I have a friend in this business I have known for several years.  We have seen each other many times.

For my own reasons, I wish to move on and not see her again.  She has done nothing wrong, but I just want to move on.

Would it be kinder to just drop contact and not respond, and to let things wither or to tell her that I do not wish to see her again?

I have no wish to hurt her.  She is a wonderful lady.  Just not what I am looking for.

JD

I have had to do this with my ATF.  My reason was different than yours. I would still love to see her, but because of certain life restrictions, I cannot {long, convoluted story snipped out}.

Either way, I chose to contact her through email and tell her as soon as I knew I couldn't see her anymore.  After a couple of exchanges, she understood.  I still felt sorry for myself, but I was glad that I did it up front rather than just not returning her inquiries when she came through town.

At one point, I almost actually fancied that she was sad to see me go, but the reality is I was just a good, clean, nice client that a business operator didn't want to lose.

Your situation may be the rare one where there is true, deep emotional attachment between you, but the vast majority of all our interactions here are purely business.  That might help you make up your mind how to approach it.

and she decided she no longer wanted to see you, you would you feel when she ignored your messages? Let's say you saw her outside her incall only to have her turn around and walk quickly away.

the least harmful way is to stretch out and then cease contact.

If she asks why?, just give a response that is short and sweet like, "I've got some personal problems I'm dealing with and can't really explain."

It's one of the rules of this hobby that either party can split at any time for any reason, no questions asked.

By the way, I've done this on a number of occasions and it seems to have worked out OK.

you don't have to tell her anything.  Like someone else said, that's what this is all about.  We're here for your pleasure and if your pleasure takes you elsewhere you don't have to ask permission or inform us why.

That said, if it's a long standing relationship where she feels comfortable calling you if you haven't seen her for awhile, then you probably do owe her some kind of explaination.  But it doesn't have to be anything extranvagant.

That's why as professionals we don't get emotionally involved in our dates... yeah right.

Failing all the above you can just tell her you are seeing me...

Giggle,
TS Jamie

I would not initiate contact. If she contacts you either say:

My SO caught me and I have to quit for a while.

I am taking a break from hobbying for a while.

I have fallen in love with you and I think it is better that we don't see each other for a while. (this will scare off most providers unless they have actually fallen in love with you. Then you are hosed.)

I have been born again, and I can't sin any more.

I have herpes/ crabs/ hepatitis /syphillis/ Malaria/ etc.

I am bankrupt, can I have some free sessions for a while until I get back on my feet?

Or you could just tell her the truth. That you like her, you value her friendship but you just want to move on. I think that most providers are professional will understand.

Although letting her know in some way, either by a phone call or through an e-mail would be polite, I really don't think you need to tell her you do not wish to see her anymore.

She may be your ATF, or soon to be former ATF, but an ATF is not a girlfriend. You have no obligation to her. As a hobbyist, your only obligation is to show up on time, be respectful, give the correct donation, and enjoy yourself. No strings, expectations, or obligations are the primary benefits to hobbying. Once you have walked out her door, you are no more beholden to her than she is to you.

We ladies understand that while some men look for one provider that they can feel comfortable with and connect with, most men enjoy the variety of options available to them. There have been more than a few gents who were regular visitors, but who I no longer hear from. I assume they have decided to move on, and I understand that. I also understand that even if a gent has lost interest and moved on, that doesn't mean that at some point down the road, he won't change his mind and decide to pay me a visit again.

I am assuming your lady friend probably won't have any hard feelings if you never darken her door again, and given the fact that you just might change your mind at some point, burning your bridges by telling her you don't want to see her anymore might not be wise.

Just my 0.02

My favorite called to make prelim. arrangements for our next meeting.  Unlike you, I have no intention of letting her go.  But, if I did, I think I would let her know where I stood, if that was my final decision.  Since you have known her for several years, she deserves that...just basic human decency.  If she is professional, she will likely be sad to hear this, but should understand.  Just realize that there is no likely turning back...once you sever your connection, you will not be able to recapture things the way they were if you change your mind somewhere down the road.  If that's where you are at, then just stop contacting her, and let things peter out over time...

JD

She is a call girl correct? Well then the only thing she is going to miss is the regular amount of money you contributed to her lifestyle.

Sure she probably really likes you and would prefer to keep a fun regular over the risks that come with someone new, but did she ever offer it free?

Just be a gent and tell her in an email. That you are ready to try someone new.

She will understand, we all do, and quickly move on to replace you with someone else's old new.

I know it sounds harsh and It is not my goal to hurt your feelings.

We all know each relationship one starts in this biz will have an eventual ending.  It is the nature of the beast and it keeps the wheel turning.

I have lost a few clients I really enjoyed seeing as lovers and friends just because they want to meet as many sexy women as they can.

I wish them well and will always be greatful for the contribution they made to my life.

It not like you met this chick in a bar,told her you loved her, phucked her a few times and then dropped her.

You did an honorable thing, you had fun, she had fun and paid some bills.

No harm, No foul sweetie, don't sweat it.
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