My ATF and I got into a very nasty argument a while ago.
She has toned down her nastiness recently and I'm thinking she's gotten over whatever it was we argued about. I'm still a bit upset about the way she treated me because she was mean bitchy and brutal. However, I'm trying not to be a dick to her since I'm the one who caused it.
Now I'm looking forward to the possibility of seeing each other again. It would be weird but it would also be great to see her again. I think it would even be romantic in a way as well.
How long did your fights last before finally deciding to see each other again? How bad was the fight?
Did you feel that the session was hotter than before
It was a "reset", back to basics. Over time it got better.
In all these years, I have never really fought with anyone like you would fight with a girl-friend or wife. I have got into arguments with someone hookers that I have seen, after seeing them, but I would not go back and fuck them even if they would pay me to fuck.
Once I have an argument with someone, it means the ship has sailed.
...but some guys and gals just seem to attract the drama, I think they secretly like it.
Yes, you heard me correctly- the Bitchy Wife Experience! Lol. In fact I joked with one such client a couple of days ago, that if he kept intentionally provoking me... I was going to give him what he must apparently REALLY want, and show up to the session in a flannel grannie nightie, with my hair in hot rollers! I also said I would perform a two minute toothy bj, only to stop half way through and start bitching that my neck hurt AND PULL A HONEY-DO LIST OUT OF MY POCKET! LMFAO.
We had a good laugh about that one, but all joking aside, this is a client I have known for seven years and whom I have had to FIRE on MORE than one occasion, a la The Soup Nazi on Seinfeild... ("No, soup for you! You come back ONE YEAR!")
I'll frequently kvetch to one of my provider friends about this. We share several of the same vexing clients. "Why, oh why, do they do this?," I'll say. "DON'T THEY HAVE ENOUGH DRAMA AT HOME?!"
Yet some guys REALLY seem to get off on instigating arguements! They basically use it as another form of foreplay. Maybe the behavior has become ingrained from years and years of being in tumultious relationships- they don't know how to relate to women without sniping and trading jabs.
Like I said, I don't really understand it and find it rather emotionally exhausting and tedious, albeit, sometimes amusing... For example, a couple of weeks ago I had a client who I have seen several times be a royal pain in my ass over the weekend. Then he started texting me bright and early Monday morning, demanding a multiple hour outcall RIGHT THEN and being all sassy and whatnot. I texted back, "Look, if I wanted to bicker with some dude at 8:00 AM on a Monday, I'd be married! Know what I'm saying??" He texted back that I should go fuck myself and that he would just save his money and go jerk off... I wrote back, "Have fun with Rosie Palm and her five sisters!" Lol.
Wouldn't you know it... He has text messaged or called EVERY SINGLE WEEKEND since that exchange took place, TRYING TO SESSION!
Shaking my head...
Is Spongeworthy bothering you again sweetie? He cant help himself as he's continually failed in every aspect of his life. At leased he hasn't outted you to your family and friends yet. At forty four years old he's moved back in with Mommy and Daddy. He's just never gotten over Meloney dumping his cheap sorry ass!
He's basically on his knees BEGGING for the Bitchy Wife Experience, I swear.
No BBFS for me, so the only guys I see who are "spongeworthy" are those who I see when I'm worried that I'm about to start my period!
Lol.
Oh snap.
Ah, yes, the three qualities every hooker needs for success. Just the thought of you with this girl brings ideas of long walks on the beach, candle lit dinners and a Lorena Bobbit night cap.
Yeah no shit. A big reason to go this route is to avoid epic drama bullshit. I can get that for free.
If my ATF got into an argument with me I would be done with her. I see provider to relax and have fun. That is no fun. I would just date civvies if I wanted to argue with women : 
These fkkers are all driving hard to the hoop lately. Must be because of March Madness.
It's just like any other business.
Make up sex? She's not your girlfriend or your wife. You are going to make up and kiss her ass while she makes up with that envelope.
