I am a poster of lots of reviews on this site. And I have been very fortunate that in doing my research and chosing providers wisely I have by and large had very good times almost always when with a TER-reviewed lady.

I just came across a review of a provider that I regard very highly.  The reviewer describes what seemed like a good date, albeit lacluster, and he rated her performance as a 6 ("Nice Time").  Now I do not for a minute doubt the veracity of this review, and I'm sure that this guy meant every word he said in the it, but it ended:

" [Provider's name deleted] is a very nice woman and very pleasant and maybe the fact that this was my 2nd session in as many days caused me to be a little less interested. She was certainly willing to try any position that I liked but we didn't seem to click. Afterwards she laid in my arms for well past the hour. [Provider's name deleted] is well reviewed and i just think that the timing was bad for both of us."

Here is my question:  The reviewer effectively blamed himself (or at least half-blamed hiimself) for the 6 in performance, and, under the circumstances, should he have written the review at all, since it was a review of his "less interested" performance, and not hers?

Well, what IS the purpose of a review, first? I'm sure that there may be a few answers on that..

Then, what is the motive of the reviewer when he posts a review?

Are there some who want to and do write a review of every session they have?
Do most prefer to only write a review if they want to share something with everyone else because it is something that others should know (good or bad?)

So, your question is good. Why did he even (bother to) write the review? Did he write a review on the other session he had with her?

I wonder if he wrote the two reviews so he could get the free month membership???  I saw the reveiw as well and wondered some about it.  I think as well the YMMV thing came into play here and it would be intersting to hear her side of the story.  I know if you don't click it can make for a less then pleasent experince.

Well,
I must admit I don't write many reviews but I also don't see as many people as others.  I think the last time I didn't review someone I was upset because I fighting with my ATF who I couldn't see and was in the midst of seeing three providers in 36 hours to make up for that.  She was very personable but CBJ is not my thing and there were a few other things going on in my head.  I didn't want to put an adverse review up just because I was in a bad mood.

That being said, the third provider I saw in that period I ranked very highly as she definitely was the best of the three even though I was "tired".  She went a long way to making my day better.

Also when I first met my ATF, I had one of the best orgasms of my life and that was less than 24 hrs after seeing two other providers (I tend to binge for geographic and S/O reasons).  I did cancel an appt after I saw her so I could see her again.

So I am not sure I would blame the "tired" theory.  A good provider can get me back up to speed fairly quickly.

I think if your pattern is to review everyone, then you need to review everyone and let the chips fly uder the subjective part.  That is why you need to be a VIP member so you can understand the numbers rating.  Fortitude was able to read between the lines because he is a paying member and is entitled to see the subjective part of the review.  You could  make the complete review available to everyone.  Something which would benefit the providers but do nothing for the paying hobbyist.  Something I for one would not be interested in.

Scoring is subjective. He provided reasons for the six. Let everyone know it was not a matter of willingness to perform but of their inability to click on that evening.

Perhaps you disagree because in your experiences she scores higher. That of course is your right, just as it is his to score based on his experience.

Keep in mind, I have only seen a couple ladies who each requested no reviews.

What you've described is something I don't believe that for me there is an answer that would always be the same.  My usual practice has been to see ladies with reviews by guys I consider credible & who appear to have similar likes.  Consequently my experiences have usually been similar to theirs.  Whether a little better or not quite as good, the differences haven't been significant.

There was one time, however, that I had a disappointing experience that was different.  The gal was relatively new, but did have a couple of good reviews posted.  I even pm'd one of the reviewers about her & received a positve response.  Beautiful gal...better looking than I expected...a 9 on my own scale.  So far, so good.  A little chit-chat etc, & she seemed personable enough...things still looking OK although I can't say any special rapport.  

But the bedroom activities weren't what I was hoping for at all, primarily because a couple of items weren't available to me that were supposedly on the menu.  Not talking about items out of the ordinary, but items which are important to me.  Consequently I couldn't have honestly rated performance anything other than a 6.  I'm always freshly showered, clean clothes, etc etc, & am usually able to make any lady that I spend time with feel at ease.  Other than that, I'm a pretty ordinary guy, nothing special about me one way or the other.  I fully understand the YMMV concept, but my mileage is usually pretty good.  But I'm not so naive as to think that all women will view me the same way.  

