Recently, I experienced my worst session ever. And it's nothing that the provider blatantly did, but I was a bit shocked when I discovered what an ugly person she was on the inside. A little background info... she is well known in the adult entertainment industry, so her donation rate is quite hefty. Anyway, I've seen her a few times. She was very sweet in person, and we seemed to get along well. She has a twitter and I even bought her something off her amazon wish list for her birthday. She contacted me when she was back in town, both through text and twitter. She even gave me her personal number. Now I realize I'm just a sucker to her. I also helped vouch for her on review boards, being that she has no reviews. That really helped her on the business side, which she thanked me for. I went above and beyond on being nice to her.

You don't want to see how sausage or laws are made, add provider's personal lives to the list.

I guess it's a good thing I didn't tell her off then, which I was very tempted to do at some point

Sure what I would have done in your situation but you are under no obligation to see her again. As always you generally do not know the provider's background and would be surprised if you knew her history. Always best to keep relations with providers at arms length.

Sometimes it is better NOT knowing what a hooker really thinks. Clearly it is not all good. Just be happy that the act is good enough that you never know(not always an act though)...not in your case though.

....considering that I couldn't get my money back, nor was it worth it to call her out and make a scene - that would have been more satisfying, but it would not have helped the immediate situation.

Fuck that! I can't believed to stayed and fucked her! The only upside is you can review her BUT checking her phone was very fucked up on your part and there is NO way you can justify that.  

Now, you have a golden opportunity to buy her an appropriate racist gift.  

Who do you think was on the other end her publicist, BF, or another VIP client?

Most likely one of the above. They talked about other crap and seemed to know each other well

I would have texted as her just for fun ...

Just because the woman did a dumb thing and left her phone where it could be accessed by a client doesn't mean he should have taken advantage of the situation.  

I didn't exactly pick her phone up and scroll through it. I was surprised she had her phone out and quickly glanced at it. It was a narural reaction. When there are racial terms being thrown around in CAPS LOCK, it's hard to miss. Was I supposed to shield my eyes?

Has it occurred to you that she left it out accidentally on purpose?  

... "Hey, you left your phone!"

I would have never known about what was on her phone, because I would have never looked at "her" phone, none of my damn business what is on "her" phone. Boundaries!

It just might change your life!

I highly doubt it. She's not the sharpest knife in the drawer lol

My Mother taught me to keep my nose in my own damn business, period

I wouldn't try to take it too personal either, as far as the racial slurs go, some people just talk that way, instead of using PC terms.

How was her performance? If she provided an excellent performance, and you felt it was bad due to your emotional state that's your fault.

for me not to do the same thing. I have had many chances to snoop on my ATF's phone when she has left it but I have resisted.  I have caught glimpses of some text messages she is writing while sitting next to me in the car when we are on an adventure or something but it certainly wasn't anything like this. I guess there is something about not wanting to spoil the fantasy... if that's all it really is.

I already acknowledged I couldn't enjoy it but that it was my own doing

That does make sense. I think a lot of people end up letting people know things this way.

Yes, it was. I sat down on the edge of the bed, not seeing her phone immediately, then caught a glimpse of it when I was surprised to see it laying out. The words she used in caps lock stuck out like a sore thumb.

Caught a provider mocking me once (while I'm mixing her fucking drink) as I was just talking about my day at work. Turned around and caught her doing it. I was more than a regular, dinner dates, trips to Vegas, so I asked her as we were leaving to go to dinner "we're you making fun of me"... she says "yes, no, maybe". I let it go, but I did fuck her extra hard later that night.

If she provided a good session, that speaks volumes to her ability to perform her job since you now know how much she truly dislikes you.

What specific terms were used?

but they are absolutely right about you. You got just what you deserved. You should have respected her privacy, then you would still be in fantasyland thinking that she actually liked you.

Hey you "looked". Don't try to down-play or justify it. Because you can't.  Just own it and move on.

And I see this big 'ol picture of her all innocent-looking and snuggly with some guy who I assumed was her boyfriend.

I would let all know who she is and let the market work but thats just me.

However you found out what this lady thinks about you, consider the money you spent on her a part of the tuition towards your hobbyist degree.

So what’s left: Fantasy. (Sometimes you just got to put a little extra into it.)

between the OP, the provider in question, and this response, we may finally have empirical proof of this

Re: Ha! Sometimes I'M not the sharpest bulb in the shed!

After all, it ain't rocket surgery!

to find out the ugly side of her nature; although, not so lucky about not recovering your donation to get out, but since you’ve gone that far, many in your situation may want to get something out of it without taking a total loss by getting nothing. (I probably would have gone through with the session, too.) However, since it was you going through with it, it did affect your emotions and you did not enjoy it.

...or I'd make posts that you consider suck-ups (and that's pretty much all of 'em, right?) under my TER handle instead of my alias, so the providers would know exactly who's sucking up to them.  

I've had that happen  twice. Once she had me use her phone to do a video of a BJ. Another time she was going through photos, showing me her son, her mother, then quickly flipped past one of a guy I assume was her boyfriend (who cares?).

My main point was that I agreed with both you and Russ that the OP was the one in the wrong, regardless of what the lady in question was texting. Once he violated her privacy, I consider anything he found "fruit of the poisoned tree" and anything else he had to say just so much blah blah blah.

Admittedly, it was wrong of you to pry.

Nor my hooker's.  
None of my business, ever!
I learned a long time ago that if she didn't tell me, it is none of my business.