So, I finally am back to making enough cake to sample this world a bit...

Heretofore, I usually stayed with Masseuses who were my own age or older, rarely a few years younger.  I am in my forties.

I'm interested in sampling a younger lady to see if that works for me... but I can't help but think "How would a younger lady possibly have any entertainment from a session with one of her father's contemporaries?"

I fully understand that this is about MY needs not hers, but I do like a nice reciprocative(sp?-is it even a word?) session, and I get a touch worried.  I don't need to be the best client a lady's ever had, just not repulsive.

What mental strategems to the younger ladies employ to deal with a greying clientele?  Any tips on making her or me more relaxed?  

I'll take advice from every quarter- but the thoughts of some young nubile providers would be appreciated greatly...

Note:  This MUST have been covered before- a ref to the thread would be cool too...

spin on the topic.  There are several threads dealing with 1) the unattractive hobbiest and how providers deal with them... 2) the obnoxious hobbiest and how providers deal with them... 3) the satisfaction of the lady - and how the ladies view that... and 4) the age of the hobbiest and how the ladies deal with that....

I don't know that all of these have been covered as a single topic, but it does make some degree of sense to cover all of them at once.  To be honest, I think some providers do pretty good with this, and some, well, do less well.  

Oddly enough, young, middle or older I think it depends very much on the lady and her frame of reference.  but most providers seem to prefer more "Seasoned" hobbiests - or as was put to me "experienced"!  lol  and they all agree - they want to be treated with respect.

A woman is thinking you are like her father as much as you are thinking she is like your daughter.  I am speaking as someone in her very early 30s and not a 19 year old -- I'm not sure how young you are planning on going.  

You won't be repulsive as long as you are clean and have proper etiquette.  Of course, if you have any deformities or the like, you might want to mention that beforehand.  

If you are seeing someone quite a bit younger, you might find the session more relaxing if you know the two of you have something in common despite the age gap.  You might also find a younger lady who is very mature for her age in order to make you feel more comfortable, too.  

I do know how you feel.  I once saw a very nice young gentleman who was ten years younger.  I had never even dated someone younger than me, it was a completely new experience.  I am constantly mistaken for a much younger age so I wasn't concerned about appearances, but finding common ground.  The generation gap between us was huge, talk was slightly awkward and it made me feel old and out of the loop.  Luckily, these young boys don't like to do much talking anyway.

The bottom line is human nature is human nature regardless of age.    

Hope this helps.

Kate

-- Modified on 5/15/2006 1:12:14 PM

and I have a daughter who turns 40 this year.  I am always with women who are younger than my daughter, and it means nothing to me.   I have never had a problem with a provider thinking I am too old for her--at least none has said anything LOL.

If I want a woman my own age, I have my wife of 41 years.

Thanks-  It's that awkwardness that goes with this territory anyway-  I am not too eager to have that potential disconnect completely overpower the session itself...

I'm mid 40s and I usually hobby with 35-55 YO ladies.  I'm debating internally a trip to one of the real younger ladies, maybe 19-25.

A shared appreciation of hip hop is not all that much to hang a carnal session on....

But thanks for tge input- it was great

Nice to hear you have an ironclad ego...  mine is less thickskinned... every little eye-roll or smirk will be magnified to me, as I know I will feel like a lech(at least a bit).

BTW- will a little 420-oriented chat or activity help or hinder the milieu?  It seems that all the college age crowd are smokers...

civie dating - women my age - if single tend to fall into one of two groups - cat ladies (who have more cats than stars in the sky or those who are considerably "broken" in some way (I will post on that in a couple of days).  for the most part, younger women who are not warped by the world offer me a better chance at sanity in civie dating.  In the hobby, it is interesting as it seems that older women, in this hobby, seem quite sane to me.  One lady in particular, helped me understand my divorce and some of the reasons that it happened.  And while that lady no longer has a presence on TER - I am very grateful to her.  

