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Money isn’t the big issue. I mean sure, I’ll have to spend a few bucks on drinks and dinner but that’s usually like $100-$200. Even if I splurge on a show it is still going to be cheaper than an escort. The difference is that regular dating has more risk of disappointment. There is a lot more time spent getting to know the other person and making them comfortable with you. Plus the effort isn’t always successful. Personally I think the risk is worth it. I love providers and appreciate their skill. However the best sex I’ve had was usually with intimate partners I was not paying. It is just different when you and the other person actually care about each other.

This reaks of a provider trying to prove it costs more to have sex with a civie. This may play if she's a gold digger or Sugar Baby, which IMO is just another version of an escort. But in most normal worlds I'm not counting my time with her or on dates like work that I should be making $250/hour for, assuming that's what I make. If I want a long date with an escort, I'm paying her per hour, not the other way around. So why would I count a date with a civie as costing me time that's worth $250 an hour?

The $250/hour is what YOUR time is worth, not the providers, and as you can see, that makes up the bulk of the total cost of $5900.   This is only accurate if your other choice is to work and be earning the $250 per hour.  She is assuming the "time investment" is lost income and that's not always the cost.  If you would be floating around the pool on an inflatable raft rather than working, then that eliminates the $250/hr "loss" he bakes into the cost.

if it Flies, Floats or Fucks ....  cheaper to lease !  

the money is trivial.

Great Answer !!

Except tomorrow you have to pay again.......

Its not the money, its the time and emotion involved.

This is misleading if you are going to count chatting, phone calls, and prep as paid time. What about the time to look up ads, reviews, email/text with the provider, pass screening, reconfirm, get cash, etc?

...I've always rationalized the cost as what it takes to get her to leave after we're done.

Are you sure you aren't just fishing to figure out which of us makes $250/hour?

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...do not work every hour or have the ability to monetize all 24 hours of our time. In addition, we don't take unpaid time off from our jobs to see escorts.  

I guess I shouldn't do my own laundry or wash the dishes because I'm burning through $250/hr. I could easily hire a housekeeper for less.

For me it's about convenience and certainty. When I want to fuck, it's easy to text a pro, set a time, head over and get off. With a civvie, there's always the chance we don't click, or she has limited time, or some other reason that we don't get behind closed doors. Probably like most of the guys here, I have plenty of money, but limited time. Thus, I choose to pay for the convenience and certainty.

All the costs appear to be "up-front" costs. By the time I've gotten a civvie in bed, likely we are in a groove where we're not spending that kind of money every time before sex. I sure as fuck hope not.  

I'll pass on your advice, shits.  No thanks.  I can manage my desire just fine until the real thing can be arranged.  You do you though.  How do you satisfy your "other" urges, a trip thru the produce isle?

It’s not often I come across a man so broken who gives no shits about anyone else but is all up in his own feelings. You’re the one who basically made a woman sound like a flesh light. It seems all you care about is using their pussies. But god forbid she actually speaks to you afterwards. All you’re thinking is if she will shut up and get out. Hence, you pay for pussy because they have no problem leaving when you decide you’re done.

What a sweet white knight you are for so quickly being offended on their behalf, lol...it was a rewording of an age old hooker/John phrase along the lines of you don't buy pussy, you rent it.  You don't pay for sex, you pay them to leave.  Paid companionship vs girlfriend/wife or in your case, girlfriend or wife that's got 7" hanging.

Yeah, missed a few things in that last response. Ending a date without the need for continuation of some sort has nothing to do about feelings.  It's about bringing a transaction to a amicable and highly likely an enjoyable close by all parties.  In my case, other parties would not have cocks...just sayin', you do you.   I gave up the daily yank decades ago, somewhere around the time that Bush Sr. was in office so a device for such just wouldn't be needed, even if I were in the Western mountains (Not Brokeback dude, stay focused) hunting for 10 days with no signs of any titties at all.  

when i was in my 40s and even 50s .... i paid an escort for the convenience of simply getting laid. ..and the time i saved as well as removing the stress of not knowing when and where.  

"going to drop 800 or more every single time I shtup an escort"
You must live in a very high-cost area for professional sex, or require some very exotic services.  

lays it out perfectly.  For those that have plenty of money, renting pussy by the clock works best.  There are marginal players her who save up for one session a month.  Others, like you, can see as many providers as you want, and you would rather spend the money for an hour or two of sex than go through all of the emails, texts, dinners, and "after-care" required to have a "complete" date with a civvie.  With a pro, you can fuck for an hour or two, and you don't HAVE to ever talk to them again.  With a civvie woman, if you don't text when you get home, text her again the next day, or answer her next ten texts to you, you might not get another date if you wanted one.  I have often posted on these boards over the years that my situation is the same as yours; making the time and working out my schedule to see providers is the most difficult part of navigating this biz.  Money has never been an issue since I started in P4P.  I came to this hobby from flying airplanes, which requires a substantial hourly rate to rent wet, so it was an easy transition to "hobby by the hour with providers."

Sometimes very little, sometimes too much! About the same as I feel about the cost of a session with a new provider! It’s all relative!

DTF??? You guys and your acronyms. You realize providers never use these, right? Nor do we know or care what most of them mean....

could be every other month.  I have known a few guys like that who pay an exorbitant hourly rate, but hobby less than once a month.  

To be fair with you, money isn't it all there is. If she likes and finds you attractive, 80% of the work is done even without having to plan dates fr. On the other hand if she's laying with you just for the cash, be prepared to lose when she starts getting money elsewhere

Not.m a Jersey Shore fan?

Too much plus the drama and bad sex. On the other hand providers with stellar bought reviews are just as disconcerting. I’ve met many men but providers trying to get discounts and freebies with trumped up reviews constantly.