So even though this gal gave me a more direct phone number to call her in the future, I thought she either felt a lack of chemistry with me...or else the existing reviews were embellished quite a bit.  Not wanting to hurt her not-yet-established reputation in the event the former was true, I decided to wait & see a while before posting a review.  Subsequently she's gotten many more reviews, all with much higher performance ratings (9s & a couple of 10s) than I could have given her.  Consequently, I never posted a review & don't intend to.  Others may not agree, but hindsight tells me I made the decision I feel was correct under the circumstances.

This is why I dont feel the numbers are as important as reading the reviews.  OK the session was a 6 in performance, why?
He can't rate it a 9 or a 10 because it didn't meet his expectations of what a session rating a 8 or above should.
He didnt inflate his score simply because the lady usually gets higher scores he rated his experience over all and was honest in his dialog regarding the session.
The box scores are interesting if you look at them as a whole but one guys numbers dont rate a provider in my opinion.
(simply his experience)
Over and Out
ML

From what I am reading, the reviewer admitted that she performed to her ability, and he felt that they didn't click. Maybe she felt they clicked? Should that still go against her?

Mel

I too struggle with damaging a woman's financial situation by reporting the truth, but it is my feeling that even the fine line reviews should be reported, especially if they are different from the rest.

My one and only "rip-off" experience was with someone that had received 7s. After I wrote the review, I received at least six PMs about how others had been ripped off too. I almost wished that they had not told me that, because I felt like; where were they before I spent $$$$$$?

Only once did I ever feel that I slightly misrepresented the story a little, but the ratings were truthful and consistent with what the provider offered. It was my performance that was toned down to keep from revealing something special between us.

Sure it should be reviewed, I have seen a small handful of ladies more than once and the second times have been pretty incredible.  However I have had 2 providers that I have seen more than once and it fell into the same type of lack luster that is described here.  The providers in both cases took things for granted, she wanted to do the same type of things as the first time, she wanted to talk more, take a long hot bath, which none of these were on my agenda.  It made the situation akward almost blah .... it was both our faults though.. her taking things for granted and me allowing it to happen.. so I can see his problem. She was good but, not as good as could have been. anyone catching my drift here ......my .02

I hope that there is enough intelligence here to read reviews that differ so much from others and then read between the lines. I did not see the review, but I'm not afraid of a 6 amongst a slew of 8/9s. Especially if it was written that it was his fault or feelings.

accordingly, he did disclose the extenuating circumstances in his review.  In that regard, there's nothing wrong with the review.

I would ask you if you thought she thought they clicked but in point of fact they didn't, isn't the onus of an experienced provider to know there is a problem.

Or put it another way, would you be happy with an encounter where the communication between provider and client was so bad she couldn't tell they didn't click?  That kind of encounter mighth be good enough for a six/seven but I would feel enough of a disconnect not to rate higher than that.

We are really getting hung up on numbers the past few days and not enough of what the guy honestly thinks about the experience.

Again I have had great providers take me out of deep funks and that is what I feel a 9/10 experience should do.  If you walk in feeling good enough that Rosie O'Donnell gets a ten/ten for looks/experience, is that any better?

Should he have written the review?

Perhaps, perhaps not. However, the subject is moot, he did write the review.

Also, he only partially blamed the lackluster performance on himself. The review is fairly subjsective, correct? If, in his perception, they did not click, then that does warrant a lower score on performance. JMHO.

Lastly, this is not a matter of her perception, but rather his. Unfortunately, his perception was that his experience was only a six.

Now, all that being said, if the woman typically recieves higher scores than the six he gave her, and he says within his review that it was partly on him, then I'm sceptical it will truly hurt her. I say this because, while I have not reviewed a girl yet, I assume I will eventually. Plus, I have participated in this hobby with friends. We are going on a trip next week and will see some ladies. The girls we are looking at seeing have recieved good reviews with each of them getting at least one six. (The woman I will see requests no reviews, so no review from me this time.)

his experience (in this case as reflected on the performance score.)  If he would look at the performance score as a reflection of the effort a lady put it to help satisfy the client, he might score it differently.

Since he described in detail what happened, it is up to the readers to check the detail and make up their own minds.  JMHO, too many hobbyists simply look at the numerous scores without checking the detail.

Just my 2 cents.

It's a 6* (a qualified rating)

The * means they didn't click and he admits it could be due to his performance.  Nothing wrong with this.  It happens.

Certainly more appropriate to submit the review than not, IMHO.

Sorry about using an alias.

I believe that reviews should be written with two priorities in mind 1)to help other hobbyists and 2)in some cases, to help the provider (without violating #1.) It could be argued that this review helped nobody.

