Depends, if a guy is coming for a good time and he has a healthy attitude to it, you are just his paid shag bag he doesn't have to take home to his mother then great. If you feel a guy is coming to see you and bringing the feelings best to not see him and take his money.
Something that London Rayne lady said.
My question is why
I work as a hooker because I want to pay my bills. But I am also categorically opposed to the idea of monogamy for myself, even if I wasn't involved in this business. Waking up next to the same person day after day and listening to them mouth breath... for all eternity? That sounds like a special kind of hell and I want no part of that shit.
The same thing goes for my relationship with clients. The more I see someone, the more their irritating qualities are magnified. Money is the great equalizer, but only to a point. My favorite type of clients are those that maintain healthy boundaries and are on a reasonable rotation. Once or twice a year up to once per month, I am fine with. I remember who they are, what they like, and will gladly give them references to see other girls. But a weekly session like clock-work? Heck NO. Unless they are a saint incarnate, the two of us would be bickering like an old married couple after only two or three months!
If you were to fall in love, would that change the monogamy thing
It definitely isn't for me. I don't know how married people can even have a sex life after years together. I hear men complaining about their wives not wanting to have sex. I would be relieved. If I'm ever married I wouldn't mind a platonic relationship as long as I could hobby. But I'm not typical. Lots of people like monogamy, or something close to it. Men who repeat with the same provider are evidence of that. They could be with hundreds of different women for the same price but instead they choose to see the same one over and over again. I don't understand it. Providers are like movies to me. If she is really good I'll see her again. But it won't be a regular thing. But to each his own.
I am surprised, however, that a provider wouldn't prefer a regular client to a new one in most cases.
I love seeing "some" clients for years, but others I am glad live out of state and I only had to deal with them once. Just the facts.
Nothing at all wrong with that.
I've had many people in my life I was GLAD I only had to deal with once......your right, just the facts.
He does seem rather smitten with you though, I can only imagine how annoying he could become if you lived in the same state
Dare I say he will become a stalker?
Want to set the line?
Have you noticed his pathetically lame attempts at being a stronger poster in the past few days...it's simply pathetic. He is what he is...and may well become that leech that simply can't be removed.
Oh well...sure glad it's not my problem 
as if he wouldn't know
Dungie pretending he's an internet tough guy...stomping his tiny legs in protest LOL
I'll wait till I see the official line on this...but I'll probably go with the under on his having a full out temper tantrum.
Maybe TER will make this a poll?
Let me sleep on it and I will set a line in the morning, but let me say this, the chances of our little Dungbeetle NOT acting like a skinny, spineless little rooster are going to be rather long
Thanks London I added a new word to my vocabulary.
I agree. Some ladies I like to see frequently but variety is the spice of life
Interesting and "Note to Self"
Hopefully you are speaking "truth to power" for every provider?
I don't know about other providers, but I enjoy seeing my regular clients! I love meeting new clients but I have a relationship with them. It's more comfortable during our sessions and I don't have to worry much about safety. I love knowing that guys enjoy being with me enough to keep calling back!
Recently one told me it had to do with avoiding getting overly attached. Brain chemistry can be a bitch, no? What with the dopamine, oxytocin, testosterone, serotonin all firing off in each others heads, that could put a crimp in somebody's lifestyle...
No. But I do remember seeing the video for it during the early years of mtv and thinking it was funny/corny. I think it was the after the fire version, just now watched a few seconds of each.
It is probably totally natural for a man to want to possess a female who is desirable and available to him. Which is why a hobbyist needs to know his own proclivities. Some guys can have a pseudo-boyfriend/girlfriend relationship with a provider, and still keep things in perspective; whereas many others can not (as evidenced by the way some guys talk about their ATF's). Personally, if I repeated too often with the same girl it would be very easy for my judgement to get clouded. Maybe not in a romantic sense, but in an MYOB sense. So I don't do OTC stuff with providers (a few have suggested it) even though some may be cool to get to know and I stay diversified. It's better to learn to this stuff about yourself before entering the hobby.
Some guys, over time like to think they can have or are entitled to a lot of extras because of this and this can go from being mildly annoying to downright taking advantage of.
I have a few I see every WEEK and they both started the "expecting more" until I had a friendly chat. Now things are great. I can give OTC time when I can and they grateful accept what extras I can give them instead of expecting it
I've never had a Provider drop me cause I was her Regular Client. It's Great being a Regular Client. We know each other and know what the other expects to do. From the other side, I like seeing a favorite Provider over and over again. Not that I'm against meeting a new Provider, it's that once I hit the comfort zone with a Provider, I just see her. I stay loyal to an Awesome Provider.
...there is something to be said for sharing the moments that make up a life -- the key is finding the right person to share them with. Marriage can be sort of like home base, but I think life is meant to be shared with others outside a monogamous life. Otherwise people become too complacent and too possessive.
There is nothing wrong with sharing different moments with different people, the key is finding the right moments and the right people - then life is good.
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that's the exact same reason I never repeat with some providers.... -lmfao-
We can be just as painfully annoying and take the guys for granted. So the door swings both ways.
the lady found herself wondering if she was in balance. For after she had journeyed to Audubon Park, she sat under an orange tree, and when she looked up, she took to herself an orange and tasted it. And it was good. She saw the veins in the leaf, and understood that when she was angry…
Least that is what Justin, Graeme, and John keep telling me.
Chill, we all want to get into your shorts, so you will never not have a London Newbie at your door, that is, unless you don't want us there.
My question is why?
I would rather see regulars most of the time. It is safer, and I feel comfortable with someone I have already built a rapport with. Most of my regulars feel likewise. On the other hand, I have no need for repeats with someone I already found annoying or badly behaved the first time.
O yes I love to see my favorites as many times as possible Hot Hot as much as I can lolllll
Then there the ok guys I love them to it just some are so extra nice .
How much less dangerous can this be emotionally
You are the designated driver.
Don't ask why?
Just go.
The more I saw a provider, the better we fucked like rabbits. No inhibitions after the third visits
the ladies (some of them who are in this as a business) get just as big a "kick" out of the clandestine, white knuckle ride that this "Hobby/Business" is. they Want the thrill of opening the door, and seeing what is on the other side, it is an adrenalin rush. When they KNOW who is on the other side, the only unknown is "are his underpants clean this time" or "will he have "olive garden" breath. Those are quite tame compared to "is this dude a serial killer" or "brad Pitt on break from Angelina and all the kids."
In sum, some of the ladies "Hobby" too.
Depends, if a guy is coming for a good time and he has a healthy attitude to it, you are just his paid shag bag he doesn't have to take home to his mother then great. If you feel a guy is coming to see you and bringing the feelings best to not see him and take his money.