This past weekend I had a great dinner date which included spending time at a strip bar. I have a few questions...... do all rules apply to women as to men when it comes to lap dances? Here in San Diego you are not allowed to touch the dancer at all. I am asking this because the first girl who did several lap dances for me was not really touching me however she danced great and was very erotic. The second dancer had us move to the back of the bar where it was darker, she was teasing and having a great time complementing me on good I smelled( she even guessed my fragrance) when all of a sudden she separated my legs and started to hump my leg. To my surprise she really liked by boobs and pinched my nipples( she could not get her hands off). As she continued things got even hotter, she lifted my skirt with her teeth and touched my pussy( which I was not wearing panties per client  request). I was really getting turned on as you can imagine and she was just working me with her eye contact and smile. She even kissed me and licked my ear.  This did not end here she grabed my hand and put it on my lap and sat on it (I could not believe it) and I was frozen up to this point because I was under the impression that I could not touch her.
Wow! as I am writing this I am getting turned on all over again. So my question is do women always get treated like this? And in the future.......can I touch a dancer?
Kisses & Licks........
Mara of San Diego

Often times a man that brings his own girl to a strip club has more $$ to spend than the average guy, so the girls know to pay special attention to her.  In the future.. touch away, and if you get too frisky, the girls or the manager will let you know... Have fun!

When I was a stripper, I loved the dancing, the showing off, the pleasing/flirting.. but i didnt have the desire/temperment for all the *hussle*... but i sure do miss the that fantasyworld!

Mara, it sounds as if you got "special" treatment. I too am in S.D. and have had in the past (two) S.O who were employed in that industry. Not all (women or men) are so fortunate as you to have found a lady who was that friendly, almost positive same rules apply to laps regardless of gender. So are you now going to be a "regular customer" of hers now?

Mara,

I cannot speak for S.D. but what experiences I have seen in the strip clubs, is that there seems to be a tolerated Double Standard (obviously limited to the ones I have been in, not as a blanket statement) when it comes to f2f contact.  I've noticed that the women usually get a lot more significant return on their "investment" of tip.

I've observed here so far as for the stripper to lift the Female patrons top and play/lick/suck her nipples.  As well as the grinding and fondling you have mentioned.  As well as the female patron getting pretty risque at times too-have seen the strippers felt up worse by women than men ever would be able to-even in private rooms.

As the F2F shows are common in the clubs, I'm certain they know such behavior also solicits greater tips from the associated male party, and others present in the viscinity.  so its probably tolerated because it loosens pockets.

Reagarding what you can/can't do, that will have several limits; club standards, the individual dancer's standards, and how positiove the response is from observers.  My guess is in the interaction with the stripper, you can subtly/respectfully push the envelope, they are really polite in their response, and will let you know the boundaries as you approach them.  Remember, they get groped by men all the time, and have developed responses and practices to dissuade that behavior, without offending the men, or causing them to lose interest.  Usually, they are very tactful when it comes to letting you know.  From the way you recounted your experience, I think she was letting you know it was safe to do some more, just by the way she manipulated your hand into position.

I hope this helps.


Leco

I'm a big fan of strip clubs, and find in my experience that women customers receive more contact from dancers and usually get to touch her much more than the male customers, even in clubs that are supposed to be no-contact.

The strippers tell me there are several reasons for the extra contact--first, women customers are not usually grabby like certain men so there's little or no fear factor; it's fun to do sensual girl-girl dances for novelty and to ease some of the repetition; and then there is the financial aspect--it usually brings the dancer lots of attention from the other customers surreptitiously watching--she gains instant popularity and makes more money.

I've had a lot of fun and highly erotic times at strip clubs--a few too X-rated to describe here.

A strip club date is a great couples date--highly recommended, especially in Houston and Vegas!

Regards,
Chrissy from Phoenix

Your post made me laugh - it reminded me so much of a similar date I had.  There was this lovely young thing crawling all over me, and I didn't know if I was allowed to really touch her or not.  And I wanted to!

-Anya

nt

and it was really exciting..I suddenly realised that the girl and I were announced by the DJ and everybody was watching..

Sounds like my first time in, too.. the first girl was so beautiful I was amazed too, MARA!! She came right to me at the side of the stage and bent over and bite my ear!!!!
The lap dance was in the corner all over my lap hands in the crotch she was whispering in my ear "you want to dance like me, don't you??" and I whispered back "NO. I WANT TO DO YOU!!"
It was a great warm up for the rest of the date~~  I had not a CLUE what the rules were before I went into the club, so I wasn't scared or anything.
*smoooch*
Elise

Same rules apply, regardless of who the customer is - No Touching, No Simulated Sex Acts, blah, blah, blah.....

The girls push the line on some areas, but too many vice pops and the club loses it's license. If the club serves alcohol, Bev. Control can yank the license ($$$$$...Youch!)

You got special treatment from the second dancer. The first dancer was the "approved" normal. The fact she took you into the darker regions of the club should have been your first clue.

Whether she was really into you, or putting on a fabulous show-I couldn't say. But, based on what you've described, if you had made the offer to meet when her shift ended, I'd suspect you would have had another playmate.

J