I had the same problem. First losing weight does help but it took me most of the year to lose over 60 lbs. My doctor did give me the prescription for ed drugs and getting a higher dose and cutting the pills helps keep the cost down but before that just go out and get a cock ring it can help. You just need to keep the blood in during the little distractions that occur in almost any session. The cock ring or ed drugs do just that help keep the blood in.
I have type 2 diabetes and I've let my weight creep up a little and it's causing me to have ED. I get hard as a rock but if the stimulation stops to even put on a condom, I loose just enough to make intercourse difficult. Of course it's very embarrasing to me but I can still get off with a BJ or whatever. And I'm fine with that until I get my weight back down and my sugar back where it should be.
I guess my question is how often do you experience this with clients and how do you handle it? I went for a body rub and reached orgasm with half a hard on and within 5 minutes of her telling me to turn over on my back. She seemed a bit surpried since I wasn't completely hard and it was a little embarrasing.
Thanks.
I guess my question is how often do you experience this with clients and how do you handle it? I went for a body rub and reached orgasm with half a hard on and within 5 minutes of her telling me to turn over on my back. She seemed a bit surpried since I wasn't completely hard and it was a little embarrasing.
Thanks.
I have never had a provider have an issue with it. It happens. It is nothing to be embarrassed about, and providers who do this for any amount of time has seem ED before and understand.
Now there is things you can do about it. ED meds work but are costly and I can't take them. They may be right for you. There are lots of herbal remedies some work, some don't and some I can't take do to they mess with my meds. You can give them a try.
I have had great luck with great luck with 4oz cranberry juice, 4oz pomegranate juice, 1/2 tsp cumin, and a little ginseng, each day and it does the trick for me. It works especially well with a good diet and exercise. Plus it is good for you and can be worked into a blood sugar control diet real easy.
I have compassion for my clients and their health issues, but honestly, ED can be frustrating. A guy will get us all hot and riled up with foreplay, then he goes soft or can't maintain the erection long enough to bring us to orgasm. Ive left so many dates with the female equivalent of blue balls. I know its not about me so I never let a guy know that Im dissapointed, but yes, it can be frustrating for both parties.
Sweetheart, if you date was really interested in sex (and I know you don't know about this in advance) he should make sure you are as satisfied as he is. I also have ED occasionally, don't know why yet, but it happens. If it does happen I make sure whoever I am with gets off at least once. There are other ways to get a woman to full orgasm other than intercourse.
They can be ordered either by you or provider discreetly via amazon these days.
I was introduced to female condoms by a top NYC provider. It's damn near as good as nothing at all. The only thing I didn't like was the edges of it are visible outside the vagina. She looked great anyway.
but benefits offset visual
Lina
...because they cost quite a bit more than regular ones. I believe that's shortsighted because they'd have more business if they used the female condom. Given the choice between two providers, I'd choose the one who I know uses the female condom.
I would suggest bringing some female condoms with you to the session that way if she is okay with using them you are ready to go. Or if you ask me to pick some up I would gladly do it.
One of the reasons I ask for age, ht and wt is so I have an idea what issues I might run into. I have found that most men that have a little extra weight need more hands on...they usually do have ED problems. Not all, of course. I feel like I can really help out the larger guys. I am very flexible in demeanor and with my body so I can spin all over them. They usually have other physical issues....bad knees; etc and being on top can help a bit. I also feel that touching them all over their bodies and giving them pleasure is something they don't always get in real life. I look at the body as a tapestry and I am the artist. I want them to remember my strokes. I believe that if you can find a provider that you can communicate with and share your issues, you will find yourself in good hands. It is our goal to help you and provide experiences that will make you come..pun intended.... back for more.
It has happened to me and I don't know why except that I have an enlarged prostate. That may be what causes it. Otherwise, I'm in pretty good shape. I could stand to lose about 10 pounds, but I play sports regularly and run when I'm not playing.
I know one thing. The next time, I'm going to look up Sexy Carolina to see if she's available.. She seems like an amazing provider.
So I guess a look up might turn into a hook up!! 
Two ideas from someone with weight and BP issues and on top of that, I also have a habit of chronic masturbation leading up to an appointment...I know the dead penis all too well!!
