This is a corollary to The Mrs. post a few days back, where she asked providers if they minded if their SO's saw providers.  An interesting mix of responses.

They have a saying, I heard it in Bangkok, "you can take the girl out of the bar but you cant take the bar out of the girl" dont know if this is relevent (sp)

One I am convinced wanted to do it for love, the other just wanted a green card. Naturally, given the fact that I am a whoremongering pig, neither of them got what they wanted. Well let me restate that, neither of them got it from me. The one that wanted to get married for a green card found some sucker to marry her, and she has a boyfriend to boot. what were you saying about "the girl and the bar" again??? lmao

And occasional sex wouldn't be bad either...

I would have no problem finding a job in my field for less pay if I had another income to help me. The issue now....I have so little experience that the pay offered is not enough for me to pay the bills I have. I don't much care who says I am living beyond my means, because I am not out there leasing cars I can't afford, buying up bs material items etc. I pay for a home, utilities, health insurance, incall rent, and that's pretty much it.  

How about if he backs you financially in a business, and, why does it always have to be about marriage? Why cant people suite up, show up and have integrity in an open, honest relationship with someone they love and/care about. I get the all or nothing piece and monogamy as well, I do, but, it has been my experience that the practice of monogamy, nobility, honesty, and faithfulness, integrity and such in an open, intimate relationship is a personal choice, one I make for me...not for anybody else. and never as a condition or ultimatum. It's a two way street that meets in the middle. Straight accounts preserve much more than just friendships...cynicism be damned, integrity has it's own momentum...that's just for me

And, of course the traditional 15,000 or 30,000 grand.

If I was asked by my SO to quit I would... after an in depth conversation because I value his opinion. Thankfully I haven't encountered that issue. I love what I do and would hope my feelings about the situation are being fully taken into consideration by my SO. It would end up being a very very long conversation. Honesty and openness are everything. If you can't be honest and communicative then what's the point? I could never be with someone I had to hide things from. I think the secrets would eat me alive lol. But that is just my opinion. Every situation is different and every person is different.

And he met me I was doing t this . When we first met I gave it a go and stopped providing.f .
And I couldn't stand it . Thankfully he is understanding. He has asked me since to stop again but I won't .  Of course that's partially because he doesn't make the kind of money that makes quiting possible. But even if he did I doubt I woulda stop. I enjoy what I do , for me it isn't just about the money ....

married needs to rethink what she is doing... that is just beyond comprehensible on any level imho.

Same here. I would think the guy was off somehow if he did not mind me sucking strange d*ck then coming home to kiss him. No thanks.

I don't fk anyone for free, so I could not care less if they are cheating on someone else. I sure as hell don't want them lol.

the business, not the client. And if she willingly goes into business while married then why is she married to begin with, I feel sorry for the husband, what kind of marriage is that if it's a known thing. Hell, he may as well be her 'pimp' then since all the talk of pimps this week...WTF is going on, where are you people from? Makes absolutely no sense to me. I don't care about the clients and their status, that has nothing to do with anything. They aren't the ones providing the service...the ladies are...

Worrying about your own self, not another lady's business or relationships, is the best approach.

I understand that it is beyond your comprehension, but subatomic particle physics probably is as well. Doesn't make either any less viable.

I love what I do, and what I do is responsible for a large part of who I am and why people fall in love with me in the first place. Love me, love all of me. I am really good at what I do and value my work.

The longer you stay out of your chosen field...the less likely it becomes that you'll be able to succeed in it.

and more importantly love what you do to me in an hour.

I say it's never too late to follow a dream. People are returning to school after their 50s to start a new career.
Sure the money of it would not be as good as if they had been doing the job for 30 years, but money isn't everything.
I would never discourage someone from starting whatever they want to do. You can't change the past, so do whatever you want to do today.

And the hubby is Mr. Mom?

Not to start their FIRST career.

A Dream Deferred
by Langston Hughes

what people think and last time I checked this is a board full of opinions...isnt it?

But what if the husband is home:

just don't get married then. listen I don't believe in the institution of marriage but I don't believe two people married should be in this biz... it's one thing to experiment with threesomes or foursomes if you're married.... but consciously selling your wife in the pay4play world that is just wrong. sorry that's my opinion.

to judge others when your lifestyle and choices could be judged too. I think prostitutes and johns are some of the last people that should be judging others for their unconventional choices, but if that's your style and how you like to approach life, good for you. Judge on to your heart's content!!! In the meantime, if you don't want to hear opposing opinions (since this is a discussion board), please click the ignore button.

Assuming you agree that you are wrong about providing not being a career, then any other career after would be a second career.

Most are in this due to circumstances.  And most would be gone from this if they had a viable option.

First of all, nobody but me decides what to do with my body and my time. If I were in a relationship, that would still remain the case. Nobody is "selling me". I am the only active agent in what I do- I am not passively being "sold".  

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that although there are pimps out there and low life guys who don't want to get jobs and live off their wife...

I just got that "kick in the ass" last week. So, trust me...I hear ya loud and clear, but this would not be my "first" career. I worked as both a Pharm Rep and a Paralegal, and quite frankly I should have stuck with the Pharm Rep job because I was still a whore, but got paid much more.

A term I have seen here often is "You are painting with a broad brush".

I understand where you are coming from, with only one exception...I don't think the wife is allowing her husband to sell her or vice versa. There are many things about other relationships that I don't agree with, nor will I ever comprehend, but as long as those people are not pushing their views on me, I couldn't care less. For ME, no way in hell I would be doing this and then going home to some guy who was not out doing the same thing. Most men find the idea rather disgusting unless THEY are into swinging and open relationships.  

Just because a careers in professional football are notoriously short doesn't mean they aren't careers.  
They're just short.  Moving into coaching may be possible for a few but that's a new career, not part of the old one.  Hookers can work well into their 40's  if they take care of their bodies and have good genes to start with.  Has any football player over 45 played for money other than kickers?

Does your view change if the man/husband has his own paying career, so that he is not living off the work of his girlfriend/wife?  I'm trying to understand if your aversion to the situation is because you believe the man should be the dominant economic provider or that a married person should not tolerate his/her partner having regular sex with others.

to live their lives the way they see fit.

To achieve a career in pro sports typically starts as a youngster...and with years of training and commitment.

No to both.  

So basically because she has three orifices she can fuck strange men for money? Okay then any man can be a rapist, he has a penis so why not?  Do guys at 15 wake up and say well, when I am 45(go younger om older}and my wife looks at me like I am a pile of god poo I will start paying for sex?

Nah...I throw this crap out there to just "stir the pot".

So EVERY woman has the wherewithall to be a hooker as does EVERY men have the wherewithall to be a rapist.

You should know that I'm quite easy going...and much of this is directed to see what and why people react to.