Tagged this onto a thread that I thought was related, but didn't get much response, so I thought I would try it again with its own thread. Hope that is OK with everyone.

Set up with provider, we are just getting started with a bit of CG and decide to change up to something else. She gets off and is shocked to see that she is bleeding. Seems she started about a month ago on some 3 month birth control shot that was supposed to elminate periods. We clean up and after talking a bit and calming her down (she was really freaking), I decide nothing more is going to happen and suggest we hit the road. Just as we are finishing dressing, she grabs up the donation that was still on the end table and gives me back 50 out of 250. During the set up before we met, she had asked 300, I countered at 200, but when we met I gave 250 after thinking about it. So the 50 she gave back was the "extra" I had added. I counter offered to give her 50 and I'd keep the 200. Probably not important, but I had already picked up the room as well. I could tell she wasn't happy, but she didn't want to talk about it and left. TXT me very soon after with a long, but not nasty diatribe, suggesting that I should have left her with at least 100, since we had gone at least half of the hour agreed; note that a good part of that half was cleaning up and talking her down.

So what is the answer here? Was I fair?

i don't think so.

i would compensate for time spent not for the quality of that time. the quality of that time was affected by a valid medical reason over which she had no control. i'd go $125.

Since the situation was neither your fault nor hers, I think it would have been fair to split the donation, especially as you had half of the agreed session.

However, as a provider I would be mortified if a gentleman experienced this while he was with me, even if it was not my fault, and would feel inclined to return the whole donation as a gesture of goodwill. That said, I would not see someone who haggled over the initial arrangements in the first place.

My view is that in a field where reputation is everything, it is bad business to allow a gentleman to go away feeling cheated for the sake of a relatively small sum.

A woman has a lot of toys to play with.  I'm often perplexed that so many men tend to obsesse over that one orfice.

However, to answer your question, I think going halvsies would be more than fair to you, especially as you bargained her down to start.  (Which is a whole other subject that I won't get into here.)

Well, let's see.... some time ago, I entered into an agreement for my house to be painted.  I delivered a check when they showed up to paint.  A few hours later, they said they were sick and left.  Was I wrong to cancel payment on the check?

to find that her period began during intercourse with me. She was also very upset about it. I calmed her down, told her that I was not offended or put off. After some clean up we lay together and cuddled,  and we completed our time together very enjoyably with other options. I saw her again a while later, and she more than made it up to me. I would not have thought of walking out or not providing the standard donation.....

is a big turn-off..

You are such a gentleman Mr. Fisher

Ladies do not want to talk about such things and I guess your session did turn out as a fire sale...just a little pun for the red color

How can you expect a lady to treat you kindly when you treat her with such disrespect.

That session was doomed from the beginning

Kisses Haley

Let's tailor your analogy a bit so that it better reflects the circumstances of the original post.

Let's say that the painter was an independent contractor, not a team of painters. He was working on the job and had half completed it when he fell down the ladder and broke his right arm, seriously hampering his ability to complete the task. It's true that he could have continued and provided limited services, but these would not have been to the same standard as you would expect.

Yes, I think it is reasonable to apply my original solution - i.e. he should refund you half your money - as he has completed half the task, and his failure to deliver on it fully is due to a demonstrable health problem, which he could not have forseen.

Well, actually I don't think I have a problem with your analogy rework.  It seems fair since as you suggest, half the work was completed.  But, unless I am mis-reading something, in the case at hand, nothing was completed and based on the first sentence, "after just starting some CG", I "assume" that they were only into the session a few minutes before everything stopped.

So, if it's true that everything stopped after only a few minutes, ( and don't forget that he had already fronted for the room separately ) I don't think she deserved anything.  My exception to this thinking would be if she had offered alternative service and he refused.  But since that isn't mentioned, then I "assume" it wasn't offered.

Just my two cents...

envelope down, I don't pick it back up. I don't talk about money at all.

Although losing the opportunity for some 'initals' (CG, etc) we see in reviews, (unless she travels to Greece) there are plenty of other 'initials' that can be pursued. (Not to mention showers, back-rubs, etc. Or maybe some real dessert dining using our bodies as the plates.) And I always travel with my music, so we could do some "Dancing With The Prof" as well.

Life Happens. We can only control how we respond to it. These are the times we can let our imagination grow.

It's probably best to ask the original poster, but from my own experience I would be surprised if they had got to the CG stage within a few minutes. He did say that they had been doing that for a very short time, but he didn't say how long it took to get to that point.

I think we're in agreement that he is paying for the lady's time and at the point where she was unable to continue the service the fair thing to do would be to refund him for the rest. In terms of being fair, I don't think he was entitled to a full refund.

As I said, though, I think that from a business perspective it is better to do the gracious thing than the fair thing in this situation. It seems unlikely that he'll be visiting her again after this experience. For the sake of this relatively small amount she has not only allowed the experience to end on a sour note but probably also lost all future opportunities to entertain him.

I could be wrong but I think that for many guys it would not so much be about the numbers as avoiding the unpleasant feeling of being taken advantage of. My prediction is that if offered it all back in this situation, a lot of the gentlemen I know would insist that that they at least split the damage with the lady.