i am hoping for some input on this one...i've seen a girl at an AMP a few times now and got her number so that i could call in advance to see when she's available.  now, she calls me on a regular basis just to talk...she asked me to take her to the shopping mall the other day and i did...i didn't buy her anything, i just provided transportation and some extra hands to carry shopping bags...we've done this twice within the last week...when we stop for coffee, she has always offered to pay, and once, she gave me a bunch of one dollar bills with a hundred stuck to them...she didn't realize this until i pointed it out to her and gave it back.

she also invited me out to dinner with her roommate...before meeting her roommate, she gave me $100 so that i could appear to pay for dinner.  i did pay for dinner myself and it was not until the next day that i discovered the $100 in my pocket.  i called her and told her i would drop her money off...she was very insistent that i keep the money, but i gave it back to her anyway.  she knows that i'm a poor student, so i am having a hard time making sense out of all of this.  she is making it REALLY easy to REALLY like her.  any input would be greatly appreciated.

It sounds like she likes you .  Are you happy with the current situation?  What would you change if you could?

Im somewhat familiar with the Asian female mindset and believe me its different than the US born female, Asian heritage or not. What is happening here, as you are aware, is this girl really likes you. Her treatment of you is not unusual for an Asian girl in a relationship with someone she truly likes. The issue with money and dinner is one of honor and keeping face. Very very important with Orientals. The fact you were honest with her over the $100 bill raised your value in her eyes more than you know and helped raise your status with her as being a true friend, not just a guy she likes. Im beting this girl is Vietnamese(sp)but it dosent matter. What is important is you treat her with respect and dignity. That is what she is looking for in addition to companionship, advice and friendship. She will take care of you and do as you ask in return. If your inclination is to be these things for her, you could be a very happy man. Good luck to you.

Looks like you are becomming a gigalo! "can you say two-on-one...

Hey, I've got a great idea - why don't you ask HER what all this means?  Believe it or not, all SPs, all women, not even all Asian women, are exactly alike!

-Anya

THANKS for all the input!!!  i'll try to scrunch my reactions into one post:

am i happy?  YES!  a beautiful young woman whose company i enjoy is CHOOSING to spend time with me (even though she could be having her own down time, or, making money with customers).

would i want to change anything?  yes, and that is finding more opportunities for quality hang out time.  when we do get a chance to go out, we are always very aware that she may have to go back to the AMP if the manager calls...our current set up for hanging out is me going to the AMP parking lot and her coming out of the parlor to talk, or going out for lunch, or going out late sunday afternoon/early evening.  that's where i think anya's post comes into play...i've been thinking about talking to her about it to see where she is in all of this.  the spooky part is that if we do spend more time together, i can see where i get stronger feelings than i already have for her, and that's spooky for all the reasons that having feelings for a provider brings...and i'm in no position to do the sugar daddy thing to get her out of the business.  i understand it's her job; she needs the money; it's her choice.  i guess what i would want from our talk would be to figure out where she is, and what we can work out so that we can spend time together.  

since i gave back her $100 dinner money the other night, she insisted that she will pay for dinner next time.  

THANKS AGAIN for all the input!!!  it's helping me to feel a little better in terms of "is it just me, or does she like me?"  i'm always open to hearing more, so if there are more views or questions, please let me know.

It sounds to me like you've got a good thing going as long as there's nothing about it interfering in your lifestyle.  

If she likes you as much as it would seem at this point, I would see only two possible things to be concerned about: a) Is there any chance she's setting you up for something you don't want? Hope that's not the case, doesn't have to be but that sort of thing has happened.  b)  Realize that most relationships don't last, & those that begin hobby-induced have probably an even higher casualty rate than others, so don't allow it to become too intense emotionally unless you're willing to be prepared for it to end.  

But for now, just enjoy the hell out of it!!  

Have fun. Date. Be spoiled. Spoil her back (with deeds); even fall in love.... shack up even.... no marriage for a couple years though.... If it's a con, she will roll on you w/i a month or two. If she likes/loves you then she will never play the family crisis/deportation card and just groove.

This does happen in real life. It's just that the con is more common.

Seems like she's looking for a Pimp.  I could be wrong,  but it was twice she tried to pay you, right?  Ive met someone in that situation and she told me how the game works. Stay away, you never know if the last one may come back.  Alyssa

...always what they seem, and can really get out of hand if you're not careful.  

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Back when I was young and cute, I had an MP girl come on to me. My situation at the time (another girl in my life) didn't let me follow through, which I regretted. She was a student in her other life.

Despite negativity in some previous posts, I'm betting it's earnest. If she was pulling something underhanded, why pick a less-affluent customer.

I'd grab on to it with both hands.

Its nice when they like you but its just creepy when they "like you".  I see providers because I DON'T want a relationship!  I don't want to "get to know them".  I don't want to "listen to their problems".  Women can be pretty annonying.  Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying men are any better than women.  I know men can drive women crazy too.  I love being with women sexually but I feel that in other contexts they just bring out the worst in me and vice versa.  Anyway dude, if I were you, I'd get the hell out of that situation!

