Are you asking if you should reveal your hobbying ways in light of her revealing her past as an escort?

I'd tend to say yes to that.  First of all, I think she'll pick up on it as women, especially escorts, are extremely intuitive.

If your question is should you give up hobbying and go for an exclusive SO releationship with this gal, I'd say it depends on many factors, but most of all on your wants and needs.

In any case, I'd consider it very highly.  She sounds like a very honest and open person.

What the hell, if it doesn't work out, you can always just go back to the hobby.  Better to have loved and lost....etc.

Is there some other advice you are looking for, however?

If she were still working I could see where you might have concerns but, if she's out of the biz I don't understand what your issues are.

Does she know that you see providers? Do you plan to keep seeing them if you get involved with this woman?  I think what we are talking about here is a bit of self-examination and honesty on your end.  

Good luck to you.

If you are 100% sure that YOU will never have an issue that will crop up later, then go forward, and best to you!

If you're not sure, then I don't know what to tell you.

Me??? I'd do it and never look back.


HH

I agree, E-harmony was not the place to go for advice!

Best of luck!

Greetings everyone!

I've been in the hobby for the last couple of years, thanks to the wealth of information on this site, and it's been a great experience. I have met some truly fantastic women and had some wonderful experiences.

My personal story is after my divorce i swore off dating women. The hobby seemed like the perfect solution. I really didn't want an LTR with someone my age seeking husband material.

So what brings me here today, and i would like input from seniors as well as providers, is I happened to meet a civvie and we've been going out for a few weeks. Things were getting pretty serious, so we were doing the honesty thing, and she reveals that she used to be a provider.

First, I was flattered that she didn't try to keep it a secret, she was relieved it wasn't a deal breaker.

So now ladies and gentleman, I open the floor to your wisdom and advice. Not so much "should or stay or should i go" because I can't say the information has changed how we feel. I'm looking for wisdom and pointers from those who may have been in this situation.

Thanks in advance.

Needless to say that there was a bit of laugh after I told her I was in the hobby and was surprised we hadn't met.

I explained that the hobby was in lieu of dating civvies, which she completely understood.

Last night she did ask for an exclusive relationship, which would mean leaving the hobby behind.

I agree with MrFisher that the hobby will still be here if things don't go so well.

anyhoo, i didn't think a post like this would fly on eharmony, and I knew good or bad i would get sound input from this board.

I don't understand the question. Dig The Clash quote, though!

If you two don't have a problem being current and/or former game players, what is the fucking problem? Be a couple and swing if you want some variety in your newfound relationship.

Though, by you 'opening up' like this it kinda looks like to me you're looking for an out and want someone, anyone, to justify it for you so you can tell her to hit the bricks. But that's just me and my cynicism coming thru.

You need to be more specific what it is YOU want before you ask a bunch of mongers and whores their advice how you should live your life.

You can accept what she used to do.  She can accept what you used to do.

If you and she are both happy with an exclusive arrangement, then go be happy and enjoy each other--see where it leads.

If she can be "former", can you?  If you can, then there's nothng stopping you.  
H

would you expect her to not have fucked anyone before you?  Would she have expected you to not have fucked anyone before her?  The answer to both questions is hell no, so what difference is there except that she got paid to fuck, and you paid to fuck.  If you are now exclusively with each other, then just go ahead and enjoy the relationship.  Have you told her about hour hobbying?  If not, you should, she was honest with you, so I think she deserves the same from you.  Once you have done that, just move ahead.....

Swim

I think that it is pretty much expected in this day and age that anyone we meet will have had sex and probably with quite a few pattners.  Swm is 100% on target. It should be no big deal for either of you  whether it was on  real dates or  p4p. If it feels right, maybe it is! Good luck.

Why in the fuck are you asking if you should stay or go when you are on a site about the aforementioned professionals?????

actually love, it's not a "stay or go question", it was a question looking for wisdom from others who may have or have not been in this situation, and really this is the best place to come for matters in this area.

... then something is bothering you. Your first step to recovery is admitting what you feel. Then we can help.

As for me, I would think it a plus that she was an escort. It shows an openness to her sexuality. Better that than the alternative.

My initial reason for posting was to see if anyone would have a reason to say "run away".

I'm thankful for all the folks who have said go for it, and we've decided to do the whole exclusive relationship.

I won't be hobbying, but I'll still be posting!!!

I'm encouraged about this. I think being in the hobby has allowed me to be completely nonjudgmental and see things with an open mind.

You know it's her honesty that knocked me down.

Thank you ladies and gents for the input!