And guys wonder why some ladies refuse to do incall especially at their home and worry about stalkers.
What is it with some of us guys? Just showing up without having an appointment?
I recently had a session with one of my new favorites (if I ever say "ATF" in the present tense again, someone please slap me), during which her phone rang off the hook, often enough to suggest it was the same person trying to reach her. She never picked up, which I appreciated (actually, she never picks up during a session - a rare quality in my current pool of providers). This woman is a true GFE, who really makes you feel like a king. As a consequence, she has a string of admiring clients in varying stages of falling for her. I feel certain it was one of them on the other end of the phone.
Awhile later, as we lay in bed, basking in the warm afterglow, I heard someone on the porch. Hmmmm, could it be? Then a timid knock. My provider had fallen asleep in my arms and didn't hear it. A minute or two later, another knock, then silence. Sometime later she awakened when I got up to shower and go home. I checked her parking lot carefully when I finally got outside.
I've experienced this sort of thing before, especially with my former ATF (I said FORMER! The annoying thing was, she would always go check!). Other providers have mentioned this behavior too. Clients just showing up on their doorstep, unannounced and uninvited. Providers have a life too, including friends and family who visit and may not know what she does for a living.
What's with these guys, anyway??????
tact, and good manners. Nothing more, nothing less.
Yeah...incall..now that's a subject..
Number one, I'd LOVE to have an incall place, and recently posted something on the SD board about incall..but, last year, before I was part of a lay off (definitely different than getting laid, altho either way, you're f**ked) I was investigating buying a property to use just for incall. I was so excited..had so many plans for what a cozy, cool, little dream place I wanted it to be, but one thing I knew for certain - whatever I chose for incall, it would never be my place of residence. Just not safe enough for her, or for the clients. Can you imagine if the guy knocking at the door was some jealous (previous) client; a delusional stalker-type, and he loves her but wants to get rid of YOU!
Sometimes I'm envious of the ladies with incall, and then sometimes, I'm so glad I don't have the added possible situations. I'll have an incall location for one week only in the Fall
and that should be fun!
Be careful, buddy - these guys knocking on the door might be thinking only one thing - you've got what he wants, and you're the only thing in his way. Stay safe.
xo,
Sedona
And guys wonder why some ladies refuse to do incall especially at their home and worry about stalkers.
That's exactly why I would never offer incall at my home!
The provider that experiences this MUST tell the offending client that she will NEVER see him again. And then she must stick to this not matter what. Only then will they really learn.
What a scumbag! I agree that it is way too difficult to have incall at your residence. Perhaps for that client you have established a good relationship with, and you trust their character. But not just every Tom, Dick, and Harry.
Perhaps also having an apartment where guests must be buzzed in may help. But there are just too many socially-retarded men out there to risk it, in my opinion. For every 9 wonderful clients, there is 1 that has to ruin it for everybody.
Yes, some guys are just plain ol' nuts!!!
Stay safe, Shaye
He could be a client, just as you say, and thus really a pathetic loser.
Maybe he is a civilian (neighbor or met her casually) and is trying to break the ice to express interest. Or possibly worse as others have suggested.
Either way, if he's at the door knocking (and since you were mostly done with your visit), a simple "MAY I HELP YOU" in your male voice through the door probably would have sent him on his path.
I'm sure that ruined an otherwise good time, like flies or ants at a picnic.
Yeah, it could have been anything, but I've seen too much of this stuff, and I feel pretty sure it was one of her lovesick johns. My former ATF had some of those too (I guess that probably included me too, except I was "special"...right), including one that turned stalker, keyed my car and trashed hers.
As for what to do about it, I think I did the only thing I could do, just not respond. It's her house, her life. If I had said. "may I help you," etc., through the door, she may not have appreciated it. Sort of like interfering.
But it's not just these poor suckers. I'm also talking about the clients who just show up, like a provider's apartment is 24 hour convenience store. Maybe she should just install a bell to go off when someone walks in. Bing-Bong. Maybe they want service, maybe they they just "want to talk." It's still rude to just show up on ANYONE's doorstep like that. Some guys seem to think it doesn't apply to providers.
Right now Im kinda semi-retired, but when I was doing alot of incall that was neverending. I now live in a house in a quiet neighborhood and am not able to do too much incall at my place anymore, and when I come back to this industry full time, I don't think I will do it at my place for just anyone, thanks to the classless ones.
The other thing that is Very annoying to me that you also sorta mentioned are the ones that call back to back w/out leaving a message or giving time for us to call back if they do leave a message. Sometimes I forget to turn off my ringer or I dont turn it off on purpose sometimes and YES WE DO HAVE LIVES!!!
You are right though, alot of guys treat incall places like convienient stores, A couple times I would be in the shower and Id get out, and if my door wasnt locked, there were guys that would just walk on in, like its no biggie. That would Piss me off too at times. So I had to make sure I always locked my door. I mean Do these guys always just walk into other peoples homes like that? Hello?? A little Privacy here?
WE are Human, and we need advance notice, and to be treated like you treat the other Humans in the world. So if The Guys want to be treated with Class, then treat others with class.
Thats all....
XOXOXO
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