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Why won't she call me back??
Fellow hobbyists and providers, I need your thoughts. I recently had the most satisfying and fulfilling provider experience ever...amazing connection, best orgasm, everything! Truly an amazing girl! She seemed to really enjoy our time too. She thanked me very sincerely for dinner and our conversation, made sure I had all her contact info, and even offered me a 50% discount! At that point, I was prepared to double her rate! The next week I contacted her and set a time to see her. We confirmed through e-mail and she continued to seem genuinely interested in our meeting but she didn't show. I called a few times but nothing. She eventually replied through e-mail days later that she wasn't feeling well at the time. I was understanding but I was hurt that she failed to notify me sooner though I didn't express that to her. Anyway, she's unreachable now and I just don't get it. So here's my question: has anything like this happened to you (hobbyist) or have you done this before (provider) and if so, what were the reasons? If you're a hobbyist, feel free to speculate. I know I should just drop it and move on. That's what I would advise others if I read this but I'm having a hard time since she was so special to me. Thanks in advance for your feedback and if you think you're the girl in question, you should be able to figure out who I am so could you just let me know?
but maybe this is why. Please read my post.
maybe she is afraid of falling for you, maybe the wants to leave the business ... Maybe she saw that you were falling for her and she did not want that. Many possibilities. If you continue your attempts at contacting her that will make things worse. I'd wait for a few weeks before trying again, real low key.
I am the last one to be giving advice considering the jam I have gotten myself into, but leave well enough alone and force yourself to find someone else. There is an outside chance she really liked you and is trying to kill those feelings. Let her.
I missed my cue on this and looking back i pursued too persuasively and got myself in the difficult situation already described. There are some women/providers who blur the lines between a nice customer relationship and a head over heels in love thing. Don't let the prospect of getting some very expensive fun for free persuade you to play her along....I am fighting that temptation right now...mind is strong...body weak..
Good luck..
Magiost is right. Leave her alone for awhile and try again. If that fails though, I'd just give up. There are a lot of possible reasons for why she's doing this, and you'll probably never understand why. Even if she told you the reason, it might seem somewhere out of left field. Good luck!
So why should providers be any different? Nobody teaches kids manners anymore. I worked for a city government in a job that required extensive contact with the public. People were always thanking me for calling them back, as if they didn't expect me to. If they left me a message (and weren't salesmen), why WOULDN'T I call them back?
It's just one of those mysteries that guys aren't meant to figure out. I carried on an almost exclusive fling with a girl for over a year. I met her in the provider/client scenario and it turned out to be the some of the best times I've ever had with a professional or civilian. Even after she decided to quit the business she still continued to see me whenever I wanted. Eventually it wasn't even about the $. There was a token exchange and I always paid for the room but we both enjoyed our time together and the gift I gave her helped make ends meet. Then late last year, she just stopped returning my calls. We didn't have any disagreements or arguement. It just stopped. No explanation, no goodbye, nothing. No sense in pulling your hair out trying to figure it out, it's just one of those things.
same thing happened to me, crank yanker
follow your own advice: "I should just drop it and move on".
this was the only solution that allowed me to keep what little sanity I still have left. accept the fact you will never know.
I agree with you though, at the time this happens, it can hurt your ego and emotions. I too questioned all kinds of things, such as what I did wrong, how we really felt about each other, how I needed to change, and it almost ended my involvement in this hobby. fortunately, I also learned from this experience that it keeps reality in check. after it happened to me once, I finally realised how real the feelings can be for both sides. this reality check was eventually positive for me, as I can now enjoy each lady's company, conversation, affection, and have fun while maintaining perspective.
what you need right now is a little TLC, find your next lady and make an appointment ASAP.
best regards and good luck, mr.man
"give me ambiguity or give me something else"
Before moving to LA I used to go to a Korean Massage parlor. One girl really liked me and we hit it off great. So good that we always kissed, I got BBBJ and from the second time she saw me, she invited me to do her bareback. I know it was nuts, but we did it anyway (Thank god no HIV or herpes) and it was great. After I moved we kept in touch and she eventually moved to Houston and we still kept in touch by phone. One day when I called her, she told me that she didn't know me and that I must have the wrong number. I tried again later and got the same reply. I felt like someone shot me in the chest. I miss that woman very much but I had to suck it up and get over it. It hurt bad man, so I know where you're coming from. You just have to move on. Sorry.
Its flattering to think that she's avoiding me because she has feelings for me. I certainly could fall for her. I guess I have a hard time believing that because I don't feel like I deserve someone as good as her and I don't think of myself as being an altogether undeserving person. I've been with beautiful women before but never with any woman that was so giving. I plan to take the advice and contact her in a couple of weeks and see if she will change her mind and see me again.
Cheers!
If that happened to me I'd probably go nut and find myself on a fricken plane to see her. If she really is falling for you, maybe you need to find out. Bad advice, I know - but I'm no Joyce Brothers.
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