1. Have you tried/are you able to try the daily Cialis? They are an absolute miracle pill in that you don't feel any blood pressure rush or stuffy nose or any cardio impact what so ever with the small daily dose yet you can get hard and stay hard at any time. it is truly on an demand hard on like the good old high school days. Unfortunately for me, it gave me wicked lower back pains (a side effect some users experience) and my doctor said if you get the back pains, you have to stop.
2. Perhaps a more immediate fix might be to try Magnum condoms (assuming you use regular sized ones now). While they are designed for much larger penises than mine, I find them to be (a) very easy and quick to put on (b) very comfortable. They still fit tight with no perceivable higher risk of slipping off but on the plus side, there is a definite lower risk of breakage. Keep an opened Magnum condom nearby and you'll have it on and you inside in no time.
I do think the female condom suggestion was a good one too and I'll be heading to Walgreen's to check them out tonight!
Good luck.
Lose some fucking weight and get some exercise. Would you rather fix the problem with blue pills, or would it be better to take a shot at fixing it the right way? You know, the way that also gives you a better quality of life, more days of living so that you can fuck more, and more time around the people that give a shit about you. You state that you know the problem. Go fix it!
If you have type 2 diabetes and are overweight, you have bigger problems than softer wood.
My dumb a$$ uncle had type 2 diabetes.
Did he listen to his doctors? - "Hell No"
He used to say "Them doctors don't know anything" as he scarfed down a few candy bars and continued to eat bacon and eggs every morning. They cut off his foot, then his leg, then his other leg. He died in a nursing home in his 70s.
I personally wouldn't partake in the hobby until I you your bigger problem fixed (i.e. without the blue pill).
Talk to your doctor about a diet AND exercise program that would be right for you.
Your body is trying to tell you something is wrong. Listen to it.
It is easy to be high handed about other's problems. Often, being overweight and having DM is not the only problem. Many guys do get performance anxiety and that cannot be solved by losing wt. Also some guys watch too much porn and are not able to be stimulated by the person in front of them. So a lot of issues to be considered. I am sure most providers do experience ED on a regular basis in their clients, so all of them usually have a way of solving the problems.
I have experienced it just as you described it. And there is nothing I could.
Porn watching and self stimulation are self-inflicted while Diabetes is genetic. Most of the Gentlemen I have seen that are overweight do try to change their unhealthy lifestyles. Remember he could be overweight and a sweetheart or a fit and arrogant asshole. I'll take the sweetheart any ole day.
I use a tiny bit of Vitamin V. (Least amount that will work. My MD instructed me to cut the pills.) I find losing focus will result in some loss of firmness. I try to structure the environment to be distraction free. I try to have supplies close at hand. A co-operative partner can do a lot to help. Any loss shuld be quickly recovered by play. I find that all condoms are not created equal... I like thinner premium products. Fit should be tight enough to stay on but loose enough to allow some movement inside. (My logic is movement creates friction, friction makes things happen.) Enough but not too much lube inside is a huge help. Caution! Modern super lubes can reduce friction to near zero, a frustrating occurance. A lady who puts the condom on with her mouth is near prefect, BTW. I find that rotating Fav ladies... but repeating with Favs that click with me... can be very certain of success.
If the issues are all medical a good dose of a pill (pick one) will solve that for ya...however keep in mind...that sort of hard on has two issues...
1. Your cock feels like a steel rod....it doesn't conform to any sort of give of our bodies so we can tell if you took a pill.
2. For SOME guys you cannot and will not pop with the pill. You may be hard as a brick but if ya cant pop....it can be a problem for the lady who is working herself into a frenzy trying to get you to your goal. FOR ME it helps if I know ahead of time....bc no matter how much I hear: "its not you, I enjoy the experience, and your company" when he has not popped....I can take that personally.
OTOH...some ed is purely mental....that can either be resolved with a female condom, a vibrating cock ring, a wild doubles which takes his mind off the fact that the ladies are sweating, or a combination of all of the above. I have also learned to slowwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww down my sessions for the purposes of coaching my guest to let him know I really enjoy giving him pleasure....relax and accept the pleasure....I am not looking at a clock...so hey let's not look together and no my jaws are not sore.....I love that type of session....I think it helps me when I know AHEAD of time.
