First off, I'm NOT talking about double bookings. I made a recent several day and wanted to see multiple ladies. Now, we've all been cancelled on in the past and I've had to cancel myself. Sh#$ happens right? Not very often but it happens occasionally.

I usually only see one lady per month, but I was splurging.

I wanted to see at least 2 and maybe 3 ladies (all on different days). And I also wanted to minimize my risks of missing out. I'd never been to this city before so I did my TER homework and selected 4 providers and prioritized them. They all required advanced booking and screenng. No problem, I notified my local providers that I would like a reference. They said "no problem, and thanks for the heads up".

One month ahead of time, I emailed all four, making the initial contact. Initially, I left open the exact dates desired stating that I wanted to just get the formalities of pre-screening out of the way. I wasn't sure that I would even get four responses, so I readied one or two more choices, just in case. I figured that I'd give them two weeks to respond.

Two ladies responded right away and we actually exchanged a some friendly emails over several days. Neither was my first choice (who has a reputation of being hard to get a hold of). I waited anxoiusly a few more days and finally my first choice responded.

My problem was that in the mean time I felt guilty that I might be "stringing" the first 2 along too much. I never made an actual booking, stating that I wasn't yet sure of my schedule (and I wasn't, really).

I guess I was trying to walk the fine line of maximizing my chances for success without actually double booking.

After hearing from 3 of my choices I booked choice #1 for Friday night, choice #2 for Sunday night, and choice #3 for Tuesday night. Eventually I was in contact with all 4. I left choice #4 hanging, but I never actually booked anything with her, stating that I hoped to call her after I arrived and better knew my schedule.

My question is, did this plan seem OK? Was I straight forward enough? How things actually ended up was interesting but space does not permit in this thread. I will follow-up.

The key phrase in your post was "I never made an actual booking, stating that I wasn't yet sure of my schedule"

I have done this a few times, because it was true.  Trust me, none of the providers would have turned down an actual appointment on the basis of your communications with them.  If they had someone else who wanted an appointment, they would have taken it, and when you finally tried to schedule, they would have told you "sorry, you waited too long."

I'm in agreement with Waterclone, "you did fine".

I have done the exact same thing contacting multiple ladies for a specific time, weekend, business trip, etc. Usually one will reply not available, while another will exchange calls and emails only to find out we are unable to coordinate our schedules, then some give no reply at all. I feel as long as you do not cancel your commitment to an appointment, especially to take the appointment of your first choice instead, then you have not wasted a lady's time, or at least not intentionally.

Setting up additional possibilites ahead of time seemed prudent to me. Actually My Friday appointment was excellent. My Sunday was for all intents a no show (she did leave me a voice mail 30 minutes before the scheduled time). My Friday lady was very nice and actually saw me again on Sunday with only 2 hours notice.

I also learned on Sunday that my Wednesday appointment canceled. I set up something for Monday with my #4 choice, then I had to cancel because I came down with a cold on Monday.

Just like the boys said, you are Quite Alright! It's great when a gent contacts me asking about certain dates. If my calender is clear, I let him know, "So far, that time and day are open". Then I ask him to feel free to contact me when he is ready. If I hear back from him, Beautiful! If not, my Wonderful Life goes on!
Nothing is in ink until an actual session is scheduled.

kisses~Cindy

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Providers' responses are so unpredictable.  It's like you say, some reply, some don't, and some are unavailable.  The shot gun approach is the only way ensure you actually meet someone.