Age of consent in my state is 16, but there are a lot of qualifiers and not really that safe for sex for older. With that said, I and some other guys have mainly put several Sugar Babies through college. Careful selection is paramount. No virgins. Which, as the years have gone by is less and less of a problem. Good high school records and on the way to college. A lot of very careful vetting. Over the last years we have seen six graduate and presently have 2 young ladies in school now. What we have provided has varied some, but mainly the gals have a free ride for four years and they have to maintain their grades and graduate.
Payment is basically 4 minimum 2 hour sessions per patron per month. Works out in practice to about 60 hours per month per gal (a little bit over minimum). All of us sponsors are older, time on our hands, successful and mostly retired. It took a good bit of time and experiment to get this operating safely. One of the present gals is the younger sister of the first gal that took us up on the developing plan at the time. For us old farts the sexual excitement created by the young ladies is paramount. And, surprisingly, as time has gone by, a good bit of pride in the gals completing school and getting their degrees.I met a sugar baby online. She wanted to meet up fast and we negotiated an allowance right on the spot and she said she was heading over. I told her make sure to read my profile, i have a very strict policy against non-sweetheart girls. Looks do not excuse a bad attitude. She said ok she will be over soon. She then texts I’m downstairs. Less than 1 minute later I am walking toward the elevator when i get another text where she said ‘hurry i don’t have that much time.’ I had a gut feeling this was a snarky girl with an attitude. I just texted back ‘nvm’. Would you have done the same? I am so, so tired of girls acting the exact same way that they would if you dated them for real.
From 2015- 2020 I played in the sugar world, and then quit this year to come back to seeing regular escorts/ providers, but the cost benefit analysis was just not working out.. Too much time spent chasing dead ends and flakes.
I would have slowed her down even further.. When someone tries to rush me, I slow them down. That's how I roll. When I was getting good results in the SB world, I would always want to meet them up for coffee or happy hour, or even lunch or dinner. Met some really cool chics that way. The next time around you can get intimate.
If she is trying to just rush you, she is just an equivalent of what used to a Backpage girl, who is only on Sugar sites because BP closed down.
The real good ones, at least in the past, preferred handful of benefactors, and didn't mind taking time to get to know them better.
I think you did the right thing by not going forward with it, assuming you are playing in the SB world for something more stable and long term.. If all you want is a quick lay, you are better off playing the regular escort/ provider game..
Just my 2 cents..
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Respect the team you are a fan of.....even though the kept my Redbirds from the World Series a while back.
If you were a Cubs fan, there could be verbal warfare.
.... a fuckin' donkey was responsible for keeping them off WS for 71 yrs. That being said, I absolutely love Wrigley Field, and one of my favorite places to watch the game..
And while we might have kicked your ass back in 2019, the loss in 2012 still stings like a mothafuckah. That was the first year that NATS were a really good team, after moving to DC in 2005. Oh well.. Don't we all wish we could turn back the hands of time.
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You definitely dodged a bullet! You would of heard every 10 seconds during the sex "Did you cum baby?"
You appear to have low expectations because you have experienced a poor dating life.
She came over and and you turned her away because of one text that she doesn't have much time? What a dick move.
Maybe now that Covid is getting under control , you can me a nice girl with low self esteem.
...a nice girl with low self esteem.
I would have still wanted to meet her. I probably would have texted her back that, "If its a bad time, we can postpone this to another day. How's tomorrow for you?' If she comes unglued about postponing, once you hand over the money, you will probably never see her again anyway. But at least you confirm your suspicions before you hand over the dough. A sincere SB will be looking past the moment, so I agree, this is troubling comment from her.
With that said, unlike professionals, amateurs are more prone to get nervous and antsy when meeting a new SD for the first time, so by meeting her anyway, you would bet a better sense of whether its just nerves, or she really is a bitch.
You didn't give the age of the sugar babe, but if she was young she might have limited freedom to be out and really did have a short time available (away from under parent's watchful eye, etc.)
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If you have all these preconceived ideas about what someone is going to be like, you're probably not very fun to be around.
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Anyhow, young SB's come with their youthful inexperience. If you can't deal with that, you are fishing in the wrong pool.
So what's the deal with Secret Benefits?
I signed up there just to see what it was all about...
