hey all,

Be and let it be- we love when we feel loved and we act when we need to act. love is love,  sex is sex. sometimes but not always they could mean one and the same thing.

I take time off work when she's working. I can do this because she's low volume. Then, I hang with her while she's making appointments. When the clients show up, I hide in the closet so I know she's just working and can tell she not having a better time with the thick 10 inchers than she has with me. That's what works for me, but YMMV. Hope this helps. Oh, and one more thing, I always fuck her bb just minutes before every appointment.

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As to the OP, yes it is perfectly natural to have it eat at you when "your woman" is off having sex with someone else. Very few guys can handle it, plus it all depends on how deep your feelings are and how easy it is for you to compartmentalize sex.

I have been in several LTR's with providers, and each case was different. With some it was no big deal at all, with others there was a "twinge" whenever I thought too much about her being with another man.

If it really bothers you that much, you may need to thing about your options, of which there really aren't many. On the one hand you could insist that she "retire" and risk her either flat out saying NO, or having to replace the lost income if she says yes. You could leave her. Or you could just leave things the way they are and stew in your own juices until we read about your murder/suicide in the newspaper. Or I suppose you could talk to her, share your feelings and try to work out something you both can live with, but what fun would that be? lol

hey bonordonor,

hey GaGambler,

It didn't turn out too good.
I wasn't really jealous of her clients. I was more....
How do I explain this??

How else would she have known who the gal in the next relationship was?

what you're smelling is either an ethnic thing or my jizm! lol btw, I like the pic!

yep, but sorta came out of the blue

A simply "yes" would have sufficed.

You're a bigger idiot  

She was one of those artists who paint flames on the fenders, ocean breakers along the doors, cool waves and palms on the hood and trunk, combinations of fire and water motifs, naked island girls lounging in the sand, a lot of extreme special requests, some weird (like cows grazing) and some cutesy (like skunks and chipmunks frolicking in the woods). My favorites were snarling tigers or jaguars on the hood. She traveled all over the country, wherever a client wanted his or her car detailed.

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working could be her way of staying in control of her life. She was obviously an independent woman before you came into her life. It's very possible that she misses that independence and this is her way of reclaiming it.

If it truly bothers you, and it sounds like it does, why not steer her into something that will make her more independent that doesn't involve fucking other guys? She could further her education if she has a mind to, or you could start a business for her, something that she has complete autonomy over, and that you would promise not to interfere with.

I don't really have the answer for you, I am just throwing ideas out there. Good Luck

BTW you are getting a straight answer out of me because I don't believe that you are simply a troll. Trolls get a completely different answer from me.  For some reason your post has the ring of truth to it, or maybe I am just as big a sucker as the rest of the TERmites here. lol

"I do provide for her, allowance, car, school, clothes, meals etc "  So, schooling must be important to both of them. I just wonder what grade she is in?

It's the first one I pulled up doing anal with warts/blisters on her leg! lmao

And in some cases (assuming she's in a college and not still in HS) he may qualify for the tuition credit.

hey GaGambler

I love sessions where I live out the fantasy of fucking some other guy's wife, fiancée, SO, whatever. So OPs like this just fuels the fire, knowing that the situation is common enough to be real.

Requires a man who is very secure. You need to understand that YOU are the person she chooses to be with, to share her likes, dislikes, dreams, vulnerabilities, heartbreaks, what makes her sad, what makes her happy basically who she really is. The sex, companionship and intimacy she is sharing with us hobbyists is just fantasy, and I presume if you'll just think of it that way and treat it that way then you'll understand that it's just her job. If she keeps coming home to you, then it seems to me that you have absolutely nothing to be concerned about.

hey ChgoCPA,

The problem you have is that your deal isn't hers.  Time to move on....your shrink is spot on.

I have spent some time reading your website, you seem like a wonderful woman. How does one get a password to your other site? Your alter ego I presume.
 
I very much enjoy what a woman says about herself on her website, it's cool to get that glimpse of who she is, no matter how fleeting that glimpse may be.

because you have picked the most expensive kind, well at least the most expensive kind short of marriage. lol

and twenty years is not really a huge difference, not to mention the older you get the less a difference it will be. 19-39 is a huge difference, 25-45 is much less a difference and 40-60 is hardly any difference at all.

but please don't tell me you have a fucking therapist that you talk to about this shit. You are much better with a good bartender who might actually be able to relate with what you are talking about, at much lower rates.

You are either going to have to come to grips with this or leave her. Some guys can't stand being in love with an active provider, so can. You just may be one of those guys that can't, the fact that you have a therapist speaks volumes in that regard. Your ego has to be very strong to fall in love with an active hooker not have it eat at you. Most guys with egos that strong (not large, but strong) don't see therapists, it's almost a contradiction in terms.

Best way to get through this quagmire.  With each successive post out comes more detail.

Her asking you to quit your hobby. Bullshit! If she's going to hobby, she sure as Hell shouldn't be asking you not to.

and give me just a few minutes and I'll be joining you. lol

It's funny, but I have been in many relationships with hookers and I am a guy who really doesn't "get off" on the fact that she fucks other guys.

I think the reason I date so many hookers is the same reason that doctors date nurses or lawyers date paralegals. I simply interact with hookers more than women from any other walk of like. lol

russbj, I'm not getting a sense of that sort of attitude from the OP.  I read his posts as being that he's in love with her, she just recently decided to start being a provider, he's not comfortable with it, but she's comfortable with him taking care of her needs. If I'm misreading lostinlove604, I'd welcome his correction.

ou two will have to work it through, no one else can.  

Oh Hell yeah I'm bent. My recent fantasy is to have a provider dress like a street walker and pick her up for a $20 blow and go. Of course I'll be giving her way more than $20, but you get the point. In all my mongering I've never picked up a street walker and never will because of the probability of her being trafficked or her doing it to support a drug habit.

