I've had a few really great appts now with some phenomenal girls.  I called them the next day just to say thanks and tell them what a great time I had.  I haven't gotten a call back, but there's a part of me that wonders if I'm doing overkill.

Or should I just not bother calling them at all?

I personally think that's very sweet of you and not overkill.  The lady may be busy when you call which could be the reason for getting voicemail.  And once she listens to her voicemail, she might not take it as you wanting her to call back, but just saying thank you.

I know if someone called me and thanked me I probably wouldn't call them back as I'd be afraid of calling at a ummmmm bad time so to speak.  I would most likely send an email though.

Not overkill IMHO.

I would send an email in that situation so she could get it at her leisure. I try not to intrude, but I've sent a few of those thank you  emails.

I always send an email...when email is available.   My fav..who I've seen dozens of times...always gets a follow-up email from me saying "wow"...'cause it's always a wow!

If it is a good time then it's a gentlemen's thing to do.

If you can't send an e-mail, a text message is better than calling as it can be read when she has time and more likely she would respond. I've gotten texts from providers before I sent one saying they had a great time or they could hardly walk the next day. I know it's just PR but still it shows effort above the normal.

Always. are you seeing a pattern here.  Send an email.  I always send an email a day after, I keep it brief, put something like, "thank you for yesterday" in the subject.  I usually  get a response sometimes immediately, if the lady has a blackberry, sometimes in a day or two.

..no question!.  If you don't get a callback..so what? Do you need ongoing dialog? Just send the flowers, give the hug, feel good you did the right thing (IMHO).
EVERY time I have a 'good' date I send my girl an 'after' message via the method of our 'usual' contact, by that I mean...if we've been emailing, I send her a thankyou email. If we've texted, I send her a thankyou text (usually more than one on texting only cuz I love it!) if it's voice, well, let your fingers do the work and just leave the message. Voicemail is not new anymore, it's not scary and (most) people will forgive you if you have a brainfart or verbal fauxpas on voicemail.

I hope so anyway, cuz I have made a few 'misquotes' opn voicemail and I say "Wow I hope Tasha understands what I meant!!!"
Don't fret, just keep treating the ladies like ladies, you'll be golden!

And by the way, would you please send me the numbers on the 'phenomenal girls' I like that type!  LOL

It lets me know how much he enjoyed my company and gives me a chance to thank him. I would never make that phone call myself so it is up to the man to make that connection. I would call you back if you mentioned that was alright.

Kisses Haley

I usually e-mail a "thankyou for a great time" the next day.
Sometimes I get a brief reply:  "I had a great time too.  See you soon."
Sometimes I don't.

There is no right or wrong...  it depends on your personality & hers.
I think e-mail is viewed at her liesure while phone is more short term...  better for booking.
just my thoughts,
skb

In my view, sending an e-mail is the best way to thank a lady for a special time spent together.  That way you don't have to worry about catching her at an inoportune time.  I have typically gotten responses (although not always).  I think a nice e-mail is a nice touch.

As long as it is not in the middle of my next appointment

..An email is much more appropiate than a phone call.   There is no need to reach the person immediately, so there is no need to call.

If you email, then you should get a response back.   If I do not get an email response, then I will most certainly not see the woman again, because she feels that the time it would take to respond with a simple "Thank you", is not worth spending.

Phone calls are for events that need to happen real soon.   Email is for events that do not need to happen right now.

you want to kill 2 birds with one stone...

Sending thanks for the last session, and scheduling the next one!

Get too many calls so your voicemail will be lost with other messages and it'll take me a while before I can get to yours unless you marked urgent .

and a couple of times, the ladies have beaten me to it with their own emails. Now, there's an ego booster for you.

After an appointment, it would be nice to lay there in the afterglow of what happened. However, I live in the real world afterward, so after the fantasy is over and the gentleman walks out the door, I am ripping the sheets and blanket off of the bed and cleaning up. I may have other work I do from home. Some women may have children to pick up, etc. Whatever the case, you just said goodbye at the door. It's a sweet gesture to think about calling, but there is absolutely no need to call the minute you leave, and especially not an hour later. We would not call you once you've left. Think about it. Plus, I only give out my number and tell the gentlemen that he should only use that number to call if he's running late or has to cancel. It's not a work phone, nor do I want a work phone -- my personal preference.

A phone call is very nice, but it interrups what I'm doing. Not to sound cold, but the appointment is over. Your time is over. You go back to your life. I go back to mine. Don't analyze what I'm saying. It's not mean. It's the truth!

On the other hand, I am very polite and professional, so I always send an email thanking the person for our time together if he's says it's okay to email him. I love getting his response, especially if he beats me to it. I have more time to enjoy and think about what I'm doing through email.

Hugs,
ciara

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And if the lady doesn't mind you calling her, texting her, whatever, and you've already established that connection, then it's okay. So, Always1050 should be aware that women are different and not assume one thing is right for another. Personally, I prefer email.

Stay sweet!

Hugs,
Ciara

Other than for confirmation/"I'm on my way" calls, I prefer email contact.

Also, she may not feel safe calling you back -- a lot of gentlemen prefer that a lady not call them unless they have specifically stated a time when it's okay to do so. She could be just trying to remain discreet.

I think it is very sweet and kind when a gent calls or emails afterwards!   If you email, I am likely to send a reply back.  If you call and leave a vm I probably won't call back.  I never know if you would be able to talk so don't want to put you at risk.

But, to answer your question....keep being your sweet self!!

I send an email thank you after my time with a lady.  It is the right thing to do.

works best for ladies with incall...more difficult for traveling ladies...eom