Sswede you've hit it right on the head. I've been with really attractive 21 year old providers who just want to F**K for as many times as I can do it in an hour. They connect with the little head, not the big head, and I don't go back.
The old business classes say that the Railroad industry screwed up in part because they thought they were in the train business. They were really in the transportation business, and needed to move with the technology and times.
People don't remember what you said, but they will always remember how you made them feel. For me, the providers aren't in the sex business. They're in the "total experience" business. Yep, we all want a sexual release, and none of the providers would stay in business without it. But the really good ones make the guys feel great on multiple levels.
sswede, i know your forthcoming "the hobby" will be a minor hit, especially if you can get interviews with two or four escorts with celebrity stories to tell.
being an escort is not like being a barber or a psychotherapist. the law and "morality" intrude in ways that distort the normal advertising, locating, quality control and customer referral aspects of a personal service business.
the fact that the poster claimed to know so much about the business operations of his minx suggests (or implies) that they had formed the kind of personal relationship (dogs, kids) you mention. but a long term relationship also implies a very special kind of client: for most men, i think, "hobbying" is an unexpected strain. the amount of money paid, the face to face deceptions, the scheduling tricks, the disease worries, the intrusive fantasies about the minx when she's not in your arms -- all that can get old really fast. is it really worth it, when a little wrist action and a hexachrome photo spread will get you the same release at a fraction of the cost and risk?
repeat relationships aren't founded on physical intimacy alone, they seem to require a complex bundle of sexual charm, personality, good grooming, conversation skills, common sense, therapeutic insight, role playing (impression management), health care expertise, compassion, empathy, and plain guts. the best of these ladies are marvelous, amazing, magical spirits. but how can you assign an importance weight to "looks" compared to "compassion"? multiple regression?
finally, this point hasn't been made clearly enough: to be effective, modern (statistical) business analysis assumes an extraordinary standardization of the market transaction -- product price, feature set, packaging, retail display, store location, buyer information, etc. (remember those tacky "standard hairstyle" charts that used to be common in barber shops?). but if you read *ethnographic* or economic anthropological studies of illicit markets or premodern markets, you discover that a tenable "business analysis" is much more elusive, because the same market standardization doesn't exist.
the standardization is made harder because the sex trade is in so many gray areas -- illegal but mostly unmolested by the law, a service (companionship) and a product (hot body), dependent on new customers but hoping for regulars, highly sensitive to moral and economic trends ... make your own list. a fixed business analysis may not be possible -- the sex trade may simply be a *historical* fact, evolving toward new opportunities and succumbing to new obstacles in an ad hoc, open ended, unpredictable way.
in my experience that perspective catches very well the spirit of the best of these ladies, who feel empowered to take control of their lives, take command of their opportunities, put their assets to good use, have an impact on people, attain high standards in their skills, and write their own future. yes, the "full service script" and sound operating principles make a difference. but only marxists believe that history is an economic problem.
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, but they will always remember how you made them feel' niiiice