how effective it might be remains a question.. I think is safer to assume LE is here.

The Difference Between “Discreet” and “Discrete”

discreet adj. Showing discernment or judgement in the guidance of one’s own speech and action; judicious, prudent, circumspect, cautious; often esp. that can be silent when speech would be inconvenient.    

 
discrete adj. Separate, detached from others, individually distinct. Opposed to continuous.

They are everywhere, but at least TER has a fictional tag and an adult content warning...other sites do not because there are CHILDREN on them. You don't combat being busted by what you say or don't say in a fk board...within reason of course. You do that through screening.

Let's not forget that even with all of your screening and following all of the safety rules, it all goes out the window when bozos on discussion boards start sharing info with anybody that asks!!!  

If anyone believes half the shit they read here, they need their head examined. Both escorts and clients LIE lol. If you're announcing what hotels you use, you kind of asked for it.

but yes, her advice is spot on.

Has anyone else noticed that the best advice here seems to come from the biggest Bitches/Assholes on the board? I wonder if there is some kind of correlation here? lol

Well, coming from king asshole, I take that as a compliment lol. Yes, I have noticed.

I was with a gal last night who never sees more than one guy in a given hotel room.  She's very low volume and usually sees no more than two guys on a given day.  So after the first one she leaves the first place and checks into a second one.  She saw me last night in CT, then left for NYC for another appointment.
I know another gal who's higher volume and has begun booking rooms in two different hotels on the same day in the same town.  She goes back and forth between them, never seeing consecutive guys in either room.
I'm not saying I'm suggesting either approach, just illustrating how different people approach the situation.  And it's not so much about discretion as staying safe from LE.
As for LE reading this board, there is one prominent example that's quite recent but can't be discussed here.


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We already know my comment to you was meant as a compliment. lol

Which would also describe yours truly.

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but that term certainly does not apply to London, I am pretty sure that both of us have a lot more sex than London, and she's a hooker. Of course, she does make more money at it than we do. lol

"the very bed I had a client rubbing his ass all over the very same day"   LMAO

Great info! Thanks for the advice.

I'm always amazed when I get an unsolicited  communication from a lady I saw long ago. So much for the "I don't keep any of your information" promise.  For my part I delete texts, emails, phone numbers, email addresses and physical addresses right after I leave a meeting.  Not that those can't be recovered by someone who's really intent on finding them. We're all a few keystrokes away from having our covers blown I know.  But why make it easy for snoopers.

I guess this whole discussion would be for naught, if we weren't doing something "illegal."
That's a whole other discussion, but I wonder how things would pan out in society if it were legalized?
Any thoughts?

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I for one will not use any of the new Media Technology and don't need followers knowing what Im doing and where Im going. If I want you to know I would post an add. Just like FB everyone wants to seem important included the number of followers. I for one don't operate out of my own personal home I know all my neighbors and don't want them to see guys coming in and out of my place  nor do I share a incall with other girls. In all screen well.

incall only, no one lives there. Renting two hotels rooms a day in NYC is like 800 bucks. How do they possibly make money unless they charge at least a grand? Even at that, not much money after the rooms, gas, and food come out.

Sweet zombie Jesus! As if I needed another reason to Never visit NYC.

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to SOME guys, that would give her a certain amount of allure as well, but yeah, she has that whole bitch thing going as well. lol