Another thing that changes my perspective - as an older hobbiest, is the fact that I have young kids.  Those that know me, know that my life, right now revolves around them...  their tastes in music from Green Day to Red Hot Chili Peppers to Shakira to Black Eyed Peas...  from PSPs to MP3s to iPods, while not my tastes - are important to them.  Does this give me a younger perspective?  I would tend to think that it does... one thing constantly surprises me, is that when with the other parents of my kids' contemporaries - I am almost NEVER considered the oldest in the group.... (oh, one is a 3rd grader and one is a 6th grader)  and someone - usually 10 - 15 years younger is!  

My son and his pals - usually ask for me as a chaperone - not because I am easy - lord knows I am not... but because I do not talk down to the guys, but rather with them.  And ALL the kids know, that I am in touch with everyone...

so.... age, I have said it before I will say it again... it is a number - it is what is in your head and in your heart that determine how old you are....   recently a really pretty 30 something approached me... hinting for me to ask her out.... I asked her how old she thought I was... her response late 30s....   lol... I still chuckle over that one....  AND that was a civie so there was no "hidden (maybe not so hidden) agenda"  

I am fortunate as this is a trait that has run through my family for at least 3 generations that I know of.... but I also know that diet - exercise and avoiding some bad things help!  are providers "bad things"?  Based upon my own research, the research of others and various publications by the CDC - sex is actually good for you - as is human contact!  it is why we seek it out....  

and Kate.... for what it is worth...  life is not so serious.

-- Modified on 5/15/2006 2:40:04 PM

The sexual aspect of a date is something that normally ignores age differences. My only comment there is that often a younger lady doesn't like an older guy's tongue down her throat. Why that is, I have no idea.

For the social part of the date, think about what your grown children (if you have grown children) appreciate most from you - that you listen to them, and respect their point of view.

Find a provider that's wiser beyond her years. Seriously, a lady that can talk and can engage in conversation with almost anyone is probably what you're looking for. As for who that may be,I'd email them and see if they can hold their own in any kind of small talk let alone views on the world.

...some of the girls that I see are theoretically young enough to be my daughter, if I had a daughter that is. I really don't give it a second thought. Why should I? We are not dating or getting married?

If providers only saw clients who were closely matched to them then they would not get much work. An experienced escort, even one in her early twenties, may have clients from 18-80. It is paid sex, not a date, why care?

If you like to reciprocate as you put it, then stick to ladies 35+. There are plenty of fine escorts that age. But 99.9% of the time it is only going to be a job for the lady that you book, regardless of you or her age. A good escort will do the job well and a poor one wont.

-- Modified on 5/16/2006 7:32:30 AM

...take up golf instead, you'll have happier days.

...when I'm with a girl the same age (or younger) than my daughter. But I manage to prevail over my initial uneasyness once she looks up at me from between my legs, firmly ensconced on my shaft or when her eyes roll back and she begins to quiver.

You will relax with the girl you pick within 5 mins of her being there.  Just pick someone who is well reviewed.  That's what TER is for
Write back and let us know how you made out as well!  There are a lot of talented young ones out there!

I dunno-  I'll be queasy about that...

There are a lot of things about an older man that makes a woman attracted to him. Mostly, he has had so much more experience than she has, hence the experience is much more than it would be with a younger guy in that respect. An older man normally has more control over himself, and understands the dynamics of timing a lot more, generally speaking. Im sure there are plenty of other things you older guys can say about us younger women, and after youve sampled tell us about it

than the door opening... and either party stands there and says 3600 second until I can leave...  

If you read the reviews enough, you know in about the first 2 min, how the session is gonna go... either really well - or not so well at all....   Which is why I think my way of picking providers has changed....   seems to work better!

...yours is an interesting way of hobbying and one that I used to employ. I would read the reviews in depth and choose based on that. Funnily enough you would on occasion hear the same lines as had been relayed to and reported by other hobbyists. Amusing if nothing else.

That is fine and led me to some good experiences but over recent times I've preferred the unknown. Picking girls from reliable agencies but armed with little information except the website and typical pimp hype over the phone. The unknown is such a turn on though. What will she look like, will it go right, will it go wrong? That has recently lead to better sex since I feel differently.

Providers with hundreds of reviews, scrutinised on the net don't quite turn me on in the same way. It's a different buzz. Still, a few rip off's would probably soon cure that, lol.

and so far it is 100% accurate.