I love BJ's, but I like one style in particular, with teasing, and a buildup from slow and light to full pressure and speed. So far most providers seem to start at the same pressure and speed, and don't change things up. Sometimes it seems like they just want to get it over.

I've tried making suggestions, and some will follow the suggestions for maybe 30 seconds, then they're back to their standard style.

I've now found a provider I'm nuts about, but I'd like a really good (to me) BJ from her.  

Are you offended if a guy asks you to do something a certain way?

Every person is different on what they like in the bedroom.I wouldn't be offended if a guy said slow down or do it a certain way.Just let her know what you like

Making out and making love is like a dance. We take turns leading and following. We pay attention to the direction and reaction of our partner.  I want to know how to please a client. That's the job. I enjoy honing my skills and realize that every person out there likes things just a little differently. A little faster, a little slower, more pressure, less pressure, more toward the tip, more toward the base, with hands, without hands... and every combination in between. Airing my own complaint, if I say " that's perfect, don't stop and don't change" I am letting you know you are a moment away from the main event. Ninety percent of the time, when I say that, they change up technique within seconds. I'm imagining that they think " if you think THAT'S good, wait till you see THIS move!" No! Don't do that! The other possibility is that they had a girlfriend (boyfriend) that liked it some particular way and they are stuck on doing it that way.

...my experience is that escorts give me the bj they want. IF I am lucky it is the bj I want. And just like you, when I pipe up they listen for maybe 30 seconds and then go back to their routine.

God, I wish I could get feedback like that from a provider.

Yep. There's providers I really like a lot, but they don't give good BJ's. I have to go to a provider whom I'm not all that crazy about, but who will do it as I like.  

I've even shown a couple of them videos, but that doesn't change things.

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I usually ask is there anything I can do to make it feel even better or does this feel good etc. I love direction and positive affirmations too. Alot of guys are not vocal about what they want and I would welcome anyone who speaks up.

I always ask if there is anything I can do or not do to thrill you.  Your pleasure is my pleasure!  Especially if it involves a lot of interaction between your c*ck and my mouth....  

A large portion of my enjoyment in a session is knowing my partner is enjoying themselves. The last provider I saw seemed to be genuinely surprised when I asked for feedback. I think I got it right when she almost crushed my skull with her thighs.

If you go into a restaurant and pay for a steak, you get to say how you want it cooked. If they're giving you the steak for free, then they get to decide how you get it. See?  It's never complicated in the P4P world.

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What's for free?

You're a smart Smartie.

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draw you a picture.  I refuse to dumb down my posts for anyone.  Some get it, as shown, and some don't. Not judging, just observing.  

Smartie explained it in pussy terms.  You still don't understand?

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the OP more understandable for me.  

I make suggestions when someone is going down on me as well. When seeing someone new we can generally guess that they enjoy their dick in our mouths, beyond that feel free to tell us what you enjoy, everyone is different with the particulars.

Yep, you got it right.  Most providers just want to get it over with.

Well, that's what I would think, as I was asking about paid providers and not free "civvies". I asked the question of providers just to see what their reaction would be.

I didn't have the patience yesterday to try to divine oblique parables about restaurants and steaks and free kittens when I was talking about paid blow jobs.  

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I welcome instructions as ,unless we met before and we already know what we like ,there is no way I can be sure my way match your taste unless you tell me. I am not a mind reader. It goes both way, I will tell you not to pinch or that I am ticklish ,I want you to tell me how to make your meeting memorable.  
And i disagree with the ones who say that ladies wants ''to get over it ''....
If that is the case you should raise your standards and meet better ladies...

Not at all! I welcome any suggestions. Everyone is different and enjoys different things. Let me know what pleases you this way it makes the experience better.

Though, personally, I love confident communication and a little direction is always fun!

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I really appreciate when a client gives me direction. Not everyone wants the same thing!

As I would not be offended either. Each person is different in their own way and likes certain things. What one client likes another may not like. It is actually helpful if they explain exactly what makes them happy.

with good manners and having respect for the other's person bounderies, you can talk about everything!