And I got spammed by 100's of "girls",
But when I went to read their "messages"
I got a pop-up saying I had to buy "coins" to talk to them...w.t.f.?
It sounds like iFlirts. On there, 1000's girls message you, chatting you up with all kinds of non-commital sexy talk...
And they will drain you of "coins"...
I can tell by their spelling and diction that they are probably in Thailand or some other SE Asia country,
and just hustling for pennies on the dollar to keep the "Marks" pumping coins into it...
So how about SB??? Will they ever actually answer and meet "i.n r.eal l.ife" ???
If they're snarky, then they're in the wrong business - they should be Financial Dommes, and then there would be no question that there is no sex involved, and the "slaves" would be more than happy to oblige...
It all seems ass-backwards... but then what do I know....???
Ah, I wish I had've listened to Mistress Helema back in the day...
Oh well...
~A
This whole game strikes me as something for dudes with time on their hands. Just not my thing.
The latest profile brought to my attention was for "catlady0056". Age 56. Cat lady in the negative sense. Pass.
The "secret photos" I've looked at made me wonder what the secret is. Scam.
I'm inclined to just burn my credits as fast as I can and quit wasting time but no profiles interest me.
Guys say they have had good luck in this general area but I don't know if this is the site they are using.
Go read The Erotic Highway forum here on TER. It's all about sugar babes, sites, etc.
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Secret Benefits makes you pay per initial contact, after that you can converse with that specific sugar babe all you want. Be selective in who you contact. Just because they contacted you means almost nothing. Choose by location, and your other preferences. Don't pay for hidden photos, they're lame.
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Seeking might be a more well stocked sugar babe site. There you pay by the month. But see the discussion on the forum mentioned due to the evolution of sugaring.
So what's the deal with Secret Benefits?
I signed up there just to see what it was all about...
And I got spammed by 100's of "girls",
But when I went to read their "messages"
I got a pop-up saying I had to buy "coins" to talk to them...w.t.f.?
It sounds like iFlirts. On there, 1000's girls message you, chatting you up with all kinds of non-commital sexy talk...
And they will drain you of "coins"...
I can tell by their spelling and diction that they are probably in Thailand or some other SE Asia country,
and just hustling for pennies on the dollar to keep the "Marks" pumping coins into it...
So how about SB??? Will they ever actually answer and meet "i.n r.eal l.ife" ???
If they're snarky, then they're in the wrong business - they should be Financial Dommes, and then there would be no question that there is no sex involved, and the "slaves" would be more than happy to oblige...
It all seems ass-backwards... but then what do I know....???
Ah, I wish I had've listened to Mistress Helema back in the day...
Oh well...
~A
I'm sorry.... I still don't understand...
What is SA?? And what is the other site???
"Asking for a friend", haha - just kidding!
~A
and is a major sugar daddy/mama site. Go the the Erotic Highway Board to find out more about it.
The only other site I saw referred to is the Seeking Benefits site.
Seeking used to be called Seeking Arrangements, hence SA. SB is Secret Benefits. There are other similar sites, in fact there are many such sites.
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I've been on SA and SB. Met several off SA and one in particular off SB (she was a competitive bikini body builder.) So there are real people on both. But probably more on SA.
Hey Strongtypelover,
I'll be your sugar baby. Email me at [email protected]
Age of consent in my state is 16, but there are a lot of qualifiers and not really that safe for sex for older. With that said, I and some other guys have mainly put several Sugar Babies through college. Careful selection is paramount. No virgins. Which, as the years have gone by is less and less of a problem. Good high school records and on the way to college. A lot of very careful vetting. Over the last years we have seen six graduate and presently have 2 young ladies in school now. What we have provided has varied some, but mainly the gals have a free ride for four years and they have to maintain their grades and graduate.
Payment is basically 4 minimum 2 hour sessions per patron per month. Works out in practice to about 60 hours per month per gal (a little bit over minimum). All of us sponsors are older, time on our hands, successful and mostly retired. It took a good bit of time and experiment to get this operating safely. One of the present gals is the younger sister of the first gal that took us up on the developing plan at the time.
For us old farts the sexual excitement created by the young ladies is paramount. And, surprisingly, as time has gone by, a good bit of pride in the gals completing school and getting their degrees.