so ..  via texts i set up a first time one hour 1pm date in a couple days.   we exchange a bunch of fun smiling texts over 24 hours...   that day i wake up not feeling well and these days being cautious at 9 am i tell her we should postpone.    i don't hear back... i text a few more times .. the next day (and after 9 hours of sleep!)  i am much better (i was just burning the candle at both ends)  after a few more apologizing texts still nothing ..  finally 4 days later all i get is a middle finger icon.  

...ask yourself would you be pissed if you were her losing out 1HR income? While being sick might be a good reason to you, she most likely heard that line many times before as you are not the first one canceled out on her. At least, offer her an assurance with a 1.5HR on the next session and fully responsible if you cancel again.

Maybe a rescheduled date with a promise of a tip for her inconvenience? You owe her something, in my opinion.

First: STOP TEXTING HER.   All your texts are further sucking up her time for free.... unless, of course, you're about to reschedule and/or send a gift card or Cashapp as a cancellation-fee.   This is time-waster behavior and at this point, she has no reason to think you're anything but that.  

Specifically: "we exchange a bunch of fun smiling texts over 24 hours". News flash, she wasn't texting you because she loves your witty humor. Some clients just have to be coddled.

He should have responded with my suggestion in the same text when he cancelled. Stipulated.

with a hotel charging them for a last minute cancellation, but don't feel the same way about cancelling on a pussy.  She might have shaved just for him, and now its for nothing.  Lol

The only texts I send are to make and then confirm the appointment.  Anything else can wait until I'm there in person.  If I book farther out then the day before the meeting, which I usually do, I will reconfirm that afternoon before that I'm still confirmed and will be on time.  Most ladies appreciate THIS KIND of extra text.  I'm paying, so I know this is a sure thing for me, so no need for flirty texts or 20 questions.  I rarely wake up too sick to fuck, but if I did, I would cancel as he did, but still pay.  If she wanted to count some of it towards another session, or offered me a discount on another booking, I would re-schedule.  Either way, I pay for the time whether I'm there to enjoy it or not.

from inside the box. Perspective is everything.  

I was scheduled to see a lady but woke up with a cold. I decided to postpone with her mainly because I was afraid of infecting her and affecting her ability to work. I don't recall how much notice I gave her but am sure it was much more than four hours as in the case above.  I was very apologetic but promised her I'd re-schedule as soon as I was better. She was very gracious and accepted. A week later we saw each other and had a very nice time. End of story. Too bad it can't always be this way. Her name was Larissa Pearla and I'm not sure if she's still working. She shows up on my reviews but seems no longer to be active.

Lots of ladies are similarly gracious.  

The OP seems to be experienced in the hobby so I don't know why he didn't expect the lady to be upset.  Why didn't you offer her a deposit for cancelling or send a GC to show you were sincere?  To just say I am sick and sounds like your fault for not sleeping enough or whatever.  Time to move on to a new lady as sounds like this one isn't interested in you any longer

First of all she didn't have a cancellation policy. Also, as to her losing business, what if I'd just been a pig and seen her anyway because I was horny (which I was)? Then she gets sick and loses a week of work? So there's that.
Anyway, I support your right to manage your business the way you want.

A while back had an hour session scheduled with a lady I really  wanted to see.
Two days before (OK not only four hours) got notice that the day earlier had spent time arond someone who had come down with Covid so went into quarantine and notified that had to cancel. The lady was very a accommodating . That be said is coming bak to town in a few weeks and not sure Jaydalee will  schedule if I try but will definitely wait until very close to the time to try to set up if I do as one cancellation is one too many.

i did offer to rebook just a few days later ....  she has a permanent in-call - no hotel costs ...  

I think she left about 2 years ago now. Beautiful woman, wonderful provider and a total class act. She is sorely missed.

You wasted her time, you cost her money, and then you follow up with repeated texts. Should have sent her a gift card at the time of cancellation, but it’s not too late to do the right thing.

Well, he actually told her about 28 hours in advance they should postpone.  Then he followed up four hours before the original appointment saying maybe they should meet after all because he is feeling better.   That's probably what pissed her off as much as anything, imo.  Claiming illness in times of covid then saying, "oh, I'm better now, let's get it on" should get you the middle finger, imo.

Like assholes ive got my own opinion but before I do..

Even the OP said, “4 hours notice for a simple one hour date”

You probably just don’t know how to follow instructions.

You do the math, Buckaroo:

If I read Larissa's Twitter account properly, she retired 3 years ago and was trying to find work as an escort assistant.

And, no, I don't recall reading that. In any event, she obviously didn't enforce it, we re-scheduled and it all worked out.

I hope not.  The OP says:

I might as well pile on.  Offer to pay her at least 50% for a last moment cancellation.

https://twitter.com/MsPearlaNYC

Here you BOTH go . . . . .

It worked when it posted it but not now. Weird.

leave the "s" off the http for a clickable link.

For this and other things. Multiple times I bet.

1. 4 hour notice is on the shorter side, but as long as she had no cancelation policy it's OK as long there's a legit emergency imo.  

We can agree to disagree on that point, but judging by the OP itself he made a LOT of texts.  

Obviously, if she is continuing to text and ask questions before confirming my appointment, I would have that conversation as well.  I think we are in more of an agreement than not.  I would not eschew enough "conversation" to make her comfortable about the booking, and like you, when she stops texting, so do I.  My disagreement is with the practice of a lot of mongers who want to burn up her phone with flirting and small talk BETWEEN the appointment and the time for the session.  I don't need that kind of "hand-holding" and I think hookers appreciate guys who are not insecure and who don't need all of the reinforcement texts about how excited she is that he is coming to her.  For me, I made an appointment, and I will be there.  That's all I need.

Sounds an awfully lot like this thread. https://www.theeroticreview.com/discussion-boards/ter-general-board-12/what-would-you-do-if---another-hypothetical-scenario-p411-locked-978417?page=

Yes 4 hours is to short of notice. She now can't book another slot safely and you just wasted her damn day.

If you read between the lines of his own post, he was pestering her pretty much the entire time. He even admitted to sending her several texts before finally getting the finger in response.  

Correct, GaG.

the OP has still yet to mention the lady involved.  

i have no intention of calling out the ladies name ...   and i didn't ruin her day .. i had only booked an hour .. and if she was soooo much in demand then in 4 hours she should have easily been able to call any of the countless other guys that i bumped.     please read with much sarcasm.  

Well, I promise you giving out her name, she will get plenty of booking dates and from what you have described so far. It's the least you'd be doing for her. I presume she's in Los Angeles and if that is, I'm visiting in a couple of months. Spill the beans, fellow monger

shut the fuck up already.

Why would he name the woman involved? She didn't fuck up. HE did.

In your OP, you stated you wanted to hear others' thoughts on what happened.