PS: I like your alias, but you need to change it if you are getting all manginaish on us.
What is the point?
Arguments are often based misinformation, out of touch with reality, insane logic, opinions without limited or no informatio, and above all ego.
So which of the above was the reason for your fight? If it is the last one, there is no hope in the long run. Besides, who would argue with one's ATF other than yo
They come right out of the blue, a simple statement, or lack of a statement is all that is needed.
They are like icebergs: You see only the tip. That big submerged part (The part that sinks ships.) is seldom recognized by either party.
It takes some fairly intense and long term time between two people for the fight to come about (usually), but when it does, it can be intense.
Fortunately, they abate as quickly and as mysteriously. Not like a summer afternoon thunderstorm.
And now I'll end before the metaphor police come and get me.
Makeup sex with a provider? Nope. Not gonna happen. Why would I pay anyone to be with them after we've argued? You want to apologize, fine, fuck me for free. That ain't happening in this world. As for me apologizing? He'll no, I apologize enough with my wife. I'm not looking for agita outside my marriage. I see providers for fun, not grief.
To me sex should be fairly non violent (well except when you are pounding into her vagina with your cock, but that's fun, not violence). My sound and fury signify nothing
I saw a girl who was pretty tough, and she kinda kicked my ass.
I had to wrestle her to win her, and I got my butt kicked.
In my defense.. I twisted my knee trying to give her a souplex.
She took pity on me.. Is that make up sex?
I'll tell ya. It was tough to keep hard as my knee began to swell, and throb..
Jesus help us with these posts. Is your location so bereft of women that you would really consider seeing this chica again? Find some drama free fun man.
Apparently, she wants some of my dick. 
I recently had a misunderstanding with #1 Fav lady. I think there was fault on both sides. I booked a repeat visit with her.
When we started 6 years ago, I was able to head to her first thing in the morning but I have to wait a bit last 2 years since the SO is home now. Additionally, we started having a shared lunch & I always shop just before I get on the highway. I have always called just before I get on the interstate... over an hour from there... so she can better plan her time. So the most recent schedule had me at her door at 11:30. I booked over email as I've always done & gotten confirmed back but she does not link to email chit-chat much these days. I was not specific when I booked about the time & she never questioned.
After shopping, I called as I was about to get on the Interstate & she was upset, claiming I was canceling which I was not. As far as I was concerned, I was on schedule.
I arrived & she chewed me out for half hour or so. Honestly, I thought of just walking out. Except it would have made a liar out of me & proved every false thing she was saying. I think I finally got her to understand. She is a FBSM + extras gal & my standard compensation included a tip for extras. Long ago we shifted from her massage table to her bed... and she's always been very generous with her time.
Damn if the session wasn't back on the massage table... managed a bit of 69 but no where near the play I expected.
During our lunch, she said her daughter had an important event planned in a couple of days... except most of the planning was undone & left Fav #1 to pull daughter's event together. And here I was having a session right in the middle of that scramble to get it done. I had no clue of course because she hadn't told me. Under the circumstances, she should have declined the appointmet with a brief explanation. I'd probably have postponed or if we went ahead, would have scheduled much tighter.
We did burry the hatchet enough to have a session, money talks after all & Fav lady or not it's still pay as you go (or cum).
We said our good byes without a real apology. She was way over my line, nasty & unpleasant & I had a hour & half drive to think about it. I went home without the glow.
It is a long drive & I have long sent a thank you email after getting home, which also confirms my safe travel. I didn't send TY that night. Next morning when I checked my email was a note from her but still not a real apology. I have maintained radio silence since then.
Never say never with the horny genes but I am SOo not inclined to ever go back.
This was not the only drama filled session... there have been others. Any one of which are forgivable. But taken in total shows an emotional pattern.
Makeup sex?? Yes, we could make up but only within the limits of her menu. F*ck, I'd probably be back on the massage table again.
for a piece of ass.
