If you are using a lady as a reference, even if she has white listed you, it is always a courtesy to drop her a quick note telling her who may be calling for a reference.

However, as your white listings are readily visible on your profile, yes ladies sometimes will contact someone who has listed you on their own.

No, they no longer have to be VIP to whitelist.  TER staff posted a couple months ago a procedure where non-VIP ladies can whitelist.  Do a white list search and you'll find the procedure.

As I understand it, she can be non vip and whitelist you. However, just because you have a whitelist doesn't mean every lady will accept it. I still check with the ladies themselves and I also check out the ladies who have whitelisted the gent to see if it's someone I would trust. You'd be surprised, but not every lady that a gent uses is real or reputable...

As a rule, I always do my homework (as much as possible!) on both the lady and the gent. A whitelist helps a lot, but it's not a fail safe option. It's a nice tool, though...

Katie