I once gave a 10 for performance to a provider who I did not like personally. Stepping back and looking at the date objectively, she offered enough extras to warrant a 10, and in addition, was the most intensely passionate lover I have ever met. She had a nice personality, so there was every reason to think that most hobbyists would "click" with her. No reason to downgrade her rating because I didn't like her.

I also think he should have written the review but am glad he qualified but looking at himself.

As many have said, all reviews are subjective by nature.  There is a certain amount of YMMV that should be taken into account.  In addition, I always look for review(s) by credible participants to help me make a solid choice.  I have never been steered wrong using this approach.

IMHO, a 6 is not that flattering.  I definitely read the detail to see if it was warranted.  I also look at all of the reviews and tend to throw out the ones that are especially low or high.  If a lady is reviewed consistently at 8 or 9 and someone gives her a 6, I would assume that it was a case of YMMV and not take it into consideration.

On a related note, I did not post a review of one lady who asked me not to.  Out of respect for her, I didn't.  It would have been excellent!!  She is WELLLL reviewed by many and she was one of the best experiences I have ever had.

Just one man's opinion.

The review is still somewhat informative.  He has given his other impressions of the lady: appearance rating, the fact that she was nice and pleasant, the fact that she stayed and cuddled instead of rudely leaving, etc.  (Oh, and the fact that she was not cash'n'dash or cop.  This might not be very useful is she already has a lot of reviews, but if she only has a few, then it really helps.)

I guess I can see how some people might think a 6 is misleading and pollutes the database, IF one only looks at the database without regard to the writeup, such as when a computer does a search with a rating cutoff and/or ranks results.  But if a human (not an automated process) looks at this review, then he's going to read the writeup (just like you did) and realize that the 6 is qualified.

My other thought is that if he thinks he will see her again, then he perhaps he should hold off until after another session.  But if this is his only likely visit to this lady, then he's giving us all he's going to have.

Leaving this particular incident aside, I've seen reviews where performance was rated a 6 but the details describe an 8 scenario.  I never let the numbers alone guide me.  Besides, as you descibe the situation that 6 would be an outlier in a mass of higher ratings.  So I think it's perfectly OK for him to post.

Provider advocacy is fine.  Done it myself on a few occasions in discussions about negotiating fees and CIM, for example.  But I wouldn't want to see the reviews turn into a kind of Lake Wobegone, "where all the children are above average".

I'd make an exception for a new provider, where the first few reviews can really influence her career.  If I felt that a disappointing experience was at least partly my own fault I'd certainly cut her a break.

I have seen a couple of providers that had some mediocre scores, but I read between the lines, and knew that it would not be a problem for me, and it wasn't.

Scores are so subjective that unless there is a negative trend, I always to go by the detail of the reviews, even with well reviewed providers.

Some think a 6 is a fair and high score, others think that is it low.

To each their own.

Shaye

I've had a couple sesions with a provider I found attactive and who was nice to be out with but for one reason or another it didn't mesh sexually. In this case I saw no reason to post a reveiw.

I had another case with a provider who had an emergency at the begining of the session and after I confirmed the emergency did not post a bad review.

I try and take my time and pick well, but I will say this. If the encounter is a 10 I'll rate it a 10. If its a 5 or 6 thats how I rate it. And if its a ripoff I'll let you all know.

Just a couple weeks ago alot of people we argueing why post if its only a 5 or 6 because its not fair to the provider. I say do post because it shows that not everyone is going to like that provider.

Fuck it, I'm ranting off on a tangent again.

QUESTION: What IS the purpose of a review?

ANSWER:  When you're reading it before the session, research.  When you're writing it after the session, marketing.

... Unless the reviewer writes something like we did this, then we did this,  This kind of writing above is description of a sort, but it not a review.  It is like a person writing a review of classical music and publishing the score.  

Most of the people who make posts here know that the biggest sex organ is in their heads (their big heads).  Any description of what goes on between you and your partner is not really COMMUNICATING very much unliess it contains the (entirely subjective) discussion of what goes on there.  The sad (and probably not fixable) part of the TER process is that the reviews are not mutual.  Many of us would be interested in hearing what goes on in our partner's big head during these sessions.

Alas, the closest we can come to understanding how ladies view encounters in general  is romance novels, the occasional sexual confessional written by a woman, great art (the last 50 pages of ULYSSES)., and reading (sometimes between the lines) of the many ladies who post on these boards.

All the best...Harry