If you truly like this gal's company AND she wants to hang out with you too, then I say go for it.  Obviously she could pick a more affluent guy if she was scheming for stuff (although you do need to watch out for the green card-getter) so i think you should just continue enjoying her company and see what happens.  

Her trying to give you the cash to "appear" like you are buying is just and Asian-thing (not "oriental" since she is not a rug )  It indicates to me that she actually does like you as a friend...or more.  If you can handle a GF that is a SP, then why not.  Just don't get set up too quickly on it all.  if things work out over time, then great.  have a good time with it and I, for one,  wish you luck!

again, thanks for the input...positive and negative impressions are helpful to me in trying to gain perspective.  it has occurred to me that she may be trying to manipulate or GET something from me...as far as the wanting me as a pimp thing...i dunno about that...i'm not imposing looking at all, and lack that "don't mess with me or the girl pimp look" if there is such a thing.

YES, i WILL keep my eyes open in terms of her trying to scam me...but the beauty of being a student is that my finances don't allow me to be scammed...i make very little and can't really be taken to the cleaners in terms of spending a whole lot of money on her...but it's good to be reminded to be on the look out for anything fishy.

today she invited me to join her in another round of shopping (clothes and grocery)...again, she bought all her own stuff...she wasn't feeling well and told the manager that she would be taking the night off...she invited me over to her apartment and she made me dinner and we spooned on the sofa watching tv...little kiss goodnight when it was time to leave...no hanky panky...it's a strange thing because while i may want to initiate something, i'll stop myself because in my view, it seems like it's not my place to do that...it's like "here's one more guy that sexualizes who i am" and it'd feel to me like i'm betraying a trust...my theory at present is to just take it slow and enjoy the time we have together.

i didn't talk to her directly about what her thoughts/feelings are tonight, but i'm interpreting her initiating hand holding, cuddling/snuggling and asking me over for dinner as genuine signs of developing some sort of relationship (either dating or friendship).  

bizarre...i never imagined myself in a situation like this.

thanks again for the feedback.

Don't think she wants just friendship if she initiated the hand-holding and snuggling.  Think she wants your sex eventually.  Also, it is only polite to sleep with the lady if she made you dinner.  LOL... j/k  So be prepared.  ahhaha...  Glad you are being a gentleman through it all and not taking advantages of her.  Maybe she is right about you!    I truly wishes you the best.  Keep the board posted on your progress if it isn't too personal.  Best wishes!

Just a quick question if you are a poor student how is it you were able to see a provider. I remember my poor student days and the cost of a provider could be food and spending money for a month. Just a question not to be hostile. I hope it works out for you. I envy your situation have fun be safe.

Sounds to me like she's into you. Maybe she's leaving you with some money because she wants to help you out. She might not want to say it.

Good luck and think of all the great things she's going to show you

Interesting you find youself in this position. Out of curiosity, would you have accepted an invite from her or pursued her if you had met her in a grocery store or at the cleaners having found out what she did for a living during the first meeting????

I have had several AMP girls give me their phone numbers. One I dated for three months, and it will be a relationship that I will always treasure. We had a weekend in San Diego that will be burned in my memory until the day I die. The only reason it ended was because I was a jerk, and didn't treat her right. I realized that too late.

Recently another AMP girl called me to say her schedule was changing (she is a knockout, and I gave her my number to make sure I could follow her if/when she changes AMPs) On a whim I asked her out. Had a GREAT time. She insisted I keep my arms around her the whole time...and what great kisses. Plus, I learned that she had traveled all over the world and was full of interesting stories about places I hope to visit some time. The night ended with me leaving her at her door. I made it very clear I didn't expect more from her on a first date than I would any other girl. I didn't expect her to invite me in because we had seen each other naked a dozen times before. I could tell the next time I saw her that she really appreciated that.

A lot of  guys treat AMP girls with all the care and respect you would give a parking vallet. Which is sad because these girls can be sweet, lovable, and caring. All you have to do is treat them with kindness, and respect, and they will treat you like a king.

I wish you the best of luck.

Sometimes, the most obvious, is the most obvious. It's a curious paradox, but why is it such a shock when a client seeking a GFE actually gets one? Providers are allowed to like their clients, y'know?

Reating AMP girls...my experience

It seems like you are in just about the best world possible.
If she has a friend put her in contact with me!!!!!!

Reating AMP girls...my experience

I've had an interesting experience. I'm somewhat a regular with an independent provider of massages. We have a good rapport but recently has come to calling me if I'd like to see her for a session. She's a good person and quite attractive, but I have feelings she just needed the business. When I got there we had a nice time and she told me through the session she considers me a friend and we should hang out. I've known her for 2 years and this is the first I've heard of that. She has given me more leeway with things (ie, touching her) that she wouldn't allow others. I like our relationship and won't press it or screw it up (no pun intended) Just saying, enjoy it man, she likes you as a person not as a client!