I guess this is a question to the ladies. But if anyone else knows the answer please feel free to let me know.

But when a provider acts differently towards others I'm sure it is due mainly to if they click or not. But, how much matters on how the guy looks?

shortround

I am not the skinniest person in the world (probably 60 extra pounds), but in my experience, it is how you act and that you are respectful (in actions and cleanliness) that is much more important that what you look like.

I have been very fortunate in how I have been treated by the Ladies.  I have often found that I get treated at the upper end of YMMV.

I know what I look like, and that certainly isn't the reason why.

Paying more isn't it.

Courtesy, respect, cleanliness, sincere interest in them are what seem to matter.

And being able to give a good massage doesn't hurt your chances at all  

By that I mean, I try to relate to them through conversation and humor- no different than being at a cocktail party or other social event.   Show that you are interested in them as a person, and your looks will quickly cease to be an issue.

Also, I try to act like I'm on a real date, not a paid one.  I want the ladies to enjoy their time with me, let them get to know me, and me them.  Having an enjoyable time with an escort is no different than anybody else.   Don't just sit like a lump and wait to be entertained, rather, take some responsibility for the quality of your time together by making it interesting for her too.  

Men, especially on TER, tend to "size-up" a woman based on her physical appearance.  But women take the measure of a man too, only differently.  Women typically "size-up" a man through conversation.  Women want to get to know you, but they don't do it by staring at your tits, they do it by talking to you.  But don't just talk about yourself, or brag, share some of your thoughts on things, display a little humor, ask her about herself or her opinions.  

If you can't show them something by relating to them in this manner, they won't take much of an interest in you, regardless of how good looking you might be.  Conversely, I've yet to meet a lady that didn't respond favorably to my sincere interest in her and look forward to my next visit, even though I'm far from good looking.

 

If she is a true escort (meaning she is there for you and not just for her monetary gain) your looks play little role in the session.  Most of us are looking to be treated with kindness and respect during our time together.  Proper hygiene is a huge plus as well

Whether a provider and a man 'click' or not has nothing to do with looks, in my experience.  It's all to do with personality.  If you are friendly and  repectful you'll have a much better experience no matter how you look than if you look like Brad Pitt and you're neither of those.

Carrie-

I understand what you are saying but, if you have 2 men, both of equal personality and both treat you with respect, would you then maybe do more for the better looking one?

you mean to tell me that while I look exactly like Brad Pitt, that is not necessarily going to do anything for me?  DAMN!

Of course the way you look has something to do with it.  If anyone tells you otherwise, they are lying.  You are likely to click better if you have the looks and the personality.  Oh, and a fat wallet helps too.

It has nothing to do w/ looks more like your hygiene. Actually I prefer guys who aren't model material. I feel more comfortable w/ normal looking men. In my experience goodlooking guys always and I mean always try to get more b/c their "hot" and they think they deserve more.

I'm sure most ladies have regulars, when is one considered a regular? After 2 appointments? 3? 4?

There once was a boy who was a little skinnier and shorter than the rest of his dude pals. His teeth a little bucky and his weenus a little stubby...
His friend was a tall dark italian stallion with boasting rights to over hundreds of women and the professed experience of being the master of his tool. His male pals ooogled over his conquests.
While Bucky thought.. man he lives the life.. he often silently pondered.. gawd this kid is such an *arse* he treats a woman with no tenderness views her as a machine and has no one he really is close to.
Bucky shy but seriously needing some attention as it had been a GREAT while, followed a link on a website the stallion had been yammering on and on about for several weeks.
Many many many ladies so close to him so ready to just for a short time give him undivided attention and bliss.. where to start yum yum yum ...
Then she struck him. Girl next door. Out going and tender in her web presence but quite the sassy little monster. The phone call was made topics discussed laughter some flirting and plenty of sensual suggestions. They would meet that night. The rest of his day was full of amazing anticipation.
Five minutes before her arrival he panicked. What am I doing where in the hell did I think this was ok... etc etc
A knock at the door scared him so bad he dropped his keys he had picked up to leave. The smell of her reached him before he could really open his eyes. Arms around him soft lips tongue and that body touching his. Whispers and giggles, he could taste her in his mouth.
What happened for the next hour and 45 minutes ( she was too busy to pay attention to the clock) erupted his soul.
She teased tickled tasted touched and pleasured every inch of him. He touched her in the most gentle of tender ways he felt every part of her body shudder in hunger.
When it happened between them, her on his lap , their legs circled staring into each other eyes... it wasnt the 300 on the table or his looks, her looks or lies.
It was passion heat and an intense quiet knowledge it was just them .. and it was them as they both did it together.

He moved her a way that stallion could not, or ever would get the chance to. His crass inability to register the sacred space of sensuality was not a gift he was given. Our little friend however found a new place inside him that was opened and bloomed. Two years later after an extensive courtship he married a goregous sweet amazing woman. He sent a thank you card to the person who planted a seed that turned into a beautiful flower.

Believe it or not, I am more comfortable with my average looking men, than men who are GQ model type of material. For some reason, I cannot get into the session that well, when they are too good looking. For the longest time, I thought that there was something wrong with me, and that I was the only one that felt that way. I did have a client some months ago, who was an older gentleman, and when I mean handsome, I mean literally! I got turned off completely (( I know alot of it has to do with my self-esteem, for through the whole entire session, I felt that he should have been with a model 10 type of female and why pick me???? I just felt so out of place with him (although he was very much a gentleman), and even at one point, I asked him what he was doing with me, when he could have a hard body type of female, and he told me that he more attracted to other types of females that were not hard bodies. Which simply amazed me. I am more comfortable with men who are like me: just average.

I believe the true answer is that it varies from lady to lady.  In this business I think that most ladies are more concerned with your cleanliness, politenss and financial health than your physical appearance.  However over the years I have seen too many advertisements requesting that the man be young and fit to believe that all ladies feel that way.  In addition I have read threads on these discussion boards where ladies complained that the guy was overweight.

I am VERY clean, VERY respectful and ALWAYS give the lady a VERY NICE gift. do I get the upper end of YMMV? HELL NO! of course it has to do with looks and money!

From those of us who could be a contestant (and not the model types either).