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I do not. Mainly because I’m too paranoid to share my secret life with anyone I’m friends with irl. I do share with other mongers on TER. I have a few who I occasionally exchange messages with and we share.

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Clients
Do you ever personally recommend a provider to people in your friend or social circle ?

Providers,
Do you ever recommend a friend who is a provider to clients?

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I had a great wingman for years with whom I shared referrals. Once you know someone's taste matches your own you know you can trust their recommendations. It's a very valuable resource.

Yes, of course, guy friends often recommend women they think their friends will enjoy, and it really is a two way street. I have personally been on the receiving end of fantastic recomendations from not just guys here, but providers as well.
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In fact, on sevral very memorable occasions, a provider has said something like, “Rob, you would be a perfect match for my girlfriend.” Sometimes I will also get tips about another woman from a provider friend who has met her through a meeting a client arranged, such as a threesome date.
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I have also received recommendations from women who met other women at M&Gs or through other networking events. That said, I don’t want to imply that most recommendations come from women as that wouldn’t be accurate. 90% or more recommendations for providers come from other clients I know.

hehitshewins9 reads

I do not. Mainly because I’m too paranoid to share my secret life with anyone I’m friends with irl. I do share with other mongers on TER. I have a few who I occasionally exchange messages with and we share.

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That is my opinion exactly.  I will share with someone via PM on TER, but I don"t trust anyone that I know personally.  You never know when they will have one too many and tell someone who shouldnt have this info.

If one person knows, its almost 100% that they tell someone else.

The best way to ensure that a secret stays secret, is to not share it.

 
I had two friends, both of which I thought understood the "Guy code".  At different times, I shared sensitive information with them.  They both told their wives, and said the same thing, "I don't keep any secrets from her."  Right, but that was not your secret.  It was mine.

 
It made me wonder whether their respective wives get detailed descriptions of the porn that "my friends" whack off to.  "No Secrets, right?"

I've found a few friends via TER. I've only met one in person so far but we meet for lunch regularly. So to be clear these are guys I did not know but for being members here. I'd never share with any other friends. I have no idea how they would react and who they would tell.  

 
All of us stay in touch quite a bit and certainly do share experiences and recommendations with each other. We all have similar tastes and attitudes towards ladies and we've all seen many of the same women based on recommendations we've made to each other.

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I’m not sure how I would feel about that lol. One second we’re exchanging messages about who we have fucked for money and becoming Eskimo brothers. Then one day, someone decides to ask, “Want to grab a beer?” On the flip side, there is something alluring about the idea of having a secret friend who’s in it just like I am.

I run with a very small group of guys and when we do our guy trips to Vegas I’ll set them up. Because discretion is of the upmost importance to them, I’ll doing the match making or leg work.
But when we get home… nobody says shit. It’s Our lil secret

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IDK if your buddies are married, if not you're probably good.  If they are married and someone gets divorced and if its a high value case, and, there is a nasty lawyer involved, there is a better than average chance this information will get out.

So I’m not seeing a divorce anytime soon.
And so far, nobody has had their come to Jesus moment on their death bed , so fingers are crossed..🤣🤣🤣

And I trusted him explicitly. He didn't have the financial means to monger as much as I did, so he would live vicariously thru me and my stories. I did wind up helping him hook up with a hot blonde provider that I knew he would go crazy for. He surprised me by getting married for the first time at the age of 65 last year and he quit mongering for good after that. There are a few guys that I share stripclub adventures with, but I doubt they'll be another person IRL that I will share escort information with again.

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