WHEN ALL ELSE fails.........I simply pick up the phone and call SNJ Betty or any of the well know head surgeon ladies...and send my clients to see them........THEY ARE P4P'S OWN WALKING LIVING VIAGRA.....their wealth of experience is SUPER obvious.
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I had the same problem. First losing weight does help but it took me most of the year to lose over 60 lbs. My doctor did give me the prescription for ed drugs and getting a higher dose and cutting the pills helps keep the cost down but before that just go out and get a cock ring it can help. You just need to keep the blood in during the little distractions that occur in almost any session. The cock ring or ed drugs do just that help keep the blood in.
Unfortunately, that problem seems to affect more of us than care to admit. I recently has a session with a 10/9 and made the mistake of taking one of those little yellow pills that morning. That little pill geve me tremors (and quite embarrasingly she noticed) during the session, clogged sinuses and the most awful headache I have ever had. The headache lasted almost two days. I had to take a Vicodin to calm it down.
The problem is way more complex than your weight and sugar. Throw in cholesterol levels, stress, prostate health and poor circulation, fat in the blood and even performance anxiety. Despite bieng constantly worried that I was going to lose my erection, I recently had an abdominal injury that made intecourse even more uncomfortable. Yes, maintaining a rod for as long as I did in my 20s may be out of the question now for me (and I just turned 40). However, I am not giving up and as long as there are hotties out there and my wallet holds up then I will be hobbying.
I recently started a routine that has helped but it is a work in progress. It is no miracle cure because I still go soft during intercourse no matter how aroused I am but it has helped and have seen progress. PM me for details on what I take and do.
I know that for sure... and it is another mental distraction... I do find V (tried samples of them all) is helpful in restoring confidence. If the application of the cover is a distraction, it will be less of one with ladies who incorperate the application into their play. I find MILFs with slightly more age & experience much better at handling this... the youngest tends to assume you'll get hard at the mere sight of them like pushing a button. (Yeah, I was like that at 18, too!)
This is not insurmountable.
A provider who takes control and does not leave you hanging but delivers an endless sensual erotic and playful session will give you a happy ending!
I also do believe cock rings are a great accessory. Finding the right provider and continue to work with your situation will most likely lead to future success.
As long as you are relaxed and enjoying your time.. I can find my own pleasure.
Look at it this way.. Does it Rock your world, to make a lady feel happy and satisfied?
I assume the answer is yes.. It rocks my world to be able to please you....
Too many gentlemen spend to much energy in trying to please the lady and if they would just go with the mommnet. I promise you. there is mutual pleasure...
I also have had type 2 diabetes and ED issues over the years. I am now 61 and have been taking either viagra, cialis, or levitra for a while. They always worked until a few years ago. All of a sudden, I am with a provider and while everything feels great that she is doing to me and that I am doing to her, my dick is just NOT getting HARD ENOUGH for insertion. Very embarrassing. I was able to cum bbbj and hj, but was unable to have intercourse.
I asked my doctor to run blood work to test me for low testosteerone. He did and the results were that my testosterone level just barely registered on the scale. I asked for a remedy such as a patch or testosterone cream to rub into my body to raise my level.My doctor then proceeded to give me a hard time because the solution to my low T-level was not good for my possible prostate issues. Not what I wanted to hear
Well, I kept pushing him and offered to sign a waiver holding him harmless for any ramifications if he gave me the cream. I told him that my ED issues were very much affecting my mental well being and he relented.The cream came in a pump bottle and instructions to rub in shoulder/ upper arm area whatever pump dosage he prescribes. Did that for 20-30 days and my problems went away. I still use the pills, but have no problems with maintaining firmness.
he starts pretending we're successfully having sex and he is limp. I think thats the best time to relax and let me do my best to get things back where they were before the sudden limpness. Sitting there insecure and thinking about it is what turns me off. Oh I hate when a man with ED starts saying sorry sorry I don't know whats going on. I've seen plenty with ED and the only ones that achieve success are the ones that accept it.
One of my clients even needed to stick himself with a needle to take some med produced by the Boston Medical Group. He said that the blue bill stopped working so thats his last resort however he highly recommends it. Did I get turned off? NOPE! I was professional and still as into him as before.
There was another client with ED and he was very limp. He tried so hard to convince himself that things were ok that he left my bed soaking wet from overcompensating for the limpness by thrashing harder. He wsn't even inside me. I will never ever see him again.