Guys, have you ever not scheduled a session or been hesitant to schedule a session due to be self conscious about your weight, appearance, or performance?

There are some things in this realm that are similar to real life dating and many things that are not. One of the things you don't have to worry about with a SW are the issues you mentioned. The overwhelming majority of the women in this field are professionals, and I mean that in the positive sense of the word. Your looks, performance etc are irrelevant to them. What they do care about is their safety, your hygiene and being treated with respect/kindness.

I have never hesitated to schedule a session with a provider due to the issues you mention.  (Most of) these ladies are pros and they know they get paid for providing a service.  Regardless of your physical appearance, weight, or performance issues, trust me, many of these gals have seen worse.  The right provider will make you feel like a king.  If performance is your concern, they will work with you to maximize your capability.  If you look like a bridge troll, they will make you feel like Prince Charming.  As long as you act like a gentleman, are squeaky clean with fresh breath and show your provider respect, you'll be fine.

I agree with Robert.  I've had at least two of the three issues you mention.

that can be fixed, if you really want to.   Anyone can go on a diet.  Anyone can get a makeover, but performance?  That just takes practice, so for that one, you have to dive in head first (no pun intended).  It's same as getting to Carnegie Hall . . . . practice, practice, practice.  If you are missing a leg, learn how to do positions for deeper penetration that guys with two legs can't do, and you will be a rockstar.  Lol

I would think that being self-conscious about SOMETHING is not uncommon.

After your first 10 visits, you won't care either.  Not that you shouldn't take pride in yourself.  

I get where you're coming from. While I don't have concerns about either my weight or looks (probably a bit better than the average guy my age on the streets -- I might also be biased, right) in the 10 years I've been play here I've never gotten a hint of something to worry about. I think more than looks or weight most of these ladies are much more concerned about how you will behave and how clean you show up. Good grooming and good manners will go a long ways in terms of your getting a good session with the better providers here.

That most escorts are pros and besides using common sense (not be drunk or an asshole etc for the session) you have nothing to worry about.

She sends you a clients' license for you to check out.  Now, that is really scary.

Funny. That would be weird, and interesting!, to see photos of other clients. I've run into a dozen or so other johns in the hallway, either before or after my session, and I was better looking than all of them. Haha. I mean it. On the other hand, none were remarkably unattractive, either. At my age, I definitely think it helps.

I forgot to mention that none of them was as old as me, either. Not even close.

Isn't there a hobbyists' Code of Ethics?  And the number 1 rule should be - I shall not see, learn of, be informed of, etc., private information concerning any other hobbyist unless that hobbyist consents to releasing such information.  Several years ago, a provider I was friends with wanted to share information with me about her clients.  I told her never to share such information with me.  

THIS!!!!  

I always get a few butterflies before I meet a new gent. Am I wearing what he requested? Too much makeup? Not enough? Did I light the candles? Music too loud? If this is a first date, I go through what was said in any messages so we have something to chat about. If I have seen you before? Your job, your spouse, your kids, your pets, hobbies, etc. I will do a mental run down so we can get caught up. I try to always be ready 15 min before the date, and then I sit there and run through my head all the things I might have forgot! lol
We are human also. We want you to have an amazing time. Be clean, polite, on time, and above all else, have fun!  

As they tend to get it. They're less likely to judge. Younger ladies, to me, seem to be more superficial and they might let out an "Ewww" at the firs sight of a naked overweight 50 yo. Not sure if this says anything, but I'm a very passionate/sensual guy. Mature ladies, get it. But I overwhelm the younger girls. Not sure if this goes hand in hand but you get the idea.
So to say all SW are pros and they get it, I'm not so sure about that

Frequantflyer,
  I don't see why you should be Self  Conscious about anything. It's us "THE PROVIDERS" that should be self conscious. I mean we are here to give you "THE HOBBYIST" whatever you wanted.  

No but when you start booking high profile providers like a P-Stars or a Models, insecurities do start to set in sometimes. The way around this is to book enough of them. You can also use the hobby to better yourself. Since I started hobbying, I have been exercising more. I try to keep myself well groomed as often as possible. I also quit jerking off which is actually a huge thing for me. I figured, if I am going to continue to sleep with beautiful women, I not only have to look the part, I have to act the part.

As mentioned earlier, some of us transition to this from the dating world, and we bring those assumptions along.  Especially since both sides are treating it as a fantasy girlfriend type encounter.  Of course, she's not a girlfriend in that original sense.  She's playing a role. Her reward is the payment.  Enjoy the performance.

to getting "professional training" NOT to discriminate?  I get around, and never heard of such training.  Is it a classroom, online, or private tutoring, and where do I go to get it?

That means you inherently discriminate and therefore you not discriminating is not voluntarily therefore you do not discriminate because you have to not because you want to.    

You're saying the ability to NOT discriminate does not come naturally to her like it does to most.  That does seem like what she is saying, just worded a different way.  Interesting.  

Or maybe oblivious to or denying the existence of unconscious biases which CAN be overcome:
http://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/intentional-insights/202007/what-is-unconscious-bias-and-how-you-can-defeat-it
What Is Unconscious Bias (And How You Can Defeat It)  
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http://www.pbs.org/newshour/nation/making-people-aware-of-their-implicit-biases-doesnt-usually-change-minds-but-heres-what-does-work
Making people aware of their implicit biases doesn’t usually change minds. But here’s what does work
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http://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/
Project Implicit [Controversial On-line test of implicit biases]
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Did you ever try to help a little old lady or blind or wheelchair bound person cross the street? Some react politely (accepting OR refusing assistance). Some resent the offer and want to beat you with their cane. You can learn better ways of dealing with each situation.

for staying away from grumpy old people altogether.  Lol

Leave it to CDL to show how to shift from "overcoming biases" to "normalizing biases."

Thank you for this!