I pay for Date-Check, and have several White Lists here. I have been an established TER contributor for 4 years.
If that is not enough, I will move on.
No job information, or Mother's maiden name, etc.
Just my 2cents.
I wish more were members of one of many verification services. It makes the process less obtrusive and less time consuming.
Couldn't agree more! I have NEVER used my real name, work or other private personal information and have had no trouble getting "dates". This topic has been discussed many, many times. Personally, I"ve found that many of the women advertising that they demand screening, do so to fend off some types of hobbyists. It's been my experience that most of them don't, especially when I'm pretty well known on TER.
I live in the Tampa area and spent the better part of last year in DC. With Date-Check, it was like I was a local and well known. None of my dates required any additional screening. If they contacted those that verified me, they were gracious enough not to tell me. Since then I have also joined P411. I agree. Don't see the need for any more.
safety comes first. If you are not happy with a particular lady's requirements for screening, move on. I agree with you in that job info and other private information is not given out.
If you have acounts with various verification services (which is awesome by the way, i wish everyone did that..makes my job way easier), try strictly searching for girls on those sites. Also, as far as date check is concerned, I know providers get extended services if we send references. I am not sure about guys, but maybe you can reference the girl to sign up. It would be a great asset for her as well.. sounds like a win-win!!! Once you see her and she blows ur mind (hopefully) then you can post an awesome review and now she has the white list at the tip of her finger tips.
Well i am just rambling, I have been fortunate and safe (knock on wood.)
Come on guys!!! work with us ladies...we are all trying to have a great time and be safe while doing it. TEAMWORK
XOXO
Remi
P.S. I am being so silly tonight... this is just my 2 cent..
...to provide only the information you are comfortable giving. it is also a woman's right to only share her time and body with those with whom she is comfortable. for me, the information you are willing to provide would not make me comfortable. it is not only not "enough"...revealing nothing about your true identity or real life...but the info you actually share would strike you off my list immediately. the fact that you belong to a hobby verification website, that you have a long history of seeing many providers, etc...would turn me off and let me know that we would not be compatible at all.
but that's just me, every woman has her own standards. it's your job to respect those standards, or move on to someone more complementary to your needs.
To each his own.
However, I never said that I "had a long history of seeing many providers". I suspect that you have seen MANY more clients [if you are truly a Provider]
Belonging to a verification site offers great convenience to all parties.
It appears the information you seek is geared toward determining compatibility for a prospective husband rather than a client.
BTW, are you willing to share the same level of personal information about yourself?
I think that the ladies would like to know if you're a cop. I think they'd like to know exactly who your are in case you're the Boston Strangler. From the client point of view, I don't mind giving the info. There's no SS#, or credit card info, or way to hijack your identity, or money. I would like to know that the screening process weeds out the cops and creeps. As a client, I'd like the service to give me info regarding the provider, ie: is she real, or (It's almost impossible), but if she's been busted, etc. Just think how stings happen, and if the screeners can keep that from happening. Seeing established providers with recent reviews from long standing hobbyists is a great way to feel safe, unless the provider just got busted and LE is using her phone/website.
no, not exactly the same. i do not share my last name, to protect my Husband's privacy and that of my family, or any intimate details about my Husband. beyond that, a person may get to learn everything from my true first name to what college i attended, from the details of my first kiss to my everyday challenges being a caretaker to my in-laws. i encourage personal questions to be asked, long before a meeting ever takes place. after all if we do not get to know one another, how can we know that we are suitable for one another? i do seek compatibility, not for a mate (have one of those and he is pretty awesome) but for a potential friend and intimate partner. i seek to fulfill needs in men beyond the physical...that is the best thing i get out of all this.
oh and btw...thus far this year (which is fast coming to a close), i have seen 4 new clients. how many new "notches" have you added to your bedpost this year? ...and that's not a judgment or criticism, just making the point that i am probably way weirder than you already think, lol.
whatever is requested to put the lady at ease and have a wonderful experience.
LE if the hobbyst attack me? the Date-Check or P411 ID? . The full name is required, I can pass on the work info if he has references but the name is a must. Good past behavior is not always an indication of present good behavior..
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If that is not enough, I will move on.
No job information, or Mother's maiden name, etc.
Just my 2cents.
Especially with your 2nd post back at Lili. What difference should it make to you how many guys she sees (or since you posted as an alias she can't see if you have 1 review a year or 20). There are more women out there who are lowere volume that you'd expect.
Again, not complaining about what you posted, and if it was in a thread already talking about screening I wouldn't have thought twice. But starting a thread? Just seems there's more to the story and I'm curious. It seems like you got turned down and it's touched a nerve.
Not trying to tell anyone what to do.
I didn't mean to offend you by starting a thread regarding a point of view. LOL
I didn't mean to offend you by starting a thread regarding a point of view. LOL
Didn't say I was offended (I'm not)
Just wondered why you'd make the comment out of the blue. The topic comes up a lot, usually when a guy has been asked to provide more info than he's comfortable giving. You OP sounded like that but you didn't say so, so I was curious if that was the case.