(As I sit here raising both of my hands)...

I am sure we talked about it before....just curious.

Shaye

I don't know, Shaye. The more I think about it, the sex is important, but its not all about the sex. That's kind of a vague answer, but I think you know what I'm trying to say.

..because it seems to be the 'Issue of the Day'.
First, one would have to define an addiction, which, I think we have before, but my interpretation would be that which consumes a person; disrupts the normal course of life. If you are losing your job, your relationship, family, house, sleep, health, etc because of it, it's an addiction. (Just summarizing here quickly, so I'm sure I'm skimming over key points). If someone is familiar at all with any 12-Step Programs 'questionnaire' and that is you, then it's likely you have an addiction.

I have a (civie) friend who's VP of his company. He can't sit through too many meetings in a row (even the Board meetings) without excusing himself to go to the men's room and relieve himself (no, not his bladder). He's late coming back from lunch because he ended up in the strip club and lost track of time there. He wasn't too happy with me for pointing out that I believe he has some problems. He just spent $7000 on a 'real doll' (www.realdoll.com - see my post on the SD board) and is renting a separate storage facility to house this 'doll' as well as other large toys. He's completely preoccupied with sex.

I would not consider myself a sex addict. I hope I am never consumed by something; that it has control over me. I DO have a high sex drive. My FB tells me that most women do not have a high drive - but, to me, I think my drive is normal. I mean, you eat every day, you sleep every day, I want sex every day. Twice a day's even better. I don't consider that 'high' but maybe it is in relation to the 'average woman'. I know all you sister Providers would agree-is it that we Providers just have high drives, and that's what makes us good providers (in part)?
My assumption would be that the addiction is to the orgasm - the 'high'. Would you agree, or disagree, or is it individual?
That certainly is the addictive part for me - the orgasm. I can't be one day without it. My next business trip is in October and I've made the arrangements, but will be sharing a room with another woman. My first thought is how will I get through even ONE day, let alone FIVE days without that personal time? So, because 'most' people don't even have that as a thought, and I'm seriously wondering about it, maybe that DOES make me an addict? I dunno..What do you think? But, then, as I say, we eat three times a day, if I feel the need to achieve an orgasm three times a day, am I an addict?

Good question, Shaye. Now you've got me wondering..

I'm a newbie and I've found it very addictive. I'm getting past the guilt and getting a little out of control...sometimes going to 3-4 girls a week. At this rate I'll be broke in a year! Yeah...when you get excited enough to cum the body releases all these good chemicals naturally...so Yeah..I thinks it's addictive. I fear hitting rock bottom before I can change. This stuff..this hobby..can be like smokin' crack. (Pun intended..sort of..) I'm leading a double life... and still don't want to stop. Any thoughts on how to slow down? I'm starting to think about getting some help. Any suggestions?

Absolutely!  I've always said, working in the sex trade is like methadone for sex addicts.

-Anya

Joe D...you are not alone my friend.
I'm working through a similar frenzy although not to the extent of seeing providers 3-4 times per week like you.I call mine...Middle age crazy...I'm just trying to prove I still can.
(There was a movie and song(Jery Lee Lewis) about that over 20 years ago with Bruce Dern and one of my ATF's, gorgeous actress Ann Margeret.Anyone could "go crazy" over her.)
The fuse for me was a combination of things but was certainly sparked by the erotic review board. I was captivated by the
quality of women ,both in beauty and brains as evidenced by Sedona's post below....the organized TER review process,e-mail and discussions(which eliminated much of the risk)...no emotional strings attached...and then of course..the eventual sexual satisfaction with a provider of my choice, brought on by my strong libido.Down boy! Down! lol
So rather than reinvent the wheel for advise, I'll point again to Sedona's excellent points she made below, that you need to make sure your not overdoing it with the addiction signs she mentions. If it is affecting your finances or someone you love, its time to wake up and smell the coffee.In my case, I've been fortunate to share my exploits with a good buddy of mine who has been quick to point out where I was heading and slow my "horsee" down a bit before I'm thrown off. Easier said than done though as... WHO WANTS TO LEAVE DISNEYLAND when you JUST got there...lol...and Adult Disneyland is what this is like.
I mean ...you...me and countless others are just being men who enjoy women(all types) and there is simply nothing wrong with that.
So, slow down a bit partner...everything in moderation...maybe for starters drop down to one provider a week...then look around and smell the "coffee" and give the ole' horsee a rest. Here's a joke about that horsee from his perspective:
A cucumber, pickle, and a penis were all sitting around one day talking about how much their lives "sucked".

The cucumber said "Man my life sucks. Whenever I get
big, fat and juicy someone cuts me up and puts me in a
salad."

So the pickle looks at him and says, "You think you
have it bad? Whenever I get big, fat and juicy, someone
puts me in vinegar, puts spices on me, and stick me in
a jar."

The penis glared at them both and said "you guys you
think you have it rough? When ever I get big, fat and
juicy, they put a rubber tarp over my head, stick me
in a dark room, and bang my head against the wall until I throw up and pass out."

Cheers!







-- Modified on 9/4/2003 7:17:51 AM

and you to the nunnery...

Can we get together to change each other's minds...lol
....maybe play some two handed pinochle or a game of parchesi
(YAH..right)

Cheers! You...the best!


-- Modified on 9/4/2003 7:36:10 AM

i definately do........

lol.....LOL

The worst possible situation is to get bored with sex after doing every possible thing. Personaly, I have tried to experience every type of fantasy that I could. This was simply to achieve relief from fantasy. I have found that the more that I do and see the less I want to do it.
That's my complex plan.
However, your danger is the money. You can't destroy yourself that way, as money is very difficult to get when you have run out of it. Anyway, think about what you are looking for from women and try to focus on how and when you will get it. Just don't go for anything. That bit is for the clients out there.
In general the only time that an "addiction" is bad is when it is causing harm. That's how you assess whether or not you want to stop. You have to ask yourself if you are happy or not. Another important element is long-term benefit of your behavior. I'm not happy to say this, but the escorts out there are really in a bad position when it comes to the long-term. Unless you have some other skill, you will make a lot of money when you are young but very little as you get older. At some point you will have to quit and get a regular job and your choices may be limited. This idea may sound like a lot of crap, but just imagine that if you made 200,000 by the time you were 35. How long would it last? It would not last very long.
Oh well, I don't want to be depressing and I'm not trying to say that anyone has a problem, but I just hate to see people unhappy. Take care!

Nice to know I'm not alone out there. VonRyan1 - all of you in fact - have certainly helped me put things in perspective. Maybe the hardest part (no pun intended) is thinking your alone in this...some kinda freak...and in the worst way I mean. Funny too...I never thought about how the providers may be caught up in it to. (Seems obvious but hey...when you're a drunk it never occurs to you that the bartender may be one too!)
Seems like we're all part of a natural cycle - I guess I'll just ride the wave and try to live through moderation. Thanks for the advice.