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because a man can say whatever he wants to a woman and yet back pedal and say another thing (( (((((((((((((((((((((((((((((((( But my question to you is why would a man say one thing and do say something totally different the next? Why not tell her the truth that she is buttugly? Why not walk out and leave? why stay???????? That way you are saving your money not wasting it on someone who is just a 6 when you can go out with someone who is a 8-10.
but to me why sleep with someone that you are not attracted to? lol lets not kid ourselves here..we all have to be attracted to something right? In my civilian life I need to be attracted to whomever I may date. On this board I read posts by men needing to be attractive more than what goes on in the bedroom. My reviews come up as seven and eights. I have tons of eights. I am rated high when figuring out the average. I can understand that not everyone is attracted to everyone but wouldn't that tell the average man out there if I am not his beauty queen to cancel the appt. and be with someone who is more attractive to his needs? Also I give my best to each appt. I shower, I get nicely dressed, I provide the beverages, I provide the incall locations, I perfume just nicely, I get a manicure, pedicure, I get all dolled up, and it all feels like a big waste. I know that I shouldn't read my reviews I know that there will be times when it's the ymmv moment. But I feel like a failure if I am giving it my all with all of the "glamour" added to it and that it was not good enough for him. Yes, he rated me high in performance but to get that 6 was like being compared to a streetwalker walking around and I am above that! I've been called attractive since I was a little girl. Infact I get hit on all the time when I am out in the civilian world. I have been approached on many occassions to do nude modeling and video. I know that to some men that a 6 means kosher but to us females it means the death of a career (to some women). Men are visual. They need feminine beauty. I would rather have the guy be honest and say that I am just mildly attracted to you can we call this off? I would have more respect for a guy who actually would do that than to continue on a charade proclaiming all these adjectives that do not exist in his head. As for this guy, yes he wants to see me again but I would feel that it is fake. I would not feel right seeing him again knowing that he found me just below average.
I don't want you to feel that I am not grateful for your words!!! I am truly! I am just getting my frustrations out. So please bear with me, as I do. Now you are seeing how some women think (NOT ALL!) but some LOL
I think that I will be taking time off for a bit. That is probably what I need. I think when it starts getting to a point where I couldnt be touched by a man right now or see one, it's bad (( LOL I do want to say thanks again.
Signed
Uglyduckingmaybetoturnintoaswanagain
Now you know why some actors don't read reviews. No matter how sincere they can really sting. And, much like acting, since the hobby is so intimate it's hard not to take them personally.
That said, let me echo what many here have already observed. First, it's just one guys opinion and as any veteran of these boards knows men's opinions vary wildly, so I wouldn't dwell on it too long. Right or wrong maybe he has a very high standard, maybe Julia Roberts is a 7 on his scale.
But the bottom line is he picked you, he was happy enough with your appearance to want to see you again, so he must have been attracted to you. (Hey for all you know he could have meant to enter 7 or 8 and hit 6 by accident.) In any case you can't let external forces dictate your happiness. Do and be your best and derive your happiness from that. It doesn't matter what anyone else thinks. In the mean time stop reading your reviews. 
As Orthodx said, six is hardly "butt ugly". However, I know that as TER scores seven as "attractie", the implication is that anything below a seven is "unattractive". I personally thing the rating system is screwed up and needs to be altered, but I will take that up with "the management" on my own time.
As for you, take a deep breath. We are all in the dark as to how established of a provider you are. I myself have seen women who were rated way lower than you (3 or 4, and not just once), and I thought that was ridiculous. However, it goes to show the subjectivity of "rating".
Before I address that, let me reply to something you said. You asked why he would stay. Singleton said it very well when he said that having sex that is not exactly what you expected is better than whacking off by yourself any day. You also asked why he would say one thing and do another (in his review). Well, because the better he made you feel when you were together, the better you would fuck him. That may sound
way cynical, but it isn't, necessarily. I mean, what are you going to say: "Dang, you just aren't up to snuff...sorry." How would you have felt then? In his mind, I am sure a six is not that bad of a score, just not "hot". He probably enjoyed the experience very well, yet, in your minjd, because you are "less than attractive" because of the score, you can't understand how.
The bottom line here is that being a provider is walking a thin line in many areas. This happens to be one of them, because you are selling your looks and your sexual and social prowess. It isn't like you are selling a pencil that, if it works, there it is. Everything around what you are doing is subjective. I thought it was exceedingly cruel for guys to give women who I saw and thought were certainly nice, if not attractive, like I saw them, a three or a four, but if you are a provider, you ve no choice but to try and not let it get to you. If Britney Spears or Jennifer Lopez were providers, even they would not get all tens (right, Singleton? 
. The fact that one guy gave you a "nice" is understandably hard to swallow when you want to think you are fulfilling guys fantasies here, but as we all know, life is full of disappointments.
If you are a good provider, and you have good customers, and you get pretty good reviews for the most part (and a nine performance is nothing to just dismiss, my dear), you ned to focus on those customers and be thankful that they appreciate what you have to offer, and continue to rock their (and anyone else who can appreciate what you give) world. That is all you can do, in the long run.
Just so you know, women are not the only ones who get judged on looks (although more than men, of course). I have dated for many years, and many of my dates were through personals, whether online or in papers. I have been told a few times that "there wasn't any chemistry"...which is a cop out way of saying the woman wasn't attracted to me. Conversely, some women have found me very attractive (and I have recommended each one of them to an optometrist!). Rejection is hard for anyone, and in your business, you are putting yourself on the line for it.
If you can give a performance nine to a gu who thinks that you are just "nice" looking, I would encourage you not to retire, not only because I think others will feel better about you, but also because we need all the good providers out there that we can get! However, you need to take a good look at what you are feeling, and come to a point where you can take this more lightly, or it will really make it difficult. It is bound to happen again (no matter what you look like). I think you should do the things that make you feel sexiest, give the best you feel comfortable giving, and remind yourelf that this business is a means to an end, and enjoy the good people that you do meet.
Hope that helps. Good luck.
Well, the client just stopped by my hotel room, and I gave him his money back. We sat down and talked. I am glad that we did, for I ended up really liking him as a person more. He did feel bad about the whole episode. I explained to him that the next woman that he should see, he should listen more to himself, and not try to put her on some pedastal during the heat of the moment, for she may seriously take it to heart. He explained to me that at the present time, I was and still am attractive to him, and he would like to see me again. The funny thing is that I wanted to give him his money back and we argued a bit about that. I had to explain to him that my pride was more important at the moment than the money. He ended up understanding that in the end, and taking his money back. Our meeting was actually very nice and relaxed But, I also explained to him that I could never see him again and I have some friends who may be better for him. In the end we parted off as just friends. I want to say thank you for everyone's input in all of this. Even to those who were a nay. Most of all I do thank Sedona and some of the other beautiful ladies out here, and to the countless of men who for one moment put themselves in a woman's shoes.
ButtUglyisbeautifulthewaysheis.
it's apparent that you and I both see things differently. But please do not try to tell me how I should feel as a person. I would never do that to you. If you read my update, the matter has been resolved, and I am glad that I had the chance to sit down with him and talk it out. Actually, it was the best thing to do I am a human being first and then I am a woman and then I am an escort. Please remember as human beings we ALL have emotions. Some people deal with them differently than others do. Please do not ever say that my emotions to this situation was not warranted (or hint at it), for my emotions make a part of who I am as a person. I am a very nice, respectful, caring, sensitive person, and I have feelings like everyone else in the world. If you are upset with how the ending went to this scenario, then that is your issue to deal with, for I have just dealt with mine.
Thanks.