The Long& Short of It......Length of Appointments, That Is Ladies, Please Advise

Years ago, as young buck, I dabbled a few times in The Hobby. Then, because of a committed relationship, I stayed away for nearly two decades. A few months ago I began seeing providers again, but instead of just the occasional tryst as before, I am doing so on a much more frequent basis. I have discovered that my needs & desires are much different now than they were 20-something years ago (I know, I know...what a shock). Now, there isn't so much the urgency just to get laid as quickly as possible. Now I find myself actually enjoying the anticipation, the buildup, to the Main Event. I am pretty selective in who I see. I try to find someone I feel like I will be able to relate to before & after Playtime. As such, I tend to enjoy longer appointments. I'm talking anywhere from 3 hours to overnighters, depending on the circumstances. For me, a longer date feels more relaxed and less impersonal. Neither of us has to rush & the level of intimacy, be it either real or perceived, seems so much greater. Don't get me wrong, I truly do understand the nature of the relationship & don't have any impossible expectations regarding the provider I may be seeing. Still, a multi-hour appointment is just so much better than the wham-bam variety, for me at least.
It's taken me a while to get where I'm going (sorry), but what I would like to know is;
Do you ladies prefer longer or shorter appointments? I realize that the monetary rewards are greater for longer dates, but is that the only reason - if indeed you do prefer them? If you feel like sharing, what are the pros & cons of longer vs. shorter appt's?

From what I can glean reading the boards, most Hobbyists fall into the 1 or 2 hour category. Are they missing out, or am I missing the point?

if the connection/chemistry is there, I like longer sessions. I do like to spend time with my men.
There are times that the chemistry doesn't work and I am thankful that we have only committed to a shorter session.
I would suggest you start with your mimimum, I believe you said 3 hours. Make sure that it is going to work. After that then go for a longer one.
As for my answer, depending on who I am seeing I like longer, and sometimes, shorter is better.

Shaye

Good Luck!

Re:The Long& Short of It......Length of Appointments, That Is Ladies, Please Advise

For me, I like a good mix of both - shorts are fun, I find it a real turn on to be with someone when sex is all you're after.  But, longer appointments are obviously better for getting to know someone and establishing a real rapport, and if it's dinner and so on, it's fun to get all dressed up to tease a little bit before you get back to the room and put on the real show.

-Anya

Re:The Long& Short of It......Length of Appointments, That Is Ladies, Please Advise

I think it varies from lady to lady as it does with the gents.  Different strokes so to speak.  Some like the wham bam and shorter appointments and some do like the longer duration appointments.  Some like the longer for monetary aspects some have other reasonings.  Variety is great, but given the flux of ladies that have entered the biz, a gent does need to be a little more discerning in his choice to be sure that his tastes are met.

For myself, I prefer longer appointments.  I am in the same mindset of not being into the wham bam type of liaisons for I do think the experience is a more fulfilling one and this is my social time also.  So, the monetary aspects are not the only reasonings for me and there isn't an arguement on the pros and cons.  It is pretty cut and dry with me.

I don't think that you are missing the point.  I do however feel that the economy has a lot to do with the shorter duration of time booked with a lady.  

There was a time that longer liaisons were just as prominent, but now notice that although the gents still do play, they are a little more spendthrifty and those in which the economy hasn't affected them are far and few in between.

Ladies are reducing rates and offering specials to compensate and that has left the field open for the gents to play in a manner they probably didn't before.  Given my comfort levels of not wanting a wham bam experience, instead of lowering my rates in these tough times, I do offer more time in lieu.  Once the economy rebounds I do think that longer durations liaisons will become prominent once again.

Lauren

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I REALLY NEED a mental connection to enjoy myself.  Can't imagine meeting for an hour or two.....  (Might as well pleasure myself and use my batteries.)

Need to get to know someone, connect (we always do after some conversation/ flirtation, finding mutual interests and mental/ physical attributes that really attract me to him, and vice versa), and then, it's always absolutely FAB when we finally 'totally connect'!!

Three hours or more is a must for me!!!  Thinking of making it four....

Re:The Long& Short of It......Length of Appointments, That Is Ladies, Please Advise

Thank you for your input ladies. I wish all of you health, happiness & the perfect clientele