I had a spat with the first provider I ever met. this was at the end after I saw her multiple times. Turns out we were not a good match after all..Let's just say she was a good actress. That was 4 years ago.Never again.
When we started 6 years ago, I was able to head to her first thing in the morning but I have to wait a bit last 2 years since the SO is home now. Additionally, we started having a shared lunch & I always shop just before I get on the highway. I have always called just before I get on the interstate... over an hour from there... so she can better plan her time. So the most recent schedule had me at her door at 11:30. I booked over email as I've always done & gotten confirmed back but she does not link to email chit-chat much these days. I was not specific when I booked about the time & she never questioned.
After shopping, I called as I was about to get on the Interstate & she was upset, claiming I was canceling which I was not. As far as I was concerned, I was on schedule.
I arrived & she chewed me out for half hour or so. Honestly, I thought of just walking out. Except it would have made a liar out of me & proved every false thing she was saying. I think I finally got her to understand. She is a FBSM + extras gal & my standard compensation included a tip for extras. Long ago we shifted from her massage table to her bed... and she's always been very generous with her time.
Damn if the session wasn't back on the massage table... managed a bit of 69 but no where near the play I expected.
During our lunch, she said her daughter had an important event planned in a couple of days... except most of the planning was undone & left Fav #1 to pull daughter's event together. And here I was having a session right in the middle of that scramble to get it done. I had no clue of course because she hadn't told me. Under the circumstances, she should have declined the appointmet with a brief explanation. I'd probably have postponed or if we went ahead, would have scheduled much tighter.
We did burry the hatchet enough to have a session, money talks after all & Fav lady or not it's still pay as you go (or cum).
We said our good byes without a real apology. She was way over my line, nasty & unpleasant & I had a hour & half drive to think about it. I went home without the glow.
It is a long drive & I have long sent a thank you email after getting home, which also confirms my safe travel. I didn't send TY that night. Next morning when I checked my email was a note from her but still not a real apology. I have maintained radio silence since then.
Never say never with the horny genes but I am SOo not inclined to ever go back.
This was not the only drama filled session... there have been others. Any one of which are forgivable. But taken in total shows an emotional pattern.
Makeup sex?? Yes, we could make up but only within the limits of her menu. F*ck, I'd probably be back on the massage table again.
One time I went to see a provider whom I have seen 3-4 times before. We set the appointment by email and I knocked on her door at the agreed upon time. She answered and was all bitchy that I just showed up and didn't call again. Geez, we had an appointment at that time, I was there exactly on time, and she really wanted me to call her AGAIN before knocking on her door? Like I need to pay somebody to get an attitude from them, so I was done with her forever.
On the other hand, Asian women are the best overall, because they hardly speak English, so there is nothing they could ever say to annoy you. One time one of them was trying to to a CBJ, and I told her to take off the hat and do a HJ instead, then I shot her in the face (not on purpose). I would imagine that she was saying something along the lines of "what the hell" in her own language while pointing to her face, but I didn't understand what she was saying, so it was all good
Somehow, I don't think you get the simplicity of this business. You arrive, you screw, you leave. There are no arguments.
You say that you are the one that caused "it". Everyone has a bad day and a spot you don't want to poke with a stick. Depending on what you did to cause the ruckus and how badly she behaved in reaction, I might cut a little slack, especially if I'd seen her a lot of times. ATF's can get awfully comfy and can be difficult to replace although the search can be fun.
Sounds like you two are communicating OK, I'd just give it a go. If she is still bitchy about it, bye. If she's over it and you're not starting from scratch, OK.
In the end, because we refused to hold grudges, we got through it. Things returned to normal, relatively quickly,
Remember, this is the hobby, not civvie life. They have a financial incentive to remain friends with you, and thus will be more forgiving if the fight was over trivial issues. Otherwise, just move on. Life is too short to be consumed with or by petty BS, and there are always new ladies to meet and become friends with if you lose any.
Best of luck, man.