Now that I re read it, you're right. Guess my response was just babble, oh well, nothing lost nothing gained.

Especially after that rare and mind-blowing GFE, I can walk out of a session thinking, "I could so easily fall in love with her."  After a few minutes the afterglow leaves, and reality sets in, and I tell myself, "she was sweet and special, and I really got my money's worth on that one, good job, girl." And if she's that good, all the other guys are coming to the same conclusion.  Real life ain't like the movies.  The overwhelming majority of providers are not, if my guess is right, looking for "Mr. Right" to take them away from the trade and live happily ever after.  At some level, they must like what they do well enough not to choose another way of making a living.  I'm not saying the relationship is ONLY physical, I can see having real "love" for an ATF or regular provider, but if that goes beyond genuine concern and fondness, you are asking for trouble, IMO.  Don't know if you were a client before you were a significant other, but still, dude.  My amateur take on this is that you are being the male version of the chick who goes after the bad boy, thinking that "our love is so special that he has to change."  Live in la-la land if you want to.  I say this because I'm overall a caring guy, and you seem to be too, which is a vulnerability that will break you if you let it.

school's out for summer..more mind bending bullshit on tap..

It isn't food she is after.  
It's all the material shit that ends up owning you.
Cars. Big houses. Watches, clothes.
I have to respect her for stopping at nothing to get it.
At the same time. I prayed she never gave me any gifts

hey all,

hey passlover,

hey all,

and I am 55 and none of her friends seemed to think I was an "old guy" maybe it's my immaturity? lol

Oh and my friends never thought I was "robbing the cradle" anyone who thinks that way would never be my friend.

and yes, you did answer your own question. You really are thinking into this too much. If you want her to stop, you just said she would. So, what's the problem? Just ask her to stop

IMO, the only real reason to pick the DR over Costa Rica is if you are on a budget. Yes, you can do it cheaper in the DR, but somehow I doubt that you are one of those guys who needs to do things "on the cheap"

Let me know when you'll be there and the chances are good that so will I. I've only been back about three days and after a rare day of actually working, I am already itching to go back, but I did win a couple of grand when the beat Italy today. I bet you it was a great day in tica land today, they went crazy when they beat Uruguay last week, I can only imagine how nuts they were to beat a powerhouse like Italy.

Shit!  
Chump don't want no help...
Chump don't get no help.

The question is why you remain in a relationship that is stressful for you?

Just sayin'.

Besides, putting them in a position where they wind up in debt and needing useless things...that's fun, too.

Please? so I may piss on your grave?
That's fantasy too..  
Whatcha think of my fantasy?

But this is fucking around is all about. We all have rich emotional lives.

I may be "depraved" but rarely "deprived" lol

looking for Mr. Right and Ms. Right they just haven’t found them yet.

Talk about not adding anything to the conversation!

early March, Turned out we have many mutual friends . He is my type all the way, It is extra interesting I d say dating a provider. I d just say hold on to your seat belt because you GOTTA be a tad crazy , Ivy league or not, I dont care, Vip high end courtesian, I dont care how you chaulk it up you just gotta be a tad nutz to be doin it, My opinion, To get involved with an escort? i think you are equally a tad eccentric quirky nuts. Just enjoy the chaos and dont be jealous , Its acting.  
             You think movie stars husband get upset during nude scene in bed together. Make out sessions? Its same thing we are acting  out a character and putting on an entertaining show of sorts, Dont let that screw up your confidence . I knnow for me what i do is just be sure to fake orgasm with clients, Oh geesh did i say that, Yeah i did, I d say as long as she is not depriving you and gettn off with all the clients and it is truly a show and she is simply being a fantasy for guys who may or may not have a girl or wife they can do anal with, They may or may not be able to land a 26 year old 105 lb co ed with long chestnut hair .
       They maybe arent married but work crazy hours and just dotn have time right now to date. Whatever reason . 90 percent the clients understand its not reality it is a play a dance between two people nothing more, You the escort and client have to detach and realize it is what it is, And you can date an escort and you really shouldnt worry,  
           It an act a play a fantasy, For me it means nothing to me, its just a way to make a living pay rent. I dont escort to buy property invest save , I just work to live like many others, If not for fibro i d def go for it a tad harder but thats what I have to accept that I cant do as much as I d want from physical pain in neck arms sometimes hip flexors, Every one escort for different reason maybe you should ask about a future together and if shed plan on stopping because it really really hurts you, i dont know, Stuffing feelings aint good so she may not agree but i d tell her its affecting you, If you still cant accept you have to protect your own mental health and at that point you should move on i am sure you ll meet the right one.

I see the crushing loss to the Kings hasn't dampened your wit. Always good to see some fucking common sense being offered. There must be a shortage of it outside Chicago!

But it's still a tough call. I'd advise something like what you say in another situation: don't cut back... Make more money...and then buy her out. That's if the OP is really uncomfortable with the situation and wants to be in a relationship.

You are so challenged as a poster you need to save canned, one-line answers so you don't need to actually write a whole line!  Neat!
I wondered why that post had no typos!  Perhaps all your answers should be canned.
Better yet, hire a writer who can post for you.  Preferably one that has some game.

I wonder how many if any have,"BWAAAH! BWAHAAHAHAAAA!" on a macro. Or however it's supposed to be spelled.

Bwaaaaaahahahahaha! isn't really a word so there is no correct (or incorrect) way to spell it.  I've used it so often I don't even need to save it.  I just write "Bw" and the rest of it pops up.

Commonsense solution: Do it! Jerry Rubin would've liked you!

Well said!

hey angelexotic,