My boyfriend is driving me NUTS!

We cannot see each other every day -even living in the same town - because of our hectic schedules.

I work odd hours - usually between 11 am and 2 am.

He is up at 4:30 am (every morning) and goes to the gym. Then, works all day and his bedtime is around 9 pm because he need to be up so early the next day.

It's his gym, he needs to look buffed and chiseled, so he goes into "cycles", when his diet is strict, takes lots of supplements and workout like a maniac.

The results from his regimen is a man with an extremely HIGH sexual libido and he needs to cum all the time.

I mean, ALL the time!

He stops by my place after he closes the gym and before heading to his place = to fuck!

He calls me every freaking hour (during my precious sleeping period) to tell me he's horny and need to cum. He comes over = we fuck! fuck! fuck!

It's a non stop sex marathon and is wearing me out big time. I can't sleep at night, because he needs to fuck at 1, 2, 3, 4 am. I make up for my sleep when he is busy at the gym but I really not looking forward my nights anymore

I was all happy because he is heading to the Hamptons now (I did decline going, told him I had clients I could not cancel). I thought I was going to have couple days of rest and peace, but he just texted me saying how horny he is right now and  he is cutting his trip short to be back tomorrow and be with me.

Oh Lordy Lordy Lordy! what should I do? remove his balls? Bite his dick head so it takes time to heal?

LOL Help! Any gruesome, but effective, suggestion?

BDG

Until then, here are some lame fixes that come to mind:

A blow up doll
Another girl friend
Salpeter
Move away
Change schedules

Have you discussed this at all with him?

With that kind of sexual apetite...maybe you should suggest he become a provider for other ladies- this might give you the relief you are seeking...boy I wish I had that appetite ...LOL!

The word "user" comes to mind. You didn't say anything about what you are getting out of this relationship, other than sex which is apparently becoming a chore for you. Furthermore, you seem to think you are responsible for taking care of his sexual needs, while he has no responsibility to respect your boundaries, or your physical needs.

I suggest you evaluate how valuable this relationship is to you. Clearly he offers you something you need/want, or you would not be with him. But is the value of what you get from the relationship worth giving up your sleeping time?

Sins, great advice...and what else are you giving up? Your personal time and personal freedoms. I hear no mention of time spent together with your clothes on. There needs to be more to this than sex if its going to be what you need in a true relationship.
LG is a very good place to ask this as stated. That woman is great at helping you sort out the BS from the rest.
Can there also be an issue that maybe he does not see you for who you are but for what you do. Is he a bit insicure about what you do and feel maybe he is competing with your clients.
As Sins said, you are not responsable for his total sexual happiness and satisfaction.  And it sounds like you are being smothered a bit.
My BF is a bit possesive at times, he wants all my free time not to be selfish thats just how he is. Every now and again I need to reighn him in and make him realize I have other people and other things to do and see.
If you feel he is smothering you you need to tell him that. Take yourself a break and just be "too busy" I personally "RUN ERRINS" alot. Which at times are exactly that and other times are just me hangin out with my friends or getting my nails done or whatever. Its my time.
Set your boundries and set your foot down. You are NOT his sex toy. You are his lover which also consists of other activities as well as sex.

Good luck...

Nicole~~

-- Modified on 7/4/2008 10:02:45 AM

Take about 3 months of from the hobby and see if his behavior changes. Maybe he is having sex with you like that on purpose to keep you from being a provider.

Sex between two people in a relationship should be for mutual satisfaction, not simply so the guy can get his rocks off anytime he so-chooses. If he can't take care of business on his own rather than constantly bother you for sex that, from the sounds of things, you are not always in the mood for he is just plain selfish.

Bostonguy.
your bf needs to get a grip on himself and take matters in his own hands.


Thank you
2008=27

a dog in heat?

If the former, consider yourself very lucky.

If the latter... it's probably time to move on.

The differences in daily schedules is a serious logistical problem, which can be dealt with if both parties are willing to concede to each other from time to time, however... if it's always one person caving in to the other's preferred sleep/awake schedule this will eventually blow up.

(not a therapist, but hang out with a few)

LOL Sounds pretty normal for a man =)

Time to get drastic! Sweat pants, facial mask, and curlers =)

Spud

I think you got have received some great advice here. I don't think sex is the real issue. He may not be completely aware why he is acting this way.  If he calls you every hour from work, keeps you awake at night, and cuts short a trip to see you that sounds more like insecure controlling behavior than sexual urgency. If he is that horny as many have said he can simply satisfy himself instead of doing all the things you described.  

If you really think their are long term prospects then he is going to have to learn how to give you more space or you will start resenting him. The ability to communicate is almost always the key in any long term relationship. By the way I am better at realizing this than actually doing it myself Good Luck!

Wonder if he is on a "cycle" of testosterone.  That can definitely make the hormones rage into a sexual intoxication....Sounds like someone I know...sort of...

LOL!


You are number one. Stay healthy, shoot for a healthy relationship.  Your b/f is supposed to add to your life,  not hinder it! Be happy! YOU deserve it!     AND when you really get sick of it  get rid of him!  

Take care!


shelby xoxox

-- Modified on 7/5/2008 8:50:29 AM

I am always amazed at a woman who will fuck all night, even though SHE doesn't want to...because there is a hard-on knocking at the door every hour.  In college, I was a walking erection...I had a VERY hot, Horney GF.  Sometimes after a night of partying with my frat brothers, I'd call her up at 3 AM....she was more than happy to oblige ONCE! (at that time)  Ya there were marathon sessions...but only after a long time apart, and never at that time in the AM.  Sounds like he has very little respect for your time, or need for sleep, or anything else.  Also sounds like his "suppliments" include a little more than "Mega Man" Vitamins!  I would suggest buying him a Shop Vac with lips attached.  But as long as you are willing to be an unquestioning "cum dumpster", willing to take every load that needs to be dumped...guess you really can't complain!

As long as the pincushion is there...he's going to keep sticking it!  This is your BF????  Nice pick!  As far as I can see it...you have 2 choices......tell him to go away....or start charging him like the rest!  Every website I see for a provider mentions respect....so where is his?  You demand it from guys who are paying, then let a BF(?) pound you into the mattress, or until you pass out...then post a complaint about it on the board.  I've seen this soooo much with the ladies, I can only laugh./....OH to be the BF of a provider.....where does one go to apply?

Just tell him you have a yeast infection, that should buy you some time.

Take him to a vet and have him fixed.


Thank you
2008=27

-- Modified on 7/7/2008 12:39:34 PM

impaired judgement, critical thinking and the ability to exercise good self-care, and not being strong enough, emotionally, to do what's right for you. Over a long enough period of time you will truly lose yourself. The pattern of sleep that you mentioned is exactly what is set up in POW camps to break down the prisoners to get them to reveal information meant to be withheld from their enemies.

This is serious business. If it has gone on longer than two weeks, it's gone on too long.

Although I gotta admit, I like his style.

"Hey babe, I'm horny, I'm coming over to fuck.  Have something decent for me to eat when we're done."  

He may just be my new hero... LOL!

-- Modified on 7/17/2